Married life will not always be smooth sailing, bumps and bumps are inevitable. There will be five periods of emotional vulnerability in marriage, it depends on how you deal with it. So what are the five barriers to marriage? Let’s introduce it to you in detail below.

1 year after marriage

After a year of marriage, the two began to face the trivial reality, and each other's shortcomings were also exposed. If they are not mentally prepared, the life of daily necessities and daily necessities may make people feel uncomfortable. Wang Guorong, senior supervisor of Suzhou Junge Psychological Counseling Center, pointed out that couples should understand before marriage that marriage is not a paradise, have a full understanding of the psychological gap after the honeymoon period, and learn to be tolerant of their lovers.

Wife’s pregnancy

The one-year pregnancy period will inevitably bring about "sexual crisis", and some men may cheat due to physiological needs. To avoid this situation, couples must have a scientific understanding of sexual life during pregnancy, avoid the dangerous early and late stages of pregnancy, and master good techniques. Secondly, we must strengthen communication and let the child in the belly become an emotional bond.

The baby was just born

After the child is born, the couple's attention is focused on the child, and their sex life is greatly reduced. Coupled with the hard work of taking care of the child and financial pressure, the relationship between the couple is easily strained. You can ask your elders to help take care of the children, and you should also face the problem of the declining quality of the couple's sexual life.

The seven-year itch

At this time, the satisfaction of both parties with the marriage has dropped to the lowest point, which is the most dangerous period for extramarital affairs. Experts suggest that couples should learn to adapt to the dullness of marriage, treat it rationally, and at the same time actively create opportunities to rediscover the passion of the past, and never blame each other. Tolerance and understanding are the most precious things between husband and wife during this period.

Middle age

At this time, the wife enters menopause and becomes irritable, and the husband's energy also decreases, which invisibly affects the quality of the marriage. At this time, if the body changes and sexual problems cannot be faced, the lover is likely to look for new passions from other members of the opposite sex. Therefore, caring about each other's physical changes and talking about your sexual problems can help you get through the dangerous period.

Two tips for creating a sweet marriage

Most men follow the creed of "Don't ask, don't talk" consciously or unconsciously. No matter how curious they are about a woman's mysterious past, or how anxious they are about the inscrutable nature of a woman's psychology, they will try their best to tolerate it and keep calm. remain silent. What are the two tips for creating a sweet marriage?

The first move: stand out from the crowd

Men are naturally not arrogant with inflated egos. But in fact, many men always worry about whether they can meet the standards because they don't know whether they behave properly when seeking sex. Every man hopes to have the ability to give his woman the greatest physical and mental satisfaction through his own anger. Men will do anything for this.

But the problem is, what men have to admit is that many times they don't quite understand what it all means. Therefore, men are often either messing around in the bedroom like a wild horse, or they are at a loss in bed like a goose.

Secret technique for winning a battle: A woman must first let her husband understand that he is your invincible warrior. Whether rightly or wrongly, men tend to associate their power with their ability to give women happiness and joy. Therefore, if a woman feels that men are just eager perverts, then it is certain that her husband will feel that the relationship between husband and wife is hopeless. But if a woman can tell him gently in her ear that his performance can always make you satisfied like never before, then besides his wife, he will definitely make you his lifelong confidant.

Secondly, knowing what men want to know can help women solve some of the awkwardness when men have sex with women. Remember, the subtext in a man's heart is not "Lie to me about how strong I am." It's "For the sake of all being holy, please ease my mental tension and find a way to tell me what to do." Only you can enjoy the fun, but don’t scare me.”

It is undeniable that moderate praise from women can break the ice wall that separates each other. As a wife, you may wish to suggest that your man adopt a new attitude to try a new taste. After all, sex is a matter between two people. Effective communication, appropriate praise, and trying suggestions are an encouragement and necessity for the husband, and they are also a responsibility and obligation for the wife.

The second move: Ambush from all sides

In fact, no matter how rich and stylish a man is, he will always lack confidence and will inevitably worry about whether his woman will flirt or date other men behind his back. Men are always somewhat lacking in self-confidence.

This kind of stinginess in men, whether it is due to the remnants of thousands of years of feudal thought or due to their own psychological and physiological characteristics, is already an outdated thought or behavior. Of course, women hope that men can abandon it as soon as possible. But every change of things from old to new must be a gradual process, and women’s expectations should not and cannot be too high.

In fact, deep down in the hearts of many men, they always hope to prove that they are attractive enough. If a woman can remain loyal in the long run of love, it is more important to men than anything else.

Secret trick: The wife should clearly tell her husband that he is the most popular person in the team he is in. Although men always pretend to be nonchalant, they actually feel the greatest satisfaction in their hearts. Men usually rarely hear praise or compliments at work, so wives should tell their husbands often and as early as possible how handsome, cool, and sexy he is, and how difficult it is for you to leave him.

As for the husband's same-sex friends, it is best for the wife to remain silent. This is just like the problem between Ares and Venus: in Venus' view, words like "cute" can be commonly used to describe any sexy or non-sexy individual, while in Ares's limited vocabulary, "Cuteness" can only be reserved for people with special relationships. Don't be ambiguous with your husband's same-sex friends, and don't say that one of his friends has a "very standard figure" or "needs to keep doing bodybuilding to stay in shape" and other similar words, because although these are facts, they are not what men want to hear. of.