In the relationship between the sexes, men have the gene of lovemaking in their bones. It can be said that not many men will refuse beautiful women. It is precisely because of this that in many marriages and families, men have the highest frequency of cheating. Let's take a look at how a smart woman can discover in time whether her man has cheated on her.

"I love you" is missing

It seemed like I hadn't heard him say the words "I love you" for a long time. When you ask him to say "I love you" to you, he no longer says it softly to you with doting eyes, which makes you feel embarrassed and boring.

You are no longer cute if you act coquettishly

When we first get to know each other, a woman's coquettishness will always win the man's loving eyes. But after they cheated, this feeling will never be found again. At this time, you have become unreasonable after acting like a baby, and you will never be that "cute" again.

Sleeping position begins "back to back"

She was still lying on the same bed as when she got married, and the passion she once had was now beyond recognition. At this time, he no longer hugs you when sleeping, and lies down to sleep with his back to you. He doesn't care about what you are thinking about and doesn't bother to think about it.

Making love has become "making love"

No matter how tempting you are, he is not interested in you now. He has no choice but to do errands in the future, but he can no longer find the feeling he had when he was just married.

I don’t care about your sadness

Now the man in front of you has become cold and heartless. When you are sad, he will no longer come to you to comfort you, nor will he ask you why you are unhappy. He will only focus on his own affairs.

"Little Treasury" lined up

Men who cheat will start to do things with money. They started to have private money, and they used a lot of nonsense when looking for excuses. They tried every means to find excuses to provide a strong economic foundation for their selfish desires.

I can no longer "see" your tiredness

It was obvious that you were exhausted after get off work after a tiring day, but he no longer felt sorry for you as before. He started to turn a blind eye to your tiredness, either not seeing it or pretending not to see it.

His memory deteriorated instantly

The things he promised you are now suddenly forgotten. You cried and asked him why he forgot to buy you a birthday gift, but he innocently said that he forgot because he was too busy. Maybe you really forgot. What if the man who cheated on you didn't forget your birthday?

The biggest proof that a man has changed his mind is that you are no longer important. If a woman can't save this relationship, she should let go of the other person and liberate herself at the appropriate time.

Men can't hide secrets, so if you want to know whether your man is loyal to you, you need to learn to observe changes in their details, because as long as they cheat, they will definitely change. If you want to run your own marriage well, you need to be smart and rational enough, and never mess up your own sense of proportion.

Why do men love extramarital affairs

Men become bad when they have money, and women become rich when they become bad. This saying is a classic passed down by many netizens. In fact, for men, extramarital affairs are faced by many men, especially men with successful careers, and many men are even proud of it. So what is the above? What causes this kind of psychology in men?

One is curiosity. Everyone has curiosity, and when it comes to sex, men are more adventurous. If explored only between couples, it will add color to a legitimate sex life. However, some men with weak self-control ability will engage in extramarital sex when attracted by the unknown mystery such as "If my wife is like this, what will other women be like?" If he finds that having sex with other women is no different than having sex with his wife, or is not as good as his wife, and may also cause some trouble, then he may stop it. If he finds that the taste of "wild flowers" is indeed different, and he has a certain financial ability or charm, he may be addicted to it.

The second is risk-taking psychology. The last two sentences in the so-called "A wife is not as good as a concubine, a concubine is not as good as a maid, and a maid is not as good as a thief" are a portrayal of the adventurous mentality. Men are usually more adventurous than women. If used in married life, they may be able to create some new tricks or spice up their married life. But it will cause problems if used on other women. Some men may return to their families when they encounter setbacks in their sexual adventures, such as sexual dysfunction, contracting or fear of sexually transmitted diseases. Some men enjoy taking risks, which is dangerous. There are also some men who can only obtain sexual pleasure or extraordinary sexual feelings through sexual adventures, and they may commit repeated offences.

The third is to conquer the psychology. Both men and women have the desire to conquer. When a man is in love, he chases the woman, or the woman takes the man under her skirt, which is the satisfaction of the conquest mentality. After getting married, some men will conquer other women to satisfy their desire to conquer in order to show their ability, to find self-confidence, or because they are lustful.

The fourth is compensation psychology. The causes of compensatory psychology in men are as follows: (1) The wife is unable to satisfy her husband due to sexual dysfunction, psychosexual disorder, injury or other reasons, or is unwilling to satisfy her husband due to wrong sexual concepts, and even resorts to sexual punishment as a solution. means of marital conflict. (2) The wife may be in bad shape or appearance, or may be old or disabled, or may be disabled due to injury or illness, etc. (3) A wife is domineering and vicious, which seriously damages her husband's self-esteem and easily causes her husband to be tempted by external tenderness, which may lead to sexual relations or even marriage. (4) The husband’s sexual desire is too strong and the wife cannot satisfy it.

The fifth is revenge mentality. Sexual revenge due to his wife Hongxing cheating, or not being a virgin, or having been toyed with by women in the past, in order to seek psychological balance.

Sixth is the competitive mentality. On some occasions, when a friend is having sex, it would be too embarrassing to shrink back, and the result would be a loss of face; or under the bet or instigation of others, one may act forcefully.

Seventh is the psychology of being coerced. If you go to a pornographic place with your boss and your boss gets in on it, you will inevitably lose the trust of your boss if you don't do it, so you have to go along with it.

Eight is animal instinct. Most animals do not practice "monogamy", and humans also have this animal attribute in their nature; when social constraints do not work, the true colors of animals will be revealed. For example, when other women actively pursue and seduce him, he cannot withstand the test of throwing himself into his arms, and eventually loses his virginity, loses his integrity, etc.