Suppose you have a perfect family now, and your netizen also has his own warm harbor. Online chatting has made you so close to each other that you have even expressed emotions such as "You hate me for being born early, but I hate you for being born late" and "I wish we could meet each other before we were married." Well, I want to remind you: Don’t have the idea of ​​​​changing ships mid-stream. The sea is vast, and there are many unique and beautiful ships, big and small! What should you do if you change one boat and meet a better one right away? Can it be exchanged? It's better to cherish the love you already have. Although the old boat has some vicissitudes, you are familiar with its performance.

The following story may inspire you:

The husband took out all the savings he had accumulated for more than a year and bought Xiaoyu a computer. Xiaoyu almost jumped with excitement. Not long after, Xiaoyu went online and became obsessed with the Internet. She posted in the forum because some of her manuscripts were rejected, and she felt quite unconvinced, so she posted all the rejected manuscripts on BBS. Unexpectedly, she received rave reviews. The sincere praise from netizens made Xiaoyu suffer from the editorial department. The battered writing confidence has been somewhat "repaired."

Netizens continue to write to Xiaoyu about Yi Meier, or directly go to QQ to chat. Of course, many of them express their love explicitly or implicitly. But Xiaoyu refused them all and told them frankly that she was married. Xiaoyu has a good husband, and she thought it would be too retarded for her to keep such a good husband and love netizens who don't know whether they are human or ghosts.

But Xiaoyu eventually fell in love with a member of the opposite sex, who was the editor of a newspaper.

They met online, and apart from saying hello, they also chatted for a few words. At first, they talked about the manuscript, and then they talked about everything... Xiao Yu was afraid of this ambiguity. Xiaoyu became determined and didn't go online for a full month. During this period, she received an email from him, asking her why she hadn't appeared online for so long.

Xiaoyu felt disappointed and tried to stay with her husband to eliminate her boredom, but found that she was unknowingly comparing him with her husband, and the result was that her husband was far less individual and humorous than him.

Two months later, he called Xiaoyu and told her that he was on a business trip to Xiaoyu's city. Xiaoyu agreed to meet. Xiaoyu had a premonition that something was going to happen, but she went anyway. Sure enough, after closing the door, he hugged Xiaoyu into his arms... After walking out of the hotel, Xiaoyu realized how fragile the last line of defense he thought he could hold was.

She felt herself falling, from spiritual betrayal to physical betrayal like a free fall... Platonic spiritual love is such a self-deceptive idea.

Xiaoyu found herself madly in love with him, and they still secretly dated. But it didn't take long for Xiaoyu to find out that he was sick. I went to the hospital for a checkup and found out it was syphilis. Xiaoyu didn't let her husband touch her, but it was too late, and her husband also contracted syphilis. Facing her husband who was furious with the test form, Xiaoyu could only say "I'm sorry" repeatedly.

He passed this disease on to himself! But when Xiaoyu found him, "Could you have contracted it first? Who else do you have besides me?" He actually asked. Xiaoyu shouted: "You know what's going on best in your heart." He remained silent.

Xiaoyu said: "I want a divorce." He said it was impossible for him to get a divorce. Xiaoyu told him again that she was pregnant. He exclaimed that the disease was contagious! Take it off quickly.

Xiao Yu said nothing more. Before leaving, he handed her a stack of money and asked Xiaoyu to go to the hospital for treatment. Xiaoyu put down the money, saying that she could still afford the money for medical treatment. He picked up the money and said, "You don't want this for yourself. Don't say I didn't compensate you in the future." Xiao Yu turned around and left him, finally seeing through this playboy's face.

When I got home, I discovered that my husband was no longer there. The fact that he had syphilis somehow got known to people in the work unit, and people talked about it a lot, but he didn't say a bad word about Xiao Yu, and silently accepted all the blaming looks. The husband quickly completed the resignation procedures and went out to work.

This online affair was like a "virus" to her. Thinking of the little life that disappeared, Xiaoyu couldn't help but blame herself, but it seemed that she could only choose this thorough "formatting" method to eliminate the virus.

Marriage sewers must be cleared in time

Marriage is actually just like the sewer, it is blocked! After taking off the gorgeous wedding dress, the romance of love gradually transforms into the daily necessities of marriage, the sweet words on the pillow also transform into complaints at the table, care turns into suspicion, longing turns into boredom, and love without understanding and communication becomes blocked. The stones in their hearts accumulated over time and finally became completely clogged, just like the sewer in the kitchen, showing the seriousness of the problem in a shocking and obvious way.

Looking back on the time when we were passionately in love, even if he was wrong in all kinds of ways, even if she was unwilling to do anything about it, under his gentle words and her tenderness, all the big things turned into small things, and the small things turned into nothingness and became the beauty of ordinary life. embellishment. But after entering into marriage, there are no soft words, no tenderness, grievances, depression, anger... all the emotional garbage is poured into one's heart. Can this heart not be blocked and panic?

Marriage, a woman’s lifelong lesson

Some people say that marriage allows women to start a new life. Diana's marriage allowed us to witness a modern fairy tale of Cinderella and Prince Charming. However, the reality begins from the end of the fairy tale, and tears and tragedy become the comma and full stop of this story.

Some people also say that the most important thing in a woman’s life is marriage. Often at various award ceremonies, we will hear affectionate confessions: Thank you to the other half of my life. He usually shares difficulties with me. I shared the glory... With tears streaming down my face, everyone in the audience witnessed the charming colors of a happy marriage.

Many people remember Zhang Ailing’s famous saying about marriage: There are two women in a man’s life, a red rose and a white rose. Whether he marries a red rose or a white rose, the final outcome is the same—poetry and love. of dissolution. Perhaps by keeping distance and being single, you can maintain your charm and mystery; by not belonging to a certain person, you can gain the favor of more people and get more help from the opposite sex, and you can be more relaxed and one step ahead of others.

Indeed, as rich as desires and temptations are, the choice becomes more difficult. The charm of life lies in uniqueness and other people's answers. Even if there are more, it may not be suitable for you. The beauty of life lies in investment. What does marriage mean to a woman? How can she understand it if she doesn’t have a marriage? What's more, sweetness and sadness, patience and relief, gain and loss are often closely related by flesh and blood in marriage, growing with each other and cannot be separated.

Entering the marriage family and carefully caring for the flowers and fruits of love and dreams are our lifelong lessons.