Every time I talk to my classmates and friends about what happened between me and my husband, they all say it’s my fault and that I’m too strong because I always feel wronged by marrying him, so I want to If you lose your temper, you lose your temper, leaving no face for him. Is this really the case? But he is indeed not as good as me. He is not as good as me in everything. In terms of family conditions, his parents have no money and are divorced. In terms of work, I am a civil servant and he is an ordinary company employee. Anyway, I am better than him in everything. Back then, my family If I don’t agree, why can’t he marry me just because I want him to be nice to me and go my own way without bothering with him about anything? But now, he did something sorry for me, and I tried my best to redeem him, but he pretended to be with me instead. I met my husband when I graduated from college. I guess it was because I was confused about the future. I happened to meet him, and he was very kind to me. Anyway, as long as he could accompany me every day, I would be with him. My parents are in business, and my family is not short of money. When they learned that I had found a boyfriend whose conditions were very different from mine, they were particularly opposed to it. But we have cooked the raw rice into cooked rice, so they can only accept it.

When we got married, except for a little money from his mother, his father didn’t even take care of it. Then our family is marrying a girl, so my family can’t prepare a house or anything else. He doesn’t have money to buy a house, so he has to rent a house. I have never suffered like this since I was a child. I didn't agree to rent a house and wanted him to move to my house and live with my parents, but he didn't agree and said he didn't want to live under someone else's roof. How could this be living under someone else’s roof? This is my home. He is married to me. Isn’t my home his home? Anyway, I just didn’t want to rent a house, so I let him figure it out. In the end, he obeyed me and moved into my house.

However, there is one thing I may have done wrong. Every time we quarreled, I shouted to him very loudly, saying that this was not his house and that he should get out of my house. go out. But I didn't mean it either. When people are angry, of course they just pick out unpleasant things to say. No one does it intentionally. Also, as long as I am a little dissatisfied, no matter where I am, I will get angry. Even on the street, I am the same. I can still take action and slap him. He also said that this is him. The most unacceptable part is that I slapped him in the face.

But we have always lived a noisy life like this. How could he tolerate it in the past, but now he can’t? He also said that it was because I treated him like this that he did something sorry for me.

I discovered something was wrong with him. It was during this period of time that we bought our own house. Because we had to renovate it and so on, we quarreled more fiercely than before. Once, when my mother saw us arguing like that, she asked me if I still thought about it. She said that if I did, I would live well, and if I didn't, I would divide the family property. I was so angry at the time that of course I couldn't give in. Of course I had to say that I didn't want to let it go. As for him, he agreed immediately.

Then divide the family property, who is afraid of whom! ? I took out paper and pen and sorted out everything from our wedding to the present, which things were his and which were mine. Even an electric kettle, I had to figure out who belonged to it. As for the money, when we got married, His family didn’t contribute much money, and this little deposit was also shared by us after we got married. Anyway, I listed them one by one on the paper in great detail. He took the list I made, looked at it, and went out without saying anything.

The next day, my anger had subsided, so I told my classmates about our quarrel and separation. As a result, my classmates not only did not stand on my side, but also severely punished me. After I told them, I asked other friends, and other friends also said it was my fault, saying that a couple should not file for divorce every time they quarrel, let alone always think that they have good conditions.

Is this really the case? Even he said the same thing about our family. Not only do I look down on him, but my parents also look down on him. My parents always criticize him and always blame his family for not getting money when we got married. He said that every time he heard such words, he wanted to find a crack in the ground to crawl into, but I couldn't figure it out. His family didn't get any money in the first place, so why didn't they say it was okay?

Later, my classmates and friends who knew what happened to me all said that the fault was with me. I thought that maybe I was wrong, so I tried to win him back. In the end, we had a very serious dispute over the division of property. The matter will be settled.

However, even though he never mentioned the divorce to me again, I still feel that he is no longer as good to me as before.

Women’s intuition is sometimes very accurate. Since then, I have noticed his changes.

First of all, his phone bill suddenly increased. He is a person with very simple social relationships and only has a few friends. If his phone bill suddenly increased, there must be something wrong. I checked his phone number again and found that he never deleted text messages before, but now he deletes them completely before going home every day. I have a quick temper and won't beat around the bush, so I asked him directly.

At first, he refused to admit it, but later he admitted it. He said that he did know a woman, but it was just a phone call. He said that it was that time when we had a quarrel that I wanted to separate from him, and we divided the property so finely that he was so sad. He said that every time we quarreled, I felt like a completely different person. He could never imagine that we had been together for six years, how could I be so cruel to him? The eyes are fierce.

I said: "What's that? You talk so much to a strange woman, but you have nothing to say to me? Don't you know who your wife is?" He said, because I talk to a strange woman. He always spoke as if he was lecturing his son. He couldn't say anything together, so he could only get scolded, but that woman was different. At least she could speak calmly, and the woman respected him.

I asked again: "Then what do you usually tell her? Can you make seven or eight calls a day?" He said that he didn't say anything, it was the thing he and I always quarreled about, that woman She is very nice and mature. She always advises him and can always speak to his heart and make him feel warm.

At that time, I became angry when I heard this and asked him to call the woman in front of me. Only in this way could he prove that there was nothing between them. At first, he said that he could not contact her. But later, under my repeated insistence, he still called. As soon as the call came through, the woman answered the call. As a result, I snatched the phone from his hand and asked the woman how they did it. Know him? But when the woman heard it was me, she didn't say anything at first, and then hung up the phone. When I called again, she stopped answering. After a while, the woman sent a message saying that she no longer wanted to interfere with our husband and wife's affairs from now on. She didn't want us to affect her own family, and she hoped we would stop disturbing her.

However, with my temper, of course, this matter cannot be settled like this. I told my parents what happened again, and my parents asked him to call the woman in front of them. As a result, when he called, a man answered the phone and told him that he had called the wrong one. If he called again, he would turn off his phone. , it will stop if you try again.

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I asked my mother what to do, and my mother said, if I want to continue, I should do it with my eyes closed. But I couldn't let it go and kept pestering him about it. He asked me if I could forgive him for this mental derailment and if I could trust him again. I didn't say anything.

What I didn’t expect was that he moved out of the house in the past few days and left me the key to the house. What did he mean? But is that enough? Divorce? My father and mother took turns calling him and asking him to go home, but he actually said that he was too tired. It is said that his parents divorced when he was a child, and he has never received the love of his parents. When he grows up, he does not expect to have a life of fine clothes and fine food, but only wants to have a warm home. But now, he has a family as if he doesn't have a family. His parents don't care about him, and I even torture him. People who are important to him ignore him, and he is like this.

When I heard him say this, I felt sour in my heart, but could this be the reason for him to betray me? He is now living in a small hotel outside, and of course I still miss him. Maybe, I did something wrong again this time? But is he justified? If he says he's tired, he can suddenly hide from me, can he just shut down his phone just by saying he's tired? He doesn't know that he can't be found, will I be anxious?

He keeps asking me if I can still trust him, what can I say? That you believe him? I still feel uncomfortable! If you don't believe him, will he never come back, stay in a hotel, or simply get divorced? He also said that he was afraid that even if I forgave him, when we quarreled again in the future, I might have to tell these things and settle old scores with him endlessly.

What to do? I don’t know it myself, but my mother said that when the family property was divided last time, she could tell that he had no intention of living with me anymore. How else could he agree in one fell swoop? But he also said that it was what I did that made him so sad. Of course I still have nostalgia for him and can't let him go, but now he wants to come back and sometimes doesn't want to come back. Is he also hesitant? So what's the reason for his hesitation? Does he still love me? Did he think of me again because he couldn't get in touch with that woman? Is there any other purpose? Otherwise, when I told him that he had to give me his salary card before he came back, why didn't he want to give it to me?

Notes: After all, most of the conflicts between husband and wife are just over trivial matters. We are already married, and our lives have passed, but we still keep arguing about whose family received more money, which family received less money, and who had better conditions than the other. Apart from just increasing the rift, it really does nothing. Something that makes sense and is unwise.

If you ask me to say that this problem is due to overestimating yourself, God knows, if we really want to change the so-called conditions and stand out everywhere, it may not be ours, and we may not be tolerated. Woolen cloth? Besides, there is no such thing as a do-over in life? No matter where you go or how you go, you have to think about living a better life, right?

If you bully others without any restraint or restraint just because you have some wealth, then no matter who it is you will run away.

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