There is a saying in "Jade Guanyin": A woman's purity depends on her personality and soul, not her past. Every woman hopes to love only one man in her life, but not every woman is so lucky to meet her MR.Right for the first time. If a woman does not meet her MR.Right in her first marriage, then she is likely to get out of a failed marriage and become a "second-hand woman" that is despised by others.

Second-hand women, like most ordinary women, were once addicted to raging love. Perhaps they did not practice enough, and in the end they failed to achieve positive results. But no one can deny that they are steel that has been tempered thousands of times, they are phoenixes after nirvana, they are pearls that have been polished round and delicate by life.

However, some conservative and even ignorant thoughts in Chinese culture for thousands of years have made it impossible for most second-hand women to stand upright like second-hand men in modern society. They do not have the courage to openly admit that they are "second-hand". They are afraid of others pointing fingers behind their backs, and they are afraid of hearing words like "this woman is divorced" from others. Second-hand woman, her pain and sorrow cannot be understood by those who have not experienced it.

The popularity of second-hand men is a blessing for men. In fact, men are still men, but after accidentally becoming second-hand, their worth suddenly rises, and they gradually become more popular. Men have always been the best in the world of marriage. Whether it is a first marriage or a second marriage, there is no need to worry about not being able to find a wife. Once a woman gets divorced and becomes "second-hand", she not only faces the risk of not being as good as before when she remarries, but sometimes she also bears too much infamy. Insulting posts such as "Don't marry second-hand goods" and "I can't find a wife, I want someone else's used one" are common on the Internet.

Second-hand men are easy to marry, but second-hand women are difficult to marry. This is a common problem in today's society. What is extremely dramatic is that when a man and a woman compete on the same stage, it is the woman who wins. In the world of emotions or marriage, men live more and more individualistically, becoming more and more like themselves, while women live less self-consciously and more for others. This self-sacrifice spirit of women has become the source of tragedy in many women's lives, but men are extremely happy because of it.

In real life, the different lifestyles of men and women subconsciously cause deviations and asymmetries in the values ​​of men and women, at least in secular value judgments. The world is always tolerant of men. Even if a man keeps a mistress, cheats, or engages in spiritual love, the blame he will bear is much lower than if a woman cheats on her. If a man is willing to give up his mistress outside and return to the family, and if a woman refuses to forgive, then he is ignorant of good and evil.

Men actually have more choices and escape routes when they are flirting with women outside, but women who are infatuated and single-minded can only wander on a one-way street. In history, after many great derailments or abandonments were interpreted by men as earth-shattering love, people often praised the heroes and heroines in the stories and could only express sympathy for the abandoned women.

The romantic and talented Yuan Zhen may be the model of an infatuated man in the hearts of many women. His words "It used to be difficult to make water, except for Wushan, it is not clouds" has moved countless men and women over the years. What can express the meaning of "eternity" better than "It was once difficult to change the sea"? The person who can write such a poem must also be a deeply affectionate person. However, people are not necessarily as written as they are written. Yuan Zhen's countless confessions and all kinds of regrets were only reflected in his pen.

From Cui Yingying to Wei Cong, and even Xue Tao, all the women around Yuan Zhen were attracted by his talent and hurt by his ruthlessness. Three years after Yuan Zhen captured Cui Yingying's heart, he betrayed Yingying for his future and married Wei Cong, the daughter of Prince Shaobao. Wei Cong, who was originally a daughter of a famous family, grew up in fine clothes and fine food, and had many maids and servants. After marrying Yuan Zhen, he was willing to share hardships with Yuan Zhen and live a life of poverty. If it were just material misery, I believe Wei Cong could endure it, but what she endured was more of a mental depression. After Yuan Zhen got married, he was busy with his official career and became more and more indifferent to his wife. He even sometimes vented his unsatisfactory career on his wife. Wei Cong, who has been familiar with the Women's Classics since childhood, is more tolerant than anything else. This is the requirement of traditional Chinese culture for women: A man's target is the society outside the family, and all a woman can do is to be sincere to her husband and cater to her husband, without any need for self-esteem. Years of physical and mental exhaustion wore down his malnourished body. Wei Cong passed away with a sigh of unfairness of fate and attachment to her husband Yuan Zhen. After a short period of grief, Yuan Zhen formed a romantic relationship with the talented woman Xue Tao and fell into the talented woman's tender love. Two years later, Yuan Zhen took another concubine, Anxian, in Jiangling, and married Pei Shu when he was thirty-six years old. After understanding this, I wonder if people have any new insights into the saying: "It used to be difficult to make water, except for Wushan, it is not clouds"?

There are countless women in the world who are in love, but how many men are in love? It can be said that second-hand women who remain widowed for their husbands can be seen everywhere in the world, but it is rare that second-hand men are willing to remain unmarried for the sake of women. In addition to worldly pressure, I believe it is more about the different attitudes of men and women towards love and loyalty.

After a man undergoes a marriage change, he becomes second-hand, and there is a sense of vicissitudes in his face that makes women moved. A deep, vicissitudes of life man is a kind of capital, which can inspire the maternal and loving feelings in women. Many women just worship under the suit pants of vicissitudes of life men. But it is difficult for second-hand women to forget the past as easily as second-hand men. One marriage change is enough to destroy a woman's life. Second-hand women always have pain in their hearts that they don't want to expose to outsiders, and this pain often stays with women throughout their lives.

What is left on a man’s face after a marriage change is the vicissitudes of life that makes a woman pity her, but what is left on a woman’s face after a marriage change is age. Vicissitudes of life are charm and temptation, while old age is helplessness and pain.

So, the fact that a second-hand man is easy to marry does not mean that he has many advantages and resources, but simply because it is easier for men to forget the past and the pain. Those former vows of love are forgotten as soon as they turn the corner. The fact that a second-hand woman is difficult to marry is not because she is not charming. The key is that women tend to write pain on their faces and talk about pain on their lips. They seem to never learn to say goodbye to the pain freely and calmly, and then let go of everything boldly. To love.

Second-hand women are not as free and easy as second-hand men, and they may never even be able to do as much as men do for themselves. It is said that character determines destiny, and destiny determines life. A woman's world view and love outlook determine that it is difficult for her to compete with second-hand men on the same stage.

However, a second-hand woman also has her own style and charm. Second-hand women are already like ripe apples on the tree, so fragrant that not even Snow White can resist her temptation, let alone a man. Second-hand women have matured to the point where every cell is gentle, considerate, charming and considerate. Who can resist?

The second-hand woman has now taken off her youthful and delicate coat and become independent and strong. Second-hand women do not regard love as the whole of life like little girls. They have strict requirements for life. They want candlelight dinners, sweet words, and preferably a man by their side 24 hours a day. They have understood that love is not everything in life. Career, marriage, family affection and even friendship are all indispensable and important parts of human life, and they must go hand in hand.

Second-hand women no longer have the indulgence and willfulness of the first marriage, and they will not be patient and unforgiving at all times. Their sharp edges and corners have been polished to be extremely smooth, and they know how to give in and be forbearing at the right time. The family members and close friends of a second-hand woman will not look at the man who wants to marry her with a critical eye. On the contrary, they will greet him with a grateful attitude. Because in modern society, there is no market for second-hand women as there is for second-hand men, and they seem to have to wait for others to pick them. This is also the sadness of second-hand women.

Compared with first-hand women, second-hand women generally have stable incomes and jobs, and most of them have savings. Unlike first-hand women, they don’t have a good attitude and wait for the man to buy a house or a car. They can’t afford it. Not yet. Therefore, if you marry a second-hand woman, you don’t have to worry about whether she wants this or that, and you don’t have to worry about her rejecting you because you don’t have a car. In her eyes, a car or a house are not as important as a man who can live a steady life.

Some people may say that the biggest trouble with a second-hand woman is not that she has been married before, but that she has a "slut". Who would be willing to be a father to a child who has no blood relationship? However, if you think about it carefully, a woman with children is a complete woman. Her maternal nature is fully stimulated at this time, and she will be more considerate and caring towards her husband. Maybe the child can also serve as a bridge. As long as she is good to the child, the second-hand woman will contribute everything she has to the newly formed family without reservation.

Men all have a serious virginity complex, and they are more or less discriminatory towards second-hand women, thinking that they will not find a "woman who has been used by others." First-hand women are pure, but they may appear stiff and rigid due to lack of experience, and some are very resistant to sexual life. The second-hand woman is already like a blooming rose at this time, and with a little tenderness she can be charming in all kinds of ways.

In fact, whether it is a first-hand woman or a second-hand woman, they are all the same, with gentle and delicate sensitive nerves and a broad mind. What if God pays off and allows you to meet someone who truly loves you, even if it is "second-hand"? In the eyes of the lover, a second-hand woman is also brand new and perfect. Therefore, second-hand women don’t have to feel sorry for themselves. In the vast sea of ​​​​people, there will always be the right person for you. He doesn’t care about the past or anything else. He only cares about the woman in front of him and is willing to give everything for her. There will definitely be.

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