Women mature earlier than men and know what they want earlier than men. Frankly speaking, we don't learn to have decent conversations with others until we are at least 25 years old, and the same is true in the bedroom. But we try our best to learn. Only when we meet the first true love in life can we understand the mystery of the human body. It is a new and pleasant feeling. From then on, you will forget about the battlefield-like sex in adolescence.

I have a female friend who is over 25 but under 30. She has a decent job, a great boyfriend, and her life is going smoothly. But the other day she said to me, "I'm thinking about getting Botox." I had to ask why she didn't have a single wrinkle on her face. "I know," she replied proudly: "But I want to keep my current look. Don't you think it's sexier?"

Well, I don't think so, since you asked me To be honest: I don’t think so at all. Take Kate Winslet, for example. In the movie "Titanic", she is stunning, strong, passionate, extremely feminine but sexy? When Jack (played by Leonardo DiCaprio) in the movie put her in his arms and the two climbed into the back seat of the luxury car, I never thought that these two would have sex. However, 10 years later, in the movie "True Love", she also starred opposite Leonardo, but her movements were completely different. She was both charming and sexy, as if she had adapted to this body again.

Look at Jennifer Aniston again. Rachel from the popular American TV series "Six"? Quite cute. Now? Astonished. Penelope Cruz (35), Angelina Jolie (34), Eva Longoria (34)… the list could go on, but you know what I mean. Because of their confidence, these mature women are full of sensuality, look at their actions, and their natural intelligence and understanding humor. Their names are plastered on movie posters, they're worth millions of dollars, and they look the part.

Men and women are similar. When they are still young, they are still putting themselves together piece by piece. Career, lifestyle, where you want to live, who you want to be... You think you should have the answer at the end of adolescence, but when things happen to you, it is always much more difficult than the stories told by others: all reactions are not Out of instinct, but through pretense, you are groping and eager to know: Am I good enough? What does he/she like? Am I doing the right thing? What would they say to their friends? Everything is a little awkward and a little uncontrollable. It's still beautiful, but it can't compare to the passion and ecstasy of maturity. Maybe it's the same as the food - on your first date you ordered prawn cold cuts, steak and chips. Great, but not the best. As you get older, you begin to appreciate the charm of duck liver spread with mousse liqueur and fall in love with the way they blend on the tip of your tongue. By the time you finish ordering the menu, you're back to steak and fries. But this time, you know the right way, the right place and the right time, and it will taste a million times better than the first time, because now you know exactly what you want.

This is exactly the charm of women in their 30s. She knows her menu, is sure of her body, her career, her desires, and dresses very, very stylishly. In a clothing store, she can pick out items at a glance that seem to be tailor-made for her. She knows what suits her and what she likes; she may be single and may meet a man in a bar and take him home, but it is definitely not because she is deceived by fantasy; or she is married and knows that she can no longer enjoy being with her. The first intimate contact with someone, the heart-stopping passion, but knowing better that there will be a lifetime of rich joy.

In a luxurious hotel room, a woman in her 30s walked towards the big bed in the room. The way she moved was definitely a little different. The swing of her hips and the narrow look that seemed to be a half-smile spread across her lips and eyes. If a man was lucky enough to be lying on that bed, it would be like opening a Christmas gift and finding that everything was already packed inside. Battery.

She took her time and knew how good she looked, she could tell from the way the man held his breath and the clumsy way he stuttered when he wanted to praise. She might find a man's unsubstantiated flattery sweet - that alone is sexy enough. The way she swayed her legs to get on the bed (God, women's movements! You are really killing us, so terrible), or the way her skin brushed against his body, was not something a 22-year-old young woman could have. .

We will always be in awe of you, really. Your confidence in the face of pleasure draws us into the whirlpool of your desire. You know too well that just one touch can lead a restless, passionate puppy to the pinnacle of bliss. Of course, not all men are as obsessed with mature women as the male protagonist of "The Graduate," but the fact is before our eyes - it is not unreasonable for this movie to become a classic.

When I was 16 years old, I used to help take care of the children of a lovely Mrs. Jaschinski in my neighbor. At that time, I spent a lot of time studying what Dustin Hoffman had done to attract the actors in the movie so much. Mrs. Robinson. In Shakespeare's poem "The Seven Ages of Man," he must have missed a trick. He described a person's life as a schoolboy, a soldier, a judge, a retired man, etc. Very good, I understand, it means that a man changes jobs throughout his life. But women’s seven stages are something else entirely, and their journey is completely different from men’s.

Women mature earlier than men and know what they want earlier than men. Frankly speaking, we don't learn to have decent conversations with others until we are at least 25 years old, and the same is true in the bedroom. But we try our best to learn. Only when we meet the first true love in life can we understand the mystery of the human body. It is a new and pleasant feeling. From then on, you will forget about the battlefield-like sex in adolescence.

Because the sex of teenagers is unavoidable, and there is a sense of not being on the stage. What the boys are thinking about is touchdowns, and they talk trash talk about 5, 4, and 3 with their brothers all day long. We use this to To prove that we are sophisticated and confident, we are afraid that others will think that we are too weak and not handsome enough, but we know very well that our purpose is just to "get on base." And when I look back now, I find that the journey of adolescent girls is even more difficult. They have to be both dedicated and striving, passionate and restrained, and they must carefully walk a narrow path between self-love, self-esteem and happiness.

In your 20s, life is changing rapidly, and you will find that sex is a joy. Really, really "joyful". Woody Allen said that of all the pleasures that don’t require laughter, sex is the best. (But in my own experience, the best sex is always filled with laughter—laughing together, not who laughs at whom, which seems to be the key to greatness). It's fun every step of the way, and men are grateful to be a part of it and work with you to gradually build confidence in themselves.

Of course, this confidence is hard to come by, and no one may bother to help you. But don't forget the power in your hands─or the power you will have when you grow a few years older. In this way, you will no longer be pessimistic, your insecurities will disappear, your confidence will increase, and the answers to your life will emerge one by one. I'm not going to lie to you, when a woman becomes a real woman, she will be extremely confident - from her talents, wisdom and life experience. She will exercise faith with strength beyond the comprehension of men. She's mentally sharp, takes pride in her body, and has a conversation that's timeless and charming, which is the sexiest thing about it.

So I told my friend—although I didn’t know if she would believe me, but I meant it sincerely: She didn’t need to bother with Botox injections. Soon, those beautiful, pretty lines will become a natural part of her face, lines that show how much she laughed, and someone will look at them as favorite treasures.

“A genuine woman with a sharp mind, pride in her body, and a charming conversation is the sexiest thing there is.”