“The Chinese New Year is a festive event, but as a single person and an older youth in the eyes of my family, it is often awkward to go home during the Chinese New Year. I listen to my parents’ nagging and see that my neighbors are older than me. My friends are all married, and when I visited during the New Year, some enthusiastic neighbors persuaded me to go and have a look if there was a "similar" one on the street. Some even went so far as to arrange a blind date for me without asking my opinion at all. Meet..."

Xiao Chen, a young man born in the 1980s, posted this post on the forum in distress, and immediately received many comments. Singles born in the 1980s lamented being forced into marriage, and even "The engineer brought a robot girlfriend with him" News about parents spending Christmas together are regarded as good news for single brothers to go home for the New Year.

The Spring Festival is approaching, and single young people born in the 1980s will gradually turn 30 years old. Many pressures make them helpless and become a forced tribe. In this regard, Century Jiayuan emotional experts suggest that singles should take advantage of the Chinese New Year to communicate more with their parents to win the understanding and support of their families. At the same time, they need to actively pursue happiness and make their lives wonderful because of love.

The people born in the 1980s were forced into marriage and had no choice but to become a forced tribe

“Forced tribe” quickly became popular and became a hot word among the people. As the name suggests, it refers to people who do work against their will. With the development of society, more and more people are forced to become various ethnic groups, such as: ant tribe, crowded class, overtime tribe, house slaves, DINK tribe, disease-tolerant tribe, etc.

The leftover men and women who suffered from the pressure of forced marriage have also become a branch of the forced tribe. Jiayuan’s investigation found that most of the forced people who encountered marriage and love problems were born in the 1980s. Age pressure made them anxious. Coupled with high work pressure and a relatively narrow scope of communication, they were at marriageable age and fell into a certain situation. With such a degree of weakness in marriage and love, they have no choice but to become one of the forced tribes.

The greetings single men and women are most afraid of hearing

Are you married?

Aunt Zhang’s daughter next door is about the same age as you, and her children are already playing tricks.

Don’t ask for too much, it’s almost enough.

Hurry up, you are really young.

The nephew of a colleague of Aunt So-and-so is a nice guy, looks good, and has a stable job. Go and meet him!

Being nagged and forced into marriage - several major embarrassments faced by single men and women

Although they are mentally prepared to be nagged before returning home for the Chinese New Year, many leftover men and women still cannot resist the pressure of their families to get married. To use a classic line in the sketch, "as soon as they return home" This heart is so cold."

1. My family kept urging me. When I returned home during the Chinese New Year, my father talked about the children of so-and-so in the neighborhood who were getting married again. My mother’s gray hair suddenly increased again, and she asked, “I’m not worried about your marriage yet. !”

2. When I go home during the Chinese New Year, I don’t dare to walk casually on the street, because when I meet a neighbor or acquaintance, I will receive the same greeting – “Are you married? Take it home? ”

3. Classmates, friends who grew up together, all brought their families to the party, and there were not a few who were holding their children. Now I realized It turned out that I was "isolated".

4. When I visited relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year, my relatives gathered around me to ask if my life-long affairs had been resolved. They even discovered that my brothers and sisters who were several years younger than me were all married.

5. After the Chinese New Year, those born in the 1980s will soon have their third year of work, and the pressure of age itself is a hurdle that cannot be overcome. Getting out of the dilemma of forced marriage

In the early years, the Spring Festival Gala sang: "If you have money or not, go home to celebrate the New Year." But for the single people born in the 1980s, compared with money, having a partner has become the biggest obstacle to going home to celebrate the New Year. Coupled with the "collision" between the Spring Festival and Valentine's Day this year, the chances of singles being "besieged" by family and friends have greatly increased.

Emotional expert Gong Haiyan analyzed that marriage and love are serious events in life. No matter what life situation you are currently in, you should treat marriage and love with a calm mind. There is no need to have excessive pressure, and you should not be blind. Decide.

Gong Haiyan suggested that those born in the 1980s who were forced into marriage should first let go of their ideological burdens, return to a peaceful mind, communicate with their parents in a timely manner, and convey their true thoughts and concepts on marriage and love to their families, striving for their understanding while also De-stress yourself. At the same time, it is recommended that single people should not "just wait and wait", but should be more proactive, expand the scope of communication, get out of their own small world, find the most suitable marriage partner in a more comprehensive range, and get out of the marriage dilemma.

Gong Haiyan believes that happiness is actually in everyone's own hands. It requires us to search for it carefully and take care of it patiently. Marriage is a prudent and serious matter. Everyone should have a happy life. As long as you look for it firmly, you will definitely find the right partner.

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