A recent survey report in the United States found that the number one reason why wives cheat is that they cannot get the sexual satisfaction they need at home.

"Unfaithful Match Company" is an online company in the United States that specializes in providing extramarital love/sex for married men and women. More recently, its founder Victoria. Milan conducted a survey of more than 4,000 of her female members. When asked why they cheated, 68% of women reported that it was because they could not get sexual satisfaction from their husbands at home.

Is the husband the victim? Or is it because the husband is also cheating on her and is unwilling to have an affair with his wife at home? Or does the husband simply not understand how to enjoy the joy of fish and water with his wife? Or is the wife too shy to communicate with her husband and help him better understand her needs? Regardless of the situation, in the answers of the women surveyed, it was generally found that husbands made several common mistakes:

1. The husband is a narcissist. He does not give his wife enough intimate attention. He does not consider that it takes longer for his wife to reach sexual excitement and orgasm. He only cares about his own excitement and unbearable desire to ejaculate, and abandons his wife. behind. If this happens for a long time, the wife will be depressed. If she is a little more capable, she will think of other tricks, such as Hongxing's cheating, to compensate.

2. If you have been married for more than 3-5 years, the sexual attraction between men and women will naturally weaken because they are too familiar with each other. If a couple, especially the husband, lacks sexual knowledge and creativity, lacks the initiative to find ways to understand his wife's requirements, and lacks the desire to keep learning to try new sexual forms and positions and reach a tacit understanding with his wife, over time, the wife will find various ways to Excuses and reasons for refusing to have sex with her husband lead to seeking sexual stimulation and satisfaction outside of marriage.

3. The husband does not pay enough attention to himself, looks slovenly, does not pay attention to healthy eating and exercise, and makes himself pregnant. Women are like men, and a man’s sexy and healthy image is also a very important sexual excitement point for women!

How to help your wife find her sexual interest

A lack of synchronicity in a couple's sexual interests is one of the most common causes of reduced sexual satisfaction and a sense of loss as a couple. When it comes to improving sexual interest, couples should understand and help each other. The American "Fox News" published an article on July 9, publishing five tips to help wives improve their sexual interest.

1. Share household chores. A survey published in the American "Parenting" magazine found that 15% of women are more likely to be sexually excited when their husbands share housework. This "housework foreplay" ensures that the wife has enough time to relax and recharge. If the husband washes the dishes or puts the children to bed after a meal, his wife can free up an extra hour to take a bath, read a book and relax. When a couple is in bed together, she will have more energy and a greater desire for passion.

2. Encourage her to put herself first. Once a woman gives birth to a child, she often pays more attention to the needs of the child and her husband, and puts her own needs secondary. They spend less time taking care of themselves, don’t go to the gym, and rarely spend time meeting and chatting with friends. At this time, as a husband, he should remind his wife not to ignore her own needs. Take the initiative to take time to look after the children, allowing your wife to go to the gym or hang out with friends, and ensure that she has time to relax and take care of herself. The wife is in a happy mood, relaxed physically and mentally, and will have more energy to devote to the couple's life.

3. More romance. In terms of sex, men love for sex and women love for love. What men value is the joy of sex, and what women value is the romance of love. Women need more time to "warm up" and brew their emotions. Therefore, it is extremely important to do enough foreplay before sex. Foreplay includes not only sexual stimulation, but more importantly, more romance reflected in the details of life. For example, deep kiss before leaving home for work, exchanging sexy text messages with his wife, often touching and praising his wife, etc. Of course, romance like a candlelight dinner is easier to impress her.

4. Find her excitement. According to statistics, only about 30% of women can achieve orgasm during sex, and most women need some other type of stimulation and attention to achieve orgasm. Therefore, whether before, during or after sex, you should pay more attention to your wife's needs and help her find her excitement. The more pleasurable the sexual experience is, the stronger the wife's sexual interest will be.

5. Pay attention to the physical causes of low sexual interest. Hormones play a huge role in sexual desire. If your wife's sexual interest suddenly drops, you might as well take a look at what medications she is taking. Certain medications, such as birth control pills, may be to blame for lack of sexual interest. Dramatic changes in hormone levels during menopause can also lead to low sexual desire in women. Once you discover the cause, you can treat it accordingly and regain the joy of sexual intercourse as a couple.

Men’s Note: Women’s “Exclusive” Sexual Assistance Techniques

A pleasant conversation before sex

A woman's feelings during intercourse are very important. When she feels happy, she will be more likely to engage in sexual life. In other words, having a pleasant conversation is what arouses her most. Before sex, women like to chat with men about their lives and thoughts. They want couples to relax and talk on the sofa, or chat while taking a walk. At this time, if the man can say some love words such as "I love you" and "I care about you very much", the woman will have a strong sexual desire.

Flirting outside the bedroom

In a woman's world, sex and life are inseparable. How her lover treats her outside the bedroom is directly related to how she behaves in bed. Even when there is no sex, you can still flirt with her and talk about love, which will make him get involved in sex faster. On the contrary, if you don't care about her outside the bed, speak harshly, and have a rude tone, etc., it will make her unable to engage in sex and become less enthusiastic.

Romantic foreplay

The issue of foreplay is a cliché, but it is also one of the most effective ways for women to increase their fun. Women love physical contact and caressing, and sometimes it has nothing to do with sex. So when you are in love, it is natural to give her romantic foreplay. Hugging, holding hands and kissing will make them happy. Many women complain that men rarely engage in such intimate behavior with them except foreplay. Therefore, hug and kiss her often and she will feel happy. Through enough hugging, kissing, and caressing, a woman's sexual desire can be aroused, so that she can quickly integrate into the atmosphere of sexual intercourse and enjoy the happiness and joy that follows.

Naughty behavior

Men's naughty behavior during intercourse can also help women's sexual intercourse. Please remember: sexual intercourse is not a serious matter, please treat it as a "game". If a man acts too seriously during sex and does not even smile, sex often becomes stressful and lifeless, and neither man nor woman can experience the joy of sex.

Tenderness after intercourse

Women's sex does not end with orgasm. The aftertaste after orgasm can give women a sense of satisfaction. After orgasm, she wanted to be more gentle. Therefore, men remember to give her the necessary tenderness after sex. An intimate kiss, a few tender words, or holding her to sleep can make women more satisfied.