Generally speaking, women have a weakness: they are prone to snap up purchases, steal the spotlight, use forceful words, etc., and now they even "steal men". In the past, women had only two verbs to choose from in their emotional lives: waiting and seducing. The latter, in particular, is slightly more positive, but still pejorative. Now, women are beginning to learn to pursue their own happiness, but some people have gone to the other extreme: robbing men! In broad daylight.

If you are unfortunate or lucky enough to love a man who has another woman or women, whether it is a wife, fiancée or girlfriend, please do not think of meeting them to talk or compete, there is no need, immediately Leave! Because what you grab is just a "gasp", not necessarily a real good thing!

1. Habitual "grabbers"

I have a female friend "Liu" who was recently reading a best-selling book "Win" written by a foreigner. She asked her on the phone He excitedly talked to me about his thoughts after reading it. It's rare for her to have such leisurely and leisurely life. In the past, she usually called me to scold men or ask for help or scold men. Because I am her good friend, I try my best to fulfill her wishes and be her emotional trash can; however, when calling me for help, I Sometimes it's difficult to deal with. There are often resentful women who bring men to her house to "seek justice." The reason is always the same, and she "inadvertently" steals other people's men.

Not long ago, Liu had another dispute with a group of women: the male protagonist was a handsome and wealthy gold-collar man. At first, Liu had a crush on him because of business contacts, but after learning that he was married, he took the initiative to break off the relationship. Got the idea of ​​"thinking about the world". However, one day, when she happened to encounter the scene of the man having an affair with an unmarried woman in a bar, she felt an inexplicable passion well up in her heart: He can associate with other women, why can't I? Since he is already bad. If it's just a corner, then let him rot completely.

So, by accident, she started an unethical love affair with the man. It wasn't until Valentine's Day when several related women got into a fight that Ms. Liu suddenly realized that it was really not fun to fight for men with others. She often lost her wife and lost the army. It was not worth it. What made her even more sad was that , the playboy man in the vortex actually ran away with a sneer.

There are several cabinets of useless clothes in Liu’s single apartment, which she bought during different festivals. During a sleepless night, she packed up all the clothes and donated them to the typhoon. In the disaster area after the disaster... By the way, the photos of the men who had been snatched and escaped were also thrown away.

　2. Why do new women like to "rob"

Keyword 1: The influence of the general environment

Xiu Xiu, female, associate professor: Actually, I have also experienced "robbing" "The reason for this misunderstanding should be found in the general social environment. You see, impetuousness is spreading everywhere. There are more people talking about interests and fewer people talking about right and wrong. Everyone is pursuing results and rarely reflects. Is this all correct? "Winning" is the last word and the most important thing, so some people even commit suicide by jumping off a building just because they lose in a game of cards!

Keyword 2: Herd mentality

Wang Qing, female, junior: My roommates all like to "get together". Three of the sisters are in love, but they seem to There were disputes all over the place, and the cause was actually a fight between several women. You can often see people queuing up on the street, and the queue is spectacular. Almost all of the people in the queue are women. Some people don't know why they are queuing up. It would be better if they could "jump in line". Once, when I got to the end of the line, I learned that I was getting a boring psychological questionnaire: When you go home and enter the door, do you take off the left shoe first or the right shoe?

Keyword 3: No one would kick a dead dog

Dou Ya, female, makeup artist: There is nothing wrong with "stealing" men. Only good things will be taken away. Get it first and then talk about it. Love is a kind of high consumption, and "peak man" is a famous brand. In the business era, we all believe in personal efforts, no pain, no gain.

Keyword 4: Women embarrass women

Ms. Li: I was once a victim of the "man-grabbing war". My ex-boyfriend was snatched away and changed hands several times. . There is always some kind of natural jealousy among women. One person cannot always take good things alone, so they are mentally unbalanced and then reach out to grab them. There is some element of mischief here to disrupt the situation, but I don’t even know it. Both jade and stone will be destroyed, and we will not hesitate to do so.

3. Love is encountered

Many people say that love lies in the process, not the result. The problem is, if you rob for a long time and get back a "half a man" that is in pieces or with the head and tail cut off, will you really feel the satisfaction of triumph? Will you feel at ease? A man with a good record is a man with a burden. It is said that the trigger for the old divorce between Wang Gang and Cheng Fangyuan was that he sent money to his daughter from his ex-wife... What's more, what if you are facing a man who robbed you? For men, you must be mentally prepared: can you accept a man with a historical tail? If he wants to split up his body and move around to find balance among different women, can you accept such an impure and complicated man calmly and as usual?

Li Xiang’s marriage to the wealthy businessman Li Houlin was a shocking event. At least three women with names and surnames came out crying and complained that Xiangxiang had robbed her man. However, Xiangxiang always spoke loudly. She said that she and her husband were very loving and had a stable relationship, but avoided talking about the issue of "robbing". Obviously, she is tired of this. People's hearts are the same. I don't believe that Miss Li won't feel a little uneasy when she acts coquettishly in her husband's arms? Is their final divorce related to this?

A certain talented woman from Phoenix TV also hooked up with a young son-in-law. It is said that when the IT hero divorced his ex-wife, her ex-wife was still breastfeeding their son who was waiting to be fed... People will habitually sympathize with the weak, and then they will not Indiscriminately blaming newlyweds who are currently happy. I believe that the newcomers in the examples given will feel aggrieved and "I did nothing wrong." The question is, when the newcomers laugh, will the noise and the tears of the old ones affect their enjoyment? Maybe there is inexplicable guilt and irritability? And such a state of mind can actually seriously compromise your current happiness.

When you rob, you are often emotional and irrational, so you may look at the wrong person, rob for the sake of robbing, and forget to evaluate what is good about him? Is he suitable? Once you grab it, when you are ready to enjoy the hard-earned prey, you may find that it is just a bunch of unused luxuries! In the field of love, it also depends on factors such as fate and personal preferences. You can catch a beautiful man but you can't find him. You can get a beautiful man without snatching him. Maybe you can "win", but you may not be able to "get"!

More importantly, there is no sense of security. A woman is particularly wary of her husband's female secretary, because she herself became his wife from a female secretary. Therefore, even if you "rob" this man, you will naturally wonder: Will he be robbed by someone else again?

In the world of love, there are also ecological rules of the weak and the strong? Being able to grab it shows that you are capable, but it does not necessarily prove that you have grabbed happiness. Let yourself be outstanding anytime and anywhere, be beautiful anytime and anywhere, master first-hand information anytime and anywhere, stand out and encounter love anytime and anywhere. It is far easier and more objective and reliable than snatching it.

It is said that the writer Bing Xin once said to Tie Ning, who was still single at the time: "Men are waiting for you. Love cannot be snatched, but love is encountered."

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