Living together has always been a hot topic, so why do you want to live together? When is the best time to live together?

First of all, his toothbrush appears in your bathroom. Before you get used to it, his jeans full of holes, the T-shirt you wore in school and Nike shoes have already taken over your wardrobe. You say to yourself, "No matter what, the important thing is that we live together now and maybe we should get married." In fact, you are not the only one who thinks this way. In 1996, the number of unmarried men and women living together in the United States rose rapidly from 523,000 in 1970 to 4 million. But living together doesn't mean life is happy. In 1995, it was shown that couples who married after living together were 50% more likely to divorce than those who lived together after marriage. Does living together without marriage necessarily mean a breakup in the future? Here is the advice of two women with personal experience: one is in favor of unmarried cohabitation, the other is against it. Their opinions may inspire you.

The ideal husband

It is impossible to buy a new car without testing the car, and the same is true for finding a man. I dated him for 3 years before we moved in together, but I've gotten to know him more since we moved in last year than in the previous 3 years combined. Living together is like a crash test. Ask yourself, do you really want to wait until after marriage to find out that he will be furious about a bit of dumpling stuffing in the corner of the kitchen? Does he know you have a morbid obsession with a certain band? Trust me, everything becomes a problem if you want to share everything with him.

Strong Morphine

You may know the man you are dating, but you may not necessarily know what it would be like to live with him. Some men make the best boyfriends but terrible husbands. My friend said with relief that it was a good thing she and her fiancé had been living together for a few months, otherwise their marriage would have ended in disaster. She said he had been an ideal date—warm, sweet, and classy. But when they lived together he became a savage. “Half-eaten instant noodles were strewn all over the house and he would never clean them until he or we discovered bedbugs in the house,” she said. “That’s when I realized my future husband had no taste. It can be said that he is just a spoiled child."

One morning my friend made some milk powder for breakfast and she found small bugs in the bowl. She packed her bags and left at noon.

An extension of your relationship

Moving in together is like putting the pedal to the metal on your relationship—seeing whether the consequences of the strong acceleration are good or bad. Xiao Novel's moving in with her long-term boyfriend was the best decision she ever made because it prompted her to leave him. "Had we not made the decision to live together, our boring relationship would have continued slowly," she said. "That period gave me the opportunity to see a different person from the person he was when we were dating - a guy who was high-spirited."

Moving in together can kick your relationship into fourth gear, in part because Sensuality ensures that you understand each other's less pleasant aspects. He will see the mask you put on your face when you go to bed at night and you will see his fat body in the bathroom mirror. Sharing these secrets, which may be a little weird, may strengthen your relationship or drive you apart.

A simple reason

I know he wouldn't have bought that cow if he had free milk to drink. But who decides you are for sale? Peng said she liked living with her boyfriend and had no intention of getting married in the near future. "I like that our lives are connected but independent." Peng said, "Maybe one day I want to get married, but for now I still like someone."

True Romance

Chen and her boyfriend lived together until after they got married, and the wedding was so lavish that it would surprise a millionaire. A month later she said they were discussing divorce - a marriage that turned out to be nothing like she had imagined. "The first few weeks weren't bad. It was like playing house," Chen recalled. "But soon the novelty wore off and we started to understand what a real marriage was—a lot of annoying chores. Who should Responsible for making ends meet? Should we invest some of our savings in the stock market? Our romantic relationship is not strong enough to withstand such serious problems."

No sex today—or never again

Even if you can tolerate his flaws, there’s another downside to living together every day — a dull bedroom life. "At first we were having sex all the time" Sue had been living with her boyfriend for a year. "Now we lie down and watch the 10 o'clock news program. When my single friend tells me her anecdotes, I think we were like this before. We are now an old married couple - but we are not married yet"

Living together makes your relationship grow by leaps and bounds, and soon you will find that the attraction is gone. It's good to find out that your relationship isn't that attractive but wouldn't it be better to find out before you move in together.

Interesting Facts about Money

Many couples are frustrated when it comes to money issues, but at least with a marriage as a prerequisite, money issues are not that complicated. Most couples use a joint account to pay bills and save insurance money for things they buy that they own jointly. Money problems soon arise after you live together, because you still treat money issues in the same way as a pure roommate - but you are not a platonic spiritual lover. Who pays the workers when the toilet clogs? What if your hair clogs the pipe? If his salary increases, will he have to pay more for the room?

Xiao Wang and his girlfriend encountered such a problem. He had recently found a higher-paying job, and it seemed only natural that he should be asked to pay more for the house. However, the new consumption consumed his extra money. They quarreled almost every day, and now, no one wanted to talk to the other.

Divorce before you get married

It's always hard to break up any relationship, but breaking up with someone you share a home with is a real estate nightmare. When Jie learns that her live-in boyfriend is sleeping with her best friend, she is horrified to discover that she can't leave because of rent and other issues. Jie had to live with her boyfriend until the house expired. They drew a line in the middle of the house, separated by a curtain wall, and each lived on their own side. Jie said: "I'm wasting my youth, living with a man who doesn't want to marry me. It's over between us but I'm really tired of having to live with him because of the house."

Cohabitation signal

Jie’s situation illustrates a common trap of cohabitation, which we call cohabitation transition. One is content just living together while the other wants to get married. Living together can be a compromise, but it gets harder and harder. Your boyfriend will be surprised why an engagement is so important to you. And you are used to living with him. Breaking up seems to be more difficult than living together. You are already on the edge of cohabitation, unable to move forward or backward.

Mei and her boyfriend are cautious about living together. Marriage doesn't mean much to Mei's boyfriend. Mei eventually became someone else's wife, but many people hesitated and just kept living together, living on the edge of an uncertain and unhappy cohabitation.

Is this just a joke?

Perhaps the most unsettling factor in cohabitation in the end is the word cohabitation itself. It sounds careless and insecure. Any two people can do this, whether they are college freshmen or prisoners. Living together requires no emotional connection at all, no rituals, no vows - no guarantee of staying together in times of adversity. Mr. Li is married, but he had lived with his ex-girlfriend for 5 years. He said, "Just because your names are on the mailbox together means that your relationship is as strong as a marriage. It blew my mind at the wedding when we said our vows - we got married, and I have for years." A piece of paper that feels funny does mean something. Without it you're just playing house - a surefire way to kill your relationship."

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