The sexual concepts and behaviors of teenagers under the age of 20 are very different from those of the previous generation. However, parents, schools and society know very little about these real situations. What is their sexual status? What sexual concepts do they hold? From what sources do they obtain sexual knowledge? With these questions, the reporter visited some high school and junior high school students in Beijing. 70% of them have friends of the opposite sex, and 90% of them have sexual relations

Liu Di, male, a high school student in Beijing. His first love was when he was 19, in his last year of high school. He said that when he was in junior high school, there were already students in the class who were in love. "There were not many people in love at that time. There were 38 people in our class, and I knew 4 of them. Now (in high school) there are 45 people in our class, more than 30 people." They have friends, including friends from the same school, friends from other schools, and friends online. About 90% of them have sex.”

Yang Yu, male. A student from a vocational high school in Beijing. He said that 60% to 70% of his classmates had sexual relations. Yang Yu said that his first sexual experience was when he was 17 years old. Now the frequency of having sex is two to three times a week. He said: "Usually at their (girlfriend's) house or our house. When there are people at their house, just in the next room, and it's over without saying anything."

After hearing these situations, the reporter was surprised and doubted the reliability of this ratio, so he further asked them how they knew whether others had sex. Yang Yu said: "I am the eldest brother in our class. I am well-informed and know everything. My classmates tell me everything. They usually say, 'I slept with XX.' I say, 'Is it true?' 'Really.' 'Where is it? ''At our house. 'We don't have money to rent a house outside, so we usually stay at our own house or at a friend's house.' There are 30 people in Yang Yu's class, and 7 of them live directly. He said that two women had told him about his sexual behavior.

Talk about sexual experience is a kind of showing off

High school student Li Yunpeng told reporters that several of his classmates would ask each other and exchange sexual experiences while chatting on the way home from school. Li Yunpeng said that this also has a process. For example, when someone wants to chase a girl, he will ask, "How is this girl ××?" and say, "Go for it, it's pretty good." After a while, he will catch her. They would ask, "Did you do something big?" and said, "I did it."

Li Yunpeng said, "I asked them, and they would ask me, did you do it? If I said I did it, they would Is it okay to ask? "It's normal for us to talk about our sexual experiences. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. We're all so familiar with each other, and some classmates often show off their privacy to others. My own sexual experience, sometimes several people compete with each other to see whose 'score' is better."

The Internet and pornographic CDs have become catalysts for precocious puberty

The reporter learned during the interview that the Internet is one of the main reasons for the "precocious maturation" of teenagers. Zhang Ziqian, a freshman in high school, told reporters that he and other students are very keen on chatting online. "You can talk about anything when chatting online. Girls usually first say they are not in a good relationship, and then they say they can't live without each other. Ask her why? (She will answer:) Because everything has been done."

Be a reporter When asked about the channels from which current high school students obtain sexual knowledge, Zhang Ziqian said: "Look at the market or download it from the Internet." "Books? Don't read them. What kind of books should we read in such a developed society? Why should we read those texts when there are direct and real ones? We have sex education in junior high school, but no more in high school. The teachings are useless. They just know about men and women. Is there any difference, but the contraceptive knowledge is not mentioned?"

Zhang Ziqian told reporters that there are BT download seeds on the Internet, such as "POCO" and "EDonkey", which are used to download some fashion blockbusters, but Some people put some pornographic films on it for others to download. Nowadays, many people download less blockbusters and more pornographic films, and they themselves have downloaded a lot. He said that both boys and girls download pornographic films because there are so many of them.

The situation introduced by Zhang Ziqian made reporters even more stunned. He said: "Popular science books on sex are very expensive. (Pirated) CDs are much cheaper. Three VCDs cost ten yuan, and a DVD costs eight yuan." "When we were in the second grade of junior high school, we gathered together to read the CDs. Porn movies. When I went to a classmate’s house, there were five or six people there, no girls, just a group of good friends. At that time, there were people selling pornographic films on many overpasses. We bought them for ten yuan each and took them to school. In order to find a place to look, for example, I asked my classmates who live near the school: "Does anyone in your family want to go to your house to look at the house?" Some of my classmates in junior high school live far away, and their parents rented them near the school. Maybe my parents are both doctors and they are usually not at home. Some of them only get off work at six or seven in the evening just to learn from Huang Dili."

Zhang Ziqian told reporters. He said that if you are 20 years old and have not had sex, others will think it is abnormal. For today's high school students, if they have no sexual experience, they are "pandas", which seems quite silly. Only men who are not handsome and women who are not beautiful will have no sexual experience. "Because this kind of thing happens to so many people around us, we don't think it's surprising. People of different ages live in different social eras. When the elders were young, they didn't dare to hold hands; by this time we , holding hands in elementary school, kissing in junior high school, and having sex in high school is normal.”

The pain of early pregnancy

When the reporter asked if anyone would do it. During the abortion, Liu Di said: "Some people who have had abortions have borrowed money from me to give their girlfriends an abortion. Four classmates have borrowed money from me, but I don't have that much money."

"Usually I go to a small hospital for medical abortion. That time, a friend spent 700 yuan (borrowed 500 yuan from my cousin). Later I learned that I had been cheated, and I could get it done for 80 yuan. A lot of guys just spent 80 yuan to buy the medicine at an adult health product store. "Zhang Ziqian's girlfriend had an abortion at a hospital in Beijing. He said that it was recognized as a good abortion hospital by middle school students in Beijing. Students from Xuanwu District, Dongcheng and Xicheng all went there. Doctors in the hospital won’t ask you how old you are or what’s going on. There were quite a lot of people going. Some are older than them and some are younger; some are from outside and some are from Beijing.

The reporter learned from the obstetrics and gynecology department of a hospital in Xuanwu District that a considerable number of people undergoing abortions are school students. The doctor told reporters that almost every day, female middle school students come for abortion. Usually, the girl comes accompanied by her boyfriend, and there are also several boys who come accompanied by a girl. Basically, they don't dare to let their parents know. Some girls come for abortion on weekends and have to go to school the next Monday. Because their bodies don't get a good rest and recovery, some girls suffer from gynecological diseases. There are also parents who come with their children, but very few. "In addition to early pregnancy, the rate of sexually transmitted diseases among middle school students is also increasing year by year. Since this year, more and more girls are suffering from gonorrhea, syphilis, and genital warts." The doctor told reporters worriedly.

Concern about lack of sexual knowledge

According to experts, adolescents currently reach puberty about 2 years earlier than before. Since adolescents lack the ability to control safe sexual behaviors and are in a psychologically sensitive period, various problems are prone to emerge.

A survey shows that among respondents between the ages of 12 and 20, boys are more concerned about mental health and sexual issues than girls, and the number of consultations is proportional to age. Among the 367 people who consulted through the mental health hotline, the ratio of boys to girls was 2.5:1.6, making consultation on male sexual issues a hot topic. 71% of boys consulted on sexual health care and STD prevention, and nearly half of them consulted on masturbation. Only 11% of girls consult about sexual problems, and 83% of them consult about contraceptive methods, abortion, pregnancy, gynecological diseases, etc.

According to a gynecologist, a sophomore girl in high school once confessed her feelings to the doctor: In an impulsive incident a few days ago, she and a boy were not "defended". Afterwards, she felt very scared and hoped to seek help. Remedy methods to avoid unintended consequences that may affect the studies of both parties. Because they are all good students in school.

Regarding similar issues, Professor Yu Chengliang, director of the Chinese Society of Sexology, believes that adolescence is an important stage of growth and development, and both sexual physiological and psychological development are not yet complete. Out of their admiration, curiosity and yearning for the opposite sex, and their resistance and rebellion against their parents’ education methods, they fall in love early, run away or taste the “forbidden fruit”. However, they are inevitably at a loss when faced with difficult problems such as pregnancy, and dare not confide in their parents and teachers. The truth.

It is an objective fact that adolescent sexual behavior is increasing year by year. Therefore, from the perspective of preventing the spread of AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases, it is very necessary to tell them how to protect themselves and provide safety education. The responsibility of schools and parents is to help children understand the changes in their own bodies and minds, understand the possible consequences of their actions, and learn to control themselves.

Professor Yu believes that teenagers are a very special period. At this time, they have strong curiosity and strong ability to accept new things, but their inhibitions are extremely weak and their sense of responsibility is poor. Most students have sexual intercourse because they are instigated, tempted by pornographic books and websites, and are also influenced by the surrounding environment.

“Whether one can master the standard of treating the opposite sex is the best test of a person’s will and quality. Most children who have sexual intercourse prematurely have unhealthy personalities.” Yu Chengliang said , from the perspective of teaching and educating people, families, schools, and society should pay more attention to the mental health of teenagers.

Girls must be measured and boys must restrain themselves, so that love can be noble. For teenagers who have been exposed to sexual behavior but feel distressed, they should get over the pain and take the relationship between men and women seriously.

(Note: The teenagers in the article are all pseudonyms)

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