Whether the quality of your sexual life is high or not, your brain has the final say

Sex and love both originate from the brain. American neuroscientist Daniel Amen believes that the brain is the "commander-in-chief of sex": We feel the passion for sex because the specific neurochemical system in the brain causes us to produce these emotions.

Looking and smelling, sexy receivers

When choosing a partner, men focus on the opposite sex with beautiful appearance, enchanting figure, and those who can stimulate fantasies; while women will be attracted by those who look like We are attracted to men who are good fathers and husbands, even if they are ordinary looking and simply dressed.

Daniel Amen explained that a woman’s criteria for choosing a mate are not as “highly identifiable” as her appearance. In comparison, men's standards are simpler and easier to achieve. When you see the person you like, the neurotransmitter dopamine in the male brain quickly "goes into action," igniting areas responsible for pleasure, action, and reward. Men will feel their heart beat faster and have an indescribable urge.

The reason why men like to look at beautiful women is not because they are superficial, but because the area of ​​the brain responsible for vision is too "strong". A survey by Emory University in the United States found that when men watch pornographic content for 30 minutes, the above-mentioned areas will completely "light up." "For example, when beautiful girls ask men for help, they will behave like idiots," Daniel Amen said.

The easiest way to overcome the "tyranny" of the visual nerve is to mobilize logical thinking. Men may wish to ask themselves: Why should I do this and what are the benefits? Such questions can draw attention away from brief visual impulses.

The sense of smell is also a man’s keen “sexy receptor”. The structure of the olfactory bulb at the top of the nose is directly connected to the septal tissue in the brain that controls sexual arousal. After the cells in the nose receive sexual stimulation, they will immediately send out instructions to tell the sexual organs to "prepare for action."

Although the relationship between women's sense of smell and sexual desire is not as good as that of men, using the right method can also stimulate "sexual feelings." A study by the University of California found that men's sweat, hair and skin contain a chemical that smells the most attractive to women. "Put your own coat on her, hold her in your arms, and wrap her with your sexual scent. It is difficult for a woman to resist such a strong masculinity."

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Whether the quality of sexual life is high or not, all originates from the brain

Relax and have better sex

Men often believe that the best reward for their partner is to give her the greatest satisfaction in sex. At the same time, they are full of worries that they are not doing well.

A US study shows that nearly 90% of men have experienced "sexual anxiety". Daniel Amen points out that sexual anxiety stems from men's fear of being "evaluated." In the process of biological evolution, anxiety is regarded as a major threat. Once it occurs, the nervous system will enter a "fighting" state, requiring the body to secrete various hormones to fight and protect itself: the heartbeat speeds up, the muscles tense, and the blood flows from the hands and feet. , the penis was pulled out and poured into the large muscle group. Without blood supply, the penis will naturally become limp. Therefore, sexual performance will be better for both men and women in a relaxed state.

Wang Guorong, senior supervisor of Suzhou Junger Psychological Counseling Center, told reporters that many low sexual desire is acquired, and anxiety is an important and prominent trigger.

In order to alleviate this bad mood, it is first recommended that couples "truce" for a period of time and live a life without sex. Secondly, create a relaxing atmosphere at home, such as changing the bedroom furnishings and changing to velvet sheets. Many times, soft-textured sheets and quilt covers will stimulate the desire for skin-to-skin contact. When both parties feel the need, don't rush into sex, but caress each other's body carefully. This is not just foreplay, think of it as something full of fun. Try to find ways of touching that make each other happy and find the parts that can arouse each other's pleasure.

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