During our first conversation, Wen Qi told me about the hard days of his childhood: "I was born in a poor mountain village. My parents divorced when I was 9 years old, and my mother had to support several underage children..." Bitterness first, then sweetness , in my opinion, Wen Qi should be very happy now. But he became very depressed: "The busier I am at work, the more energetic I am. However, when I get home, my scalp becomes swollen. This situation has lasted for eleven years!"

19 years old After graduating from high school that year, I left the mountains and came to the big city of Wenzhou. A relative shouted behind me: "You don't overestimate your capabilities. Are people like you living in big cities? You will have to be a bachelor for the rest of your life!" This sentence was very hurtful. I held back all my energy and wanted to do it. Build a career and find a beautiful wife. I studied on my own while working part-time. A few years later, I obtained a college diploma and joined an internationally renowned company. I didn't relax at all after joining the company. I was the first to be promoted among the new employees in the same batch. From then on, I had a "green light" in my career.

After achieving staged success in my career, people will be "running for three", and I began to think about life-long events. A client admired me very much and took the initiative to introduce his sister-in-law Ruqin to me. Because she is a rural girl with only a primary school education, I was a little hesitant. For the client's sake, I went on a blind date. I didn't expect that Ru Qin was very beautiful. To use a literary language to describe it, she was really "beautiful beyond measure." Her brother-in-law said that because she is good-looking and has high requirements for choosing a mate, she will be almost thirty in a flash. If we are satisfied with each other, we can get married during the Spring Festival.

I was a young boy at that time. I didn’t know that it was necessary to be beautiful, smart, and well-rounded when looking for a wife. I only wanted to marry a beautiful wife who would be able to show off her skills to others. On impulse, I nodded in agreement and got married during the Spring Festival.

While I was still intoxicated by the envious gazes of the villagers, the bride returned to her original self in her natal family, only chatting with neighbors and her natal family, and unwilling to do housework. I asked her how she filled her stomach before getting married, and she replied: "Today I went to my brother's house for a meal, and tomorrow I went to my sister's house to fight guerrillas. It was quite fun."

My life at that time The "material foundation" is still very weak. I discussed with Ruqin and planned to find her a job in Wenzhou, which would also facilitate family life. Unexpectedly, she said: "Marry a man and follow him, wear clothes and eat. Now that you are married, you have to rely on your husband for the rest of your life. How can you have the nerve to let me show up in the wind and rain to earn all that hard money?" "The words left me speechless and I could only complain secretly.

I was born in a rural area, and I couldn’t bear to see other people being too lazy to work. I began to regret my recklessness.

Just when I was thinking about divorce, Ruqin became pregnant. After all, my children are the continuation of my life. So I thought, as long as Ruqin can support my career and respect my contribution to this family, I will accept her for the rest of my life. Unexpectedly, this was just wishful thinking on my part. After a few years of being married, I discovered that Ru Qin actually regarded me as her "ATM."

Four years later, in accordance with the policy of “settling down with the house” at that time, I bought a house in the urban area of ​​Wenzhou and moved the household registrations of Ruqin and my children to the city. With Wenzhou's living standards, I can only support a family of three with my meager salary, which makes life very difficult. So, I boldly ventured into the real estate market. Soon, I fell in love with another house and sold my own house, making a profit of 20,000 to 300,000 yuan. I said that I would invest this income in new real estate, but she argued with me and asked me: If I buy a house on the left and right, do I plan to let other women live in it? Is buying a house to make money prepare you for divorce? In fact, I wanted to accumulate some funds for my future development, but she firmly disagreed and even moved my mother-in-law's family to live with me.

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The first thing I do when I get home every day is to take a shower. Ruqin knows my daily routine, so she takes the opportunity to go through my purse and pockets and finds three hundred yuan. , five hundred yuan, you have to take out a few bills to feel at ease, otherwise you will find reasons to quarrel with me. In the end, I had to play dumb and set aside this expense.

When it comes to family trivial matters, Wen Qi is a little embarrassed. He said that the more he thought about it, the more something was wrong, and he felt that he had indeed found the wrong partner in his life. He had more quarrels with Ru Qin, and the two began to divorce.

I firmly believed in my abilities and did not want to argue with Ruqin financially. I said that I only wanted a house, I would raise my children, and I would leave all other property to Ruqin. But she still refused to do it, spoke in unpleasant words, and even went to my company to cry. Not only were my colleagues pointing fingers behind my back, but my boss was also very dissatisfied and asked me to talk to me and ask me to change my duties temporarily and deal with the relationship between husband and wife first.

I was completely discouraged by her, but considering that she was the biological mother of the child after all, since she refused to divorce, I would just make do with it for now. When she saw me bowing my head, she became more aggressive. Looking at Ru Qin, who is almost 40 years old and still looks beautiful, a ridiculous thought came to my mind: "If some other man can take her away at this time, not only will I not be angry, but I will be grateful."

However, Ruqin finally defeated me. Even if I didn't visit her parents' house and told her "I don't love you" in person, and even if I planned to "clean up and leave" and leave all my property to her, she still wouldn't agree to the divorce. We have no feelings at all. Maybe she is worried that she may not be able to find a better man after the divorce, and she doesn't know how to take care of the family property.

In Ruqin’s eyes, I am her “private property”. Because of my work, I had a lot of social activities. Whenever this happened, she would force me to sleep with her. Even though the car was parked downstairs and I wasn't in the slightest mood, she kept "asking" for me again and again to make sure that I couldn't mess with other women again. And when I go home, she always forces me to take off my clothes and check if I have any other woman’s lipstick or long hair.

After 11 years of being married, I still can’t understand this woman who looks beautiful but has an empty mind. Maybe she has low self-esteem, knows that her education is low, and is worried about making a fool of herself, so even though I introduced several good jobs, she turned them down. She has no worries about food and clothing. I will match her clothes and shoes for each season and put them in the wardrobe. She likes to sleep in, and does nothing all day long to feel unhappy. She either quarrels with me or makes long-distance calls to talk to her parents. She knows all the "mess" and it's up to me to clean it up. She doesn't feel the pressure of life at all. Maybe the only pressure is the fear of losing me!

For a long time, the force that has supported me in maintaining this family has been my children. However, Ruqin also disagrees with me when it comes to planning the future of her children. In addition to blindly pampering, she doesn't know how to educate children at all. I can't convince this "myopic" woman.

Finally, Wen Qi said to the young people outside the besieged city: "Taking my painful marriage experience as a reference, marriage is a lifelong event. You cannot carelessly only focus on the woman's appearance, height and other external conditions. You must find someone with a "reasonable allocation of resources" in terms of character, cultivation, ability, etc. ”

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