Researchers said that the age group least prone to conflicts is the age group where wives are more than 5 years younger than their husbands, and their divorce rate is 1/6 of other marriages

In addition, a study by the University of Vienna It was found that if a husband is 4-6 years older than his wife, he will have the most children; while if a husband is 15 years older than his wife, he will have the happiest married life although he will not have many children.

In this regard, experts said: The three happiness points of this type of marriage have become the pillars of a stable family. The first point of happiness is to satisfy women's "Trinity" wishes. Usually, women dream of a Prince Charming who combines the maturity of a father, the care of an elder brother, and the vitality of a friend. The husband is older, more psychologically mature, and more comfortable giving love.

The second happy point is that older husbands usually have a certain financial foundation, which reduces the chance of financial disputes.

The third happiness point is that there is less competition in the family. When the husband is older, women will naturally develop a sense of dependence and obedience, which will reduce the competition for power between husband and wife, and thus reduce friction.

If we talk about the disadvantages of this type of marriage, generally speaking, the average life span of men is shorter than that of women. If the husband is much older than the wife, then it is possible that the husband will eventually die and the wife will be alone. Stay alone.

As the saying goes, "the third daughter holds a golden brick", and in ancient my country, there was also the phenomenon of the elder daughter-in-law and the younger husband. Nowadays, the relationship between sister and brother is still an indispensable scenery on the map of marriage and love.

Experts said that in fact, some families where siblings love each other are also very happy. Although some men are young, their mental age is very mature, and although their wives are older, their mental age is still like a teenager. girl.

In other sibling families, the husbands have similar temperament characteristics, that is, the men are not very independent and want to continue to look for the feeling of being cared for by their mothers. For such families, there are often some disadvantages.

First of all, whether physically or psychologically, women age faster, while men are still in their prime, which can easily make the family unstable.

Secondly, age has social significance. In the conventional social evaluation, the relationship between siblings is easy to make people confused and criticized, or derogating men as "not men", or saying that women are "old cows eating young grass" Wait, these external remarks will also have an impact on the family walls to a certain extent.

The age difference between the 49-year-old US President Obama and his wife Michelle is 3 years. Their 17 years of happy marriage is enough to classify them as an "ideal couple". Yue Xiaodong, associate professor of the Department of Social Sciences at the Chinese University of Hong Kong, believes that same-age love is not the same age in the narrow sense as we understand it, but that both parties are about the same age and basically belong to the same generation.

Gender is the same age as the male and female or the male is less than 3 years older than the female. It can be said that in modern people's minds, this model of marriage and love is undoubtedly the most ideal. Yue Xiaodong proposed that the basis of same-age love lies in the psychological and physical coordination of both parties. This kind of marriage is the most sustainable and has six major benefits.

First, it is easy to establish intimate relationships. Second, there is frequent interaction. The third is synchronous growth. Fourth, the needs are consistent. Fifth, support from relatives and friends. Sixth, equality and self-confidence.

In short, lovers of the same age have similar social experiences, and they tend to be of the same mind when encountering life problems. Long-term running-in will make both parties think in harmony, and form a common cognitive model.

"Although there are many advantages for men and women of the same age, some problems will arise precisely because of equality." Wang Guorong said that couples of the same age are prone to competition for rights due to too much emphasis on equality, and they may often fight for "who said "The final word" and fighting endlessly.

Age does play an important role in marriage, but it is not age that really determines the stability of a marriage. "First of all, "LOVE" in English is compressed from a Latin sentence, which is "love is a lasting concern for the lives of others."

This expresses the love between husband and wife. The truth is to only love your partner, rather than focusing on external conditions, which is what we often say: "Height is not a problem, age is not a problem, and appearance is not a problem." The fewer external conditions, the more stable the love. p>

Secondly, research shows that the more similar the personalities, the more stable the love. People often say that complementarity between couples means that they want something but don’t have it, but their spouse does. This is a kind of appreciation, not that the personalities are completely different. .

Finally, there must be identity. First, after getting married, you must have the concept of integrating with the other person; second, your education and life values ​​must be equivalent. These are the factors that determine the stability of a marriage.