I believe everyone has had the experience of a first date, but do you know what the details are? Don't be careless, this is very important! 1. Dressing too casually or too exaggeratedly

No one wants to see the other person come to an appointment wearing ripped jeans (especially the ones that haven’t been washed for several weeks) or a wrinkled pickle-dried T-shirt. ! Dressing neatly and appropriately is a sign of respect for the other person. If you dress too casually and unadorned for the first time, you are telling the other person that you don't care about this date at all. Unless the date place has special dress regulations (such as high-end restaurants, concert halls, etc.), you don’t need to dress too formally (such as a full suit) or too gorgeous (all in jewelry) to make people think you are serious or noble. Hard to get close to.

Men can consider collared casual clothes (POLO shirts) or casual style shirts (stripes or simple geometric patterns), paired with plain trousers and dark leather shoes; women can try a simple one. One-piece dress or two-piece skirt. Don’t wear too many pieces of jewelry, or the styles are too big or exaggerated. In addition, some small details are often overlooked, but they can easily affect others' impression of you. This includes:

1. Messy or sticky hair with too much styling agent.

2. The lenses of your glasses are so dirty that people cannot see through your eyes.

3. The nose hair is not trimmed and exposed to others.

4. Hair falling off shoulders and flakes of dandruff.

5. A pair of dazzling white socks is exposed between the dark pants and shoes.

6. The lady wears gauze stockings on her legs.

7. Nails that are too long, dirty, or have chipped nail polish.

8. Finally, don’t think that people can’t see your dirty, badly deformed shoes.

2. Being late and trying to make excuses

No matter what kind of occasion you attend - a meeting, an interview or a date, being late is definitely a taboo. Most people associate lateness with negative personality traits such as being untrustworthy, irresponsible, and lacking self-discipline. Besides, everyone's time is precious, and who would want to waste it on someone who can't even do basic punctuality?

There is another situation that makes people even more angry. They are late without apologizing first. Instead, they make a bunch of excuses to excuse themselves for being late.

If you really have to be late due to an unavoidable emergency, you should first call the other person on the way to inform him or her. Don't let him or her get impatient and call you to ask you instead. When can I keep my appointment?

It is best to arrive 5 minutes earlier than the agreed time, so that you can take a breath and tidy up your appearance, instead of showing up at the last second in a hurry and out of breath.

3. Talk about your own affairs in a nonstop manner. The purpose of dating is to allow two people to get to know each other through chatting and interacting. However, if you are the only one who keeps talking nonstop during the whole process, you will not let the other person talk too. , an opportunity to express your own ideas, then how do you get to know him (her)? It may also make the other person think that you are a narcissist who loves showing off and is only interested in yourself. Some people keep talking to cover up because they are too nervous, but this is not a good way.

Gender experts suggest that before dating, you might as well think of some topics to ask the other person or talk to him or her. When you ask a question to the other party and the other party answers the question, you can talk about your thoughts on the same question. As you listen to the other person speak (or answer your questions), take a breath and think about what else you could talk about next.

4. Keep talking about your ex-boyfriend (girlfriend) or ex-husband (wife)

Get it figured out! Who are you dating now?

What you care about should be the person in front of you, and the content of the chat should help you get to know the other person better. If you keep dwelling on a previous relationship that has ended, it will only make people wonder whether you are still stuck in the past and are not ready or sincere to start a new relationship.

5. Complaining again and again

Some people talk about complaints and accusations. From family members, bosses, colleagues, friends to the puppies at home, it seems that the whole world is complaining. Sorry for him. No one would want to spend more time with a person whose head is full of negative thoughts. Moreover, when the other person takes time out to date you, he wants to get to know you as a person and enjoy a pleasant dating atmosphere. He is by no means forced to accept a bunch of emotional garbage from you.

6. Inquiry into personal privacy

Who would want to be investigated on the first date? Private financial situations such as salary, savings, real estate, etc. are personal privacy. It is not suitable to become a chat topic at the first meeting. Otherwise, the other party may wonder, do you want to date him or his property? In addition, it is best not to discuss personal health and family conditions, the woman's age, weight, etc. There are many other things you can ask the other person about, such as interests, work situation, usual leisure activities, etc. Why touch the landmine on the first meeting?

7. Absent-minded and looking around

When the other party is talking, maintain appropriate eye contact and nod, which means that you are paying attention to what he or she is saying. This is a basic respect for each other. Never listen to him or her while your eyes wander, and your eyes are occasionally pulled away by hot girls and handsome guys walking by, or you frequently look at your watch and make phone calls, as if you want to end the date early. Reaction.

Perhaps, before you can say anything, the other party has already stood up and said to you: "I'm sorry, something happened at the last moment, so let's end it here today!"

8. Avoid topics that can cause controversy

Politics, religious beliefs, gender issues, etc. are all more likely to cause arguments between two people. Gender experts suggest that it is best not to discuss topics on the first date. Use these as topics to avoid provoking unwarranted conflicts on the spot. As a result, the purpose of getting to know each other better through conversation will not be achieved at all.

9. You don’t have enough cash on you to pay your bills. Credit card advertisements always say that you can travel all over the world with one card, but you will still encounter some places where you have to take out cash to pay your bills. In order to avoid the embarrassing situation of being unable to find the cash machine and asking the other party to advance money for you first, it is best to count the cash in your wallet before going out to see if it is enough to cover the cost of the date.

By the way, foreign research has found that when a person often goes out without money, is used to swiping credit cards to pay bills, or rushes to withdraw money every time he pays, it may make others think that you are He is a dependent person.

As for who pays for the first date? Gender experts suggest that it's more appropriate to share expenses together, but you don't have to insist on "each paying his own way" for everything. You might as well change it so that both parties pay different expenses. For example, the man is responsible for the cost of the meal, while the woman pays for the movie ticket. Or you can say: "Thank you for the treat this time, I will treat you to dinner next time." Of course, the prerequisite It's because you still hope to have another chance to meet the other person.

10. Being too eager to develop a relationship

Although "love at first sight" is indeed possible, when you meet for the first time, you are eager to "trap" the other person. It may prompt him or her to tell you in panic: "Thank you, no need to contact you again." Then run away, losing the possibility of further interaction. In fact, it’s still a long time! Both parties also need more opportunities to get to know each other better and determine their feelings for each other. Slow down a bit and focus on how to manage your next date.

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