How to keep married life beautiful? How can married life not be boring? Let’s take a look at ten actions that can help your marriage stay strong.

In the costume drama "Lanling King", the loyal and steadfast love story between the Northern Qi War God Lanling King and the Wuxiantian goddess Yang Xuewu has firmly attracted the attention of the audience. The deep love between Prince Lanling and Yang Xuewu envy many female fans.

Do you want to have a sweet marriage like Prince Lanling? The American "Real Simple" magazine website interviewed a comedian couple who have been married for more than 10 years to find out how they still keep each other smiling after living together for many years. It is said that as long as you fine-tune 10 details in your daily life, your marriage can stay strong and not go to the grave.

1. Recognize that having common standards for family affairs is a rare thing

If you and your significant other can agree on the definition of "clean," there shouldn't be anything that will hold you back that day. If you are someone who smokes once a week but cannot tolerate hair on the ground, you must understand that it is normal for a person to lose 50 to 60 hairs a day. Unless you and your significant other plan to live together wearing dust hats, you may have to take the initiative to smoke every day. 1 to 2 times. If you are the kind of person who can turn a blind eye to dirty dishes in the sink or greasy vegetable residue on the table, you need to find ways to improve your hygiene standards.

2. If your partner offends you, think of him as a little child

Maybe you think this sounds unconstructive, but you may discover the "lovable side" of the other person as a result. Next time, when your husband is doing nothing at home and playing games on his mobile phone, imagine that he is only 5 years old and not a middle-aged, fat man who has not yet taken out the trash, washed the dishes, or hung out the clothes, and you will not find him so hateful. When your wife doesn’t turn off the lights, or buys expensive new pots or new shoes, no matter if she spends your money or not, at that moment imagine her as a five-year-old little girl, and you will feel "she is happy" Just fine."

3. When buying gifts for each other, don’t buy things that “you can use together” or have “ulterior motives”

Usually, if your husband buys a dishwasher or oven, your wife may be delighted, but if it is in the name of a birthday gift or anniversary, your wife may not appreciate it. It's like giving your husband a vacuum cleaner from your wife (the purpose is to get him to vacuum the floor more). It's better to give him his favorite camera and game console, because your gift expresses "I love you, but more importantly, I understand you." "It is indeed not easy for an old couple to please each other, but it is worth the effort because they have been together for so long.

4. It’s good to have backbone, but you have to be flexible towards your partner

Take turns to give in, and don't always say "I have the last word" or "I am right." Unlike others, showing weakness to your partner is a kind of show of love and coquettishness. "Honey, it's not easy to go out and watch a movie. This time I'm going to watch "Iron Man 3" with you. Next time we go out on a date, you have to watch a romantic comedy with me."

5. When your partner talks to you, you can’t make eye contact. It’s better if you can hold his hand

We all have endless work and housework, but we are too busy to see each other and hold hands with each other. This excuse makes us sad, and we will not do this to our children. So put down your phone, whatever you're doing, and find out what's going on with him. When you are feeling depressed, just skip cooking, order pizza, and watch a movie on the sofa together.

6. Accept that your partner wants to stay in the bathroom longer

Sometimes, we just want to be alone in the bathroom for 45 minutes without being disturbed. Therefore, it doesn't matter if your significant other wants to escape from you for a while (just in the bathroom at home). No one is perfect, and we all have times when we are annoying and intolerable, so don’t keep urging him to come out quickly or forcing him to run away further and further away.

7. Don’t make noise in a closed or small space

When two people quarrel, sometimes it's not necessarily the quarrel that offends you, but the space you're in that makes you feel trapped. When something seems wrong, go to a park or green space near your home and sit together before talking. Nature has a healing effect. The vast space, a breeze, and a few birdsong can all help extinguish anger and stabilize the mood. Getting a little more oxygen outdoors can also help you feel clearer.

8. Don’t burp or fart loudly in front of the other person. Please keep 10% of the mystery.

Although relaxing in front of your family is a form of intimacy, seeing your partner cutting their nose hair or removing their body hair often can really hurt your sex appeal. After all, the other half is not your parents. Too many naked and disillusioning details will defeat love.

9. Don’t make trouble in front of relatives and friends

Firstly, when relatives and friends are in trouble, it’s not okay to make peace or take sides. Secondly, everyone comes to the party happily, and you probably don’t want to be labeled as the “party-stopper couple”.

10. It is difficult to create a happy couple in a sexless marriage

Even if you can't have sex for some reason, you still want to let the other person know that you really want or look forward to the next intimate time. Sending flirty messages to the other person can also warm up the relationship.

Today is Chris and I’s tenth wedding anniversary. We met in a newsroom in Columbus, Ohio, USA, when I had just graduated from college. We were both ambitious, dedicated newspaper reporters. Chris had been working there for a year when I joined the editorial staff, and he taught me many of the secrets of my work. We quickly became friends and it was obvious that we both liked each other. Later I found a new job and changed jobs, but we always kept in touch. After sending and receiving numerous flirty emails, we began a long-distance relationship. Chris moved and seven months later we were engaged!

Our lives have had highs (two-year-old son Mason!) and lows (I had to have gallbladder surgery three weeks before the wedding), but I'm proud to say that after ten years of marriage, our marriage is still going strong. hapiness. Does this mean our marriage relationship is perfect? Absolutely not. It just means that we've been listening to some great advice about married life for years, told to us by happy grandparents and parents.

What’s the secret to a sweet life after ten years of marriage?

1. Argue openly.

Don't insult the other person and don't make malicious accusations. It took us years to figure out how to fight, but we finally did it. There were times in our marriage when we drove each other crazy, but we were able to have really friendly arguments, and our family life has always been quite happy.

2. Sleep in the same bed.

Chris's grandparents, Ned and Susie, tell us for sure: the secret to a happy marriage is to sleep together. It's really easy to follow this advice, unless your partner snores. This is the case for me, so I wear noise-cancelling earplugs to sleep, and sometimes kick him to the sofa in the middle of the night.

3. Make sex life a priority.

Thank goodness this one is listed here but we never discuss it with my family (I would be mortified!). But we work really hard at dealing with the inevitable sexual urges and keeping our passions in check.

4. Wait to have children when you want them.

When we got married, having children really put a lot of pressure on us. But my mother encouraged me to ignore the pressure and wait until the time was right to consider having children. We followed the advice and spent seven years enjoying our time together.

5. There is no need to have children.

That's exactly what my mom said. She knew Chris and I talked about the kids often, and she wanted us to know that she would support whatever decision we made.

6. Laugh often.

This was the principle by which my grandparents lived. I am very excitable and have an impulsive type A personality. Chris is a laid-back and funny guy. It's easy to laugh when you're with him, and when we laugh, we feel really happy.

7. Talk, real talk, talk often.

This one was actually told to me by a clinical psychologist. If there is something about the other party that makes you uncomfortable, you should quickly unpack it and analyze it before it becomes a saboteur. Don’t let it ruin your married life.

8. Maintain financial independence.

This one doesn't apply to everyone, but it applies to us. We split the bill equally, and then we spend whatever money we have left. I don’t care about those expensive hockey tickets he buys, and he doesn’t care how many pairs of shoes I have (as long as I keep some of them at work and keep clutter at home to a minimum).

9. Respect his point of view.

When my grandfather gave our wedding speech, he joked, "Chris, you always knew you married the right person, you just didn't realize she was always right." I took his tip to heart. Trying hard to understand what Chris was thinking (even when I knew I was right).

The above is all the secrets of a sweet life after ten years of marriage. I hope you can also use this method to maintain the sweetness of your marriage.