Men cannot withstand temptation, especially sexual temptation. Women, when it comes to love: they are very silly and naive; when they fall in love with a man, they never think about changing. If a man likes to play tricks, women will be ruthless.

Men naturally yearn for romantic encounters, and they have a good appetite. They will basically not reject anyone who comes, because the threshold for sex is not high, especially for revealing sex.

A bird was holding a piece of meat in its beak, ready to swallow it deliciously. At this moment, a fox came down from the tree, and she had an evil thought: she wanted to eat the piece of meat. So, she praised the bird for being so handsome and resembling the singer Jay Chou, "But, I've never heard you sing before!" The bird was so encouraged by her that it began to sing enchantedly, but the meat fell off and hit the fox. No idea. When I told this somewhat adapted fairy tale to my son, he asked me seriously: "Dad, that bird is my uncle and that fox is my aunt!" I laughed. This was also a fairy tale version of an affair.

It is said that the biggest or most common problem that Tang Monk, Zhu Bajie, Sun Wukong, and Sha Monk encountered on their way to the West to learn Buddhist scriptures was related to all kinds of romantic encounters. Journey to the West is the story of romantic encounters.

There are real women and fake beauties, some who are obsessed with marrying their master, some goblins who change their ways to do evil, some who tease them, and some who are sincere. I have never understood why they have so many romantic encounters and stories. In fact, they have so many romantic encounters. The "accident" is the story. More importantly, when an affair happens, this group of special men will be tested. It would be easier if they were all lay disciples; it is their different personalities, origins, hormone levels, tastes, wills and morals that make them... Versions of stories, farces and even jokes that would lead to so many romantic encounters. Among the masters and disciples, Lao Zhu has the most distinctive attitude towards romantic encounters. In one word: happiness. In fact, this is also the instinctive reaction of ordinary people. Anyone who comes will accept the order. Tang Seng's reaction was another extreme: bitter! His life is miserable, he can't eat delicious things and can't afford fun things. From this perspective, Zhu Bajie lives a more chic life than him.

Men naturally yearn for romantic encounters, and they have a good appetite. They will basically not refuse anyone who comes, because the threshold for sex is not high, especially for revealing sex.

The problem is that the old pig often makes jokes and teases, is played by goblins, and loses his principles, responsibility and even basic IQ in the face of women and romantic encounters. In his opinion, the sow also has double eyelids, is open to all kinds of things, and has an excellent appetite. When I saw the goblin bathing in the river, I didn't know what to say, so I asked stupidly: Are you planting rice?

What about Goku? He is relatively calm, even a little aloof. In the past, domestic heroes generally did not approach women, which was more hypocritical, so he was immune to romantic encounters and hated them very much.

It seems that men have three typical feelings when it comes to romantic encounters or the process: Zhu Bajie's happy "pain", Tang Monk's painful "pain", and Sun Wukong's hated "pain". Men who have an affair may generally have such a "three-stage" mental journey.

Nowadays, the lines for men to have an affair are usually: "You look like a friend of mine in the past", "My marriage is stable, but sex can't satisfy me", "Your hair looks delicious when it is let down", "We are all adults..." etc.

Men constantly repeat the roles of the three men in their romantic encounters, from Zhu Bajie's joy, to Tang Monk's pain, and even to Sun Wukong's hatred, which hurts his spinal cord. A man and a woman chatted on a long-distance train and found out that they were both married and on a business trip. After the meal, the two drank a few glasses of wine, and the woman revealed that her husband, who liked to be a womanizer, must have been stealing food while she was away. After hearing this, the man also admitted that he was worried that his wife would cheat on him. At this time, the man suddenly said to the woman: "Since we are in the same boat, why not cooperate and take revenge together." After the passion, the two lay quietly for a few minutes, and just as the man turned over to sleep At this time, the woman said softly: "Do you want to take revenge again?" The man said ashamedly: "I'm sorry! I have forgiven my wife." This is a man. Painful man.

If you really play with sex, men can't play with women.

In an affair, different men have different interpretations. In the past, we liked to say that evaluating a man depends on how he died, which was the yardstick of the revolutionary or war years; now, evaluating a man can also depend on how he loves, and even how he treats an affair. Yes, an affair is like a test, and different men can come up with different test papers.

How should a woman deal with her husband's cheating?

1. Control your emotions and don’t become a hysterical vixen.

After discovering the fact that your husband is cheating on you, you must immediately get angry and try to escalate the matter. Your rage is to let him understand the seriousness of the situation, your attitude that you absolutely cannot accept this matter, and the harm you have suffered as a result, and it is also a punishment for him.

However, you don't want to let the rage last too long or cry all day long. There is an idiom in China: "He becomes angry when he is embarrassed." Originally it was because he did something wrong, but because of your hysteria, it ended up being a shrew's excuse, which made him walk away confidently.

Moreover, in the face of her husband's betrayal, what a deeply wronged wife needs most is her husband's clear regret and apology. But when we were crying hysterically, my husband, who was also very irritable, would inevitably blurt out more hurtful words or do more hurtful behavior when his repeated apologies were ineffective. Therefore, it is very important to learn to restrain your emotions in a timely manner while protecting yourself.

What you have to do is to continue to be angry, but not to make a loud noise that consumes energy (especially when the children are at home), but to be quiet and cold. You need to clearly let him know that you are still angry and let him feel that you are thinking but don't know what the content of your thinking and planning is. If he still cares about this family and you, your unusual silence will scare him. Because he can't predict what will happen next, he will follow you more carefully, step by step, and apologize to you.

Please remember that the key point of the charioteer technique at this time is to make him shudder and automatically disarm, not to compete with someone whose voice is louder or who is stronger, and to make him feel disgusted.

2. Respect yourself and don’t lose your mind and complain everywhere.

Before making a decision, do not go back to your parents' home to complain, and you must not go to his workplace to make a fuss like a crazy woman, or go to his buddies to cry. You have to think calmly, do you need to leave yourself a way out? Yes, leave a way out for yourself, not for him.

If you decide to accept his apology and let him go home, your previous complaint will become a landmine in the future of your marriage. Because in addition to frequently explaining to your parents’ family and appeasing their worries, you also have to resolve your own embarrassing emotions when facing others. Besides, his extramarital lover may have been seen by all your buddies. You must not disgrace yourself and let others judge you for comparison or become a source of entertainment after dinner.

If you decide not to accept his apology and choose to leave, then the farce of this complaint will be even more ridiculous. You must remember that you are the only one who will feel sad about this. The sympathy of others is just a courtesy at best. After the fuss, others will forget about it, leaving us alone to regret our gaffe at that time. However, our natal family is our eternal support. If marriage is no longer possible, crying in the arms of our parents, siblings, is indeed a good comfort.

Please remember that in the face of this battle, your elegant education and superiority are the mirror that dwarfs the third party, and it is also the weapon that allows your husband and her husband's friends to distinguish who is superior. We may still end up losing our marriage, but we gain respect. Most importantly, you gain respect for yourself.

3. Don’t be too sad, don’t let yourself become a dying and miserable woman.

Crying, making trouble, and hanging are an innate ability of women, and they are also a painful trick for us to vent our emotions. But if we use it excessively and let it control our body and mind, then the bitter trick has not succeeded, and we will have become Xianglin's wife with disheveled hair, complaining everywhere, and being hated by everyone.

Facing marriage changes, especially facing betrayal by her husband, is a major destruction of self-esteem and pride for any woman. It is possible that because of this blow, we have disintegrated the values ​​​​that have been able to sustain our lives. Not only do we feel resentment toward our husbands, but also toward the third party who ruined the marriage. Subconsciously, we also feel resentment toward ourselves. As a result, we will become harsh and harsh, punishing ourselves with malicious words and actions. In actions that seem to hurt our husband, we are actually constantly hurting ourselves.

The most typical behavior caused by this kind of psychological state is the expression of deep depression: mourning is greater than a heart-dead indifference; being as weak and haggard as a gossamer; shutting oneself at home and no longer interested in anything. ; And disheveled and slovenly, etc. The above-mentioned emotional reactions and physical and mental manifestations were initially used to punish the gentleman who had done something wrong in an attempt to make him feel bad. But as the days continue to move forward, under the effect of tension and fatigue, he will become more and more numb to our "misery", and even feel tired and bored. At this time, after being hurt a second time, under the inertia of misery, we have truly become Xianglin’s Wife, whom everyone fears.

Please remember, he is the one who did the wrong thing, not me. So there is no need to punish yourself with unavoidable emotions and make yourself unable to recover.

4. Don’t take revenge and don’t do anything you will regret in the future.

Many times, the piercing pain in the heart is like a drug, paralyzing our reason, while the pride that has been trampled and destroyed is like a poisonous snake, gnawing at our heart. People who have been betrayed, especially women, can easily throw themselves into another relationship in a frenzied mood as a weapon of revenge or a tool to win back face.

Indeed, the fastest and most convenient way to heal a relationship is to cover it with a new relationship.

But the problem is that when we are angry and confused, we may fall into an unsuitable relationship because we cannot see our true inner feelings; we may also be too eager for feelings and scare away the original relationship. A promising candidate; we may still be tempted to make the dangerous decision of flying into the flames because the hatred in our hearts is too strong. In short, before our torn wounds have recovered a little, any emotional relationship, whether comfortable or uncomfortable, may be damaged by impure psychological motives, giving ourselves another opportunity to expand and inflame the wound.

Furthermore, a person is most vulnerable and easily deceived when he is vengeful and unclear. Many love stories involving losing wives and losing soldiers often take place in such a background.

Therefore, regardless of whether it is because of anger or revenge, please think twice before deciding to start a new relationship.

5. Don’t worry, time will slowly heal the wounds.

If you work in marriage therapy like I do, you will find in many cases that women are incredibly resilient and brave warriors who are strong enough to forget their pain.

At first, the wound was still oozing with blood, which was shocking, and caused excruciating pain at the slightest touch. Slowly, it began to be covered with yellow-brown scabs that could not be opened. Once opened, blood oozed out again, and the wound started to ooze with even the slightest touch. It still stung; later, the scab on the wound gradually fell off, and thin, fresh skin grew. Occasionally, there was a dull pain and itching, reminding of the previous injury; finally, unknowingly, the wound had completely recovered, leaving only Faint scars, waiting for time for them to disappear completely.

So, don't be afraid, don't worry that you won't be able to get out of this life, be more relaxed with yourself and let time heal the pain.