"I was smart at the beginning, and I was smart at the end. Being so smart almost destroyed myself..." Qi Qin's lyrics have condensed all the experiences of extramarital affairs into the essence. People who have extramarital affairs are always lucky enough to think that they will not be able to do it. Being discovered by others, but the result is often not like this, so why do so many people still cheat?

1. Demonstration effect of family

If parents are unfaithful to each other, the children will have a cynical attitude toward marriage, thinking that extramarital affairs are normal, and it is not surprising to cheat on their partner.

2. Physical desire

If a person feels physiological satisfaction in an extramarital affair, he will be very excited and even addicted to it. Some experts say that this strong physiological need may come from "huge mental pressure, a sense of loss or the pain of separation", or it may be caused by an unusual experience in childhood.

3. The temptation of the illusory network

More and more "online love" is causing the breakdown of marriages that were originally very stable. Experts point out that the convenience and anonymity of the Internet will make many people forget the daily tediousness and pressure of life and gain pleasure.

4. More sex before marriage

The more often you have sex before marriage, the more likely you are to be unfaithful in your marriage. Glass said that if a girl has sex frequently at a young age, she will not be shy about crossing moral boundaries when she gets married.

5. Children-centered marriage

If both husband and wife work and are very busy, they often negotiate to spend all their extra time with their children. In this way, the couple spends very little time alone together. Glass said that at this time, the husband usually finds an intimate person at work who can share the fun of adulthood.

The harm of extramarital affairs is beyond people’s imagination

Some extramarital affairs have a lucky or indifferent mentality about the matter. They think they can handle it well and can tread smoothly even if they "step on two boats". In fact, when an extramarital affair occurs, the relationship between husband and wife and the responsibilities in the family have disappeared. In fact, the harm of extramarital affairs can be seen or not; what can be seen is the change in reality, but what cannot be seen is the distortion of responsibility and morality.

1: "Extramarital affairs" affect physical and mental health. In reality, when a woman encounters the problem of extramarital affairs, she does not want her family to break up, but she still clings to the exciting extramarital affair. She is in a dilemma. In this way, women tend to blame themselves, feel guilty and regret, but cannot get rid of it, which affects their normal life and work, their emotions, and even their physical and mental health.

Two: Destroying family happiness. "Extramarital affairs" among married women often lead to disharmony in their married life, casting a shadow on their originally happy family and leading to divorce. At the same time, the intervention of a woman as a "third party" makes another family restless, and may also tear another good family into pieces.

Three: Damage the husband's self-esteem. A woman engaging in "extramarital affairs" will make her husband a "cuckold." If he knew it, it would be an indelible pain in his heart. As a grown man who cannot control his wife and causes Hongxing to cheat, he will feel that he has lost his dignity as a man and cannot hold his head up in front of others, thus losing his enterprising spirit and affecting his future social life and work. Some emotionally fragile men will lose courage and die depressed. Such serious consequences are also very common in daily life.

Four: Affects the healthy growth of children. Once an "extramarital affair" is known to a child, it will be detrimental to the healthy growth of the child. Spousal discord and cold war will have a negative impact on children. Because parents are their children's first teachers, their words and deeds will have a subtle impact on their children.

Teach you how to prevent extramarital affairs

Article 1: Break through the ordinary

Continuously renew love, constantly create new conditions for each other, and sometimes even deliberately create some episodes. In a word, you just need to transfer what you do in your love life to your married life. For example:

(1) On Valentine’s Day and the other person’s birthday, buy a bouquet of roses and small gifts for the other person;

(2) When you are not around your spouse, call your spouse whenever you are free and care about them;