Many wives misunderstand their husbands’ intentions. Why does this happen? Because husbands are often shy about telling their sexual secrets. But if these secrets of the husband are not revealed, even the most loving couple will become estranged.

Men’s sexual desire is not stronger than that of women

Many women believe that men are very strong in sexual desire. This idea stems from their experiences as girls, when young men their own age were experiencing sexual arousal. Dr. Charles, a psychologist at the University of California, said: "It goes without saying that adolescent men are indeed more full of sexual fantasies and sexual needs than women.

Many young people confuse emotional needs with sexual needs. They often use Sex is used to satisfy emotional needs, and this situation continues into adulthood. When men enter adulthood, the pressure of work and family burden will weaken the strong sexual desire in adolescence. Of course, a small number of people have always had strong sexual desire, which cannot be generalized. The same is true for women. ”

Professor Levin of the University of Los Angeles found through a survey that among couples with disharmony in their sexual lives, the husband is often the one who suffers from sexual frigidity. The age difference is an important factor. Men's sexual climax is usually before the age of thirty, while women show a strong interest in sex around the age of forty.

So, what should couples with uncoordinated sexual desires do? Complaining is of no use, and understanding and loving exchanges are crucial. Here are a few things you can do:

Give each other physical caress—whether or not it leads to sex.

Both parties should not think about sex for the time being and concentrate on emotional communication. Dr. Coney of Oakland Medical College was deeply touched by this: "David was one of my patients - a young man with a great physique, but his sexual desire was low. Later he and his wife Laura accepted my suggestion that before having sex, the couple should After talking passionately in bed for an hour, David miraculously regained his sexual desire, and the longer they talked, the more sexual excitement he felt."

Men don’t just want to do “that thing”

For a 20-year-old guy, it may be right to always want to do “that thing”. But for an adult married man, he prefers various levels of marital communication rather than just satisfying sexual requirements.

Sometimes all a man needs is a hug, a kiss or a gentle whisper. Sexual intercourse in its purest sense has little appeal to married men.

Love is a stimulant that induces sexual pleasure in men

Although some people have reservations about this, surveys show that many men think that sex life without love is boring. “I feel a sense of peace and warmth with my dear wife by my side.” Liu Qiang, who has been married for six years, said, “Spending time in bed with a wife who truly understands you is completely different from simple sexual intercourse. Two different things."

Men tend to like wives who can invest emotionally in sex, so that he can get stronger physical and mental pleasure.

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Men also need a prelude to make love

Zhao Dacheng is a 29-year-old engineer who has been married for 3 years.

He said bluntly: "I hope my wife knows that I am not willing to always take the initiative in sex life. This is not because I am frigid, nor is it because she lacks charm."

People often have a misunderstanding that the man always seems to be in the active position in sexual life. This misunderstanding is largely due to the exaggerated descriptions in some literature and film and television works. Once it is inconsistent with real life, women begin to doubt their own charm, and men begin to doubt their own functions.

In fact, men, like women, need a prelude before making love. Li Mao, who has been married for 8 years, said: "Sometimes I really don't know what to do. My wife always preconceptions that I don't need any caressing to get sexual pleasure. I long for the feeling of being loved - the occasional passionate kiss and caressing. The touch really makes me ecstasy, but I am embarrassed to speak."

Men want to see women taking the initiative to send "sexual bombs"

"I hope every woman can realize that the vast majority of men will be excited about women taking the initiative to send "sexual bombs" No matter what, it will elevate a man’s mood and stimulate his ambition, thus increasing his love for his wife,” said a sexologist.

In order to test how men respond to the "sexual bombs" proactively issued by their wives, he recently conducted an interesting experiment: He then selected 138 men and imagined 4 types of sex lives - two of which One is that neither man nor woman takes the initiative; the other two are that both parties take turns to take the initiative. It turns out that the traditional model of men taking the initiative is not popular. And men react strongly to women taking the initiative. Men are more willing for women to play the leading role in sex life. This is because it can arouse men's potential desires and relieve men from the responsibility of assuming the protagonist of sexual life.

In fact, many women also have the desire to take the initiative to approach their husbands. The reason why they are hesitant and dare not take action is because they are not sure of their husbands' intentions: first, they are afraid of increasing the pressure on their husbands; second, they are worried about being rejected by their husbands. In fact, when men take the initiative, isn't it true? Many wives hope to get a warm response from their husbands when they take the initiative.

Spiritual communication is the key for a wife to understand her husband’s sexual secrets. If couples can be honest with each other and tell each other what makes them happiest during sex, then you have taken the first step in eliminating the sexual barriers between you and strengthening your relationship as a couple. In addition, whether in the bedroom or elsewhere, couples should say more sweet words expressing understanding and love. In this way, you will find that the distance between husband and wife will be further shortened, and a happy and harmonious sex life is waving to you.

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