Many people have this experience. After entering into marriage, when the mystery between husband and wife disappears, the heart-pounding actions, the caring eyes, and the sweet and romantic love words gradually become dust in the memory. But don’t forget, both men and women need the nourishment of love.

Li Ting, 32, has been married for eight years. She works as a sales director in a company. Whenever she gets into trouble with her husband or is in a bad mood, she would ask Zhang Dong out for tea or a walk. Zhang Dong, a lawyer, often asks Zhang Dong for help from men. The angle helps her analyze the problem, and the conversation is eloquent and humorous. The content of their conversation can be unlimited and often touches the most private areas in the heart. This is something Li Ting's best girlfriend and other male friends cannot do.

However, she and Zhang Dong have been together for many years without any emotional dislocation. They only have more warm concern and sincerity than ordinary friends. Li Ting knew in her heart that if she was asked to choose again, she would still choose her current husband. What makes Li Ting particularly proud is that her husband is very confident about her extroverted communication. He encourages his wife not to lose her independence and self after getting married.

Emotional sorting

If the love between you is not extinguished and you are unwilling to hold the arm of a "third party", "spiritual romance" will naturally become the choice of most people.

"Spiritual encounters" easily appear among those who hope to find romance and release themselves. When they feel the dullness of life and the conflicts in their hearts, they find a vent in this way. When the passion and impulse pass, they Still ensuring the tranquility of the water of life. Therefore, spiritual romance has become a red prescription that some people prescribe for themselves.

How to treat the "spiritual affair" that has different opinions

1. Spiritual encounters can satisfy temporary pleasure. Virtual romance is a mysterious garden deeply rooted in the heart. People who fall into it just use it to add more romantic feelings to their marriage, absorb the fruits of joy in spiritual romance, and graft its fragrance into real life, so that The intimacy between you and your significant other becomes revitalized.

2. Spiritual romance is good for physical and mental health. Spiritual romance can satisfy the temporary emotional deficiency in marriage, has a psychological therapeutic effect, and can be regarded as a remedy for maintaining a happy marriage.

3. Spiritual encounters can make the intimate relationship between the sexes more dynamic. If there is such a kind of feeling that is outside the love between men and women and suddenly breaks into your heart, you might as well ask yourself: Why does it happen? Is the problem with you or is there a red flag in your marriage?

4. It can alert the other spouse to launch a strong "marriage defense war." My marriage has been "threatened" and my lover is about to "betray" me. It will arouse a strong sense of worry in the other spouse, thus consciously doing a good job in marriage management.

Of course, the danger of "spiritual romance" does not exist. The huge driving force behind "spiritual love" is the conflict between sexual energy and psychology, but at the same time, marriage is an art of reconciliation, and the important thing is to grasp the scale of saltiness and sweetness. Once a spiritual encounter occurs in a happy marriage, you are not actually tired of the ordinary life. On the contrary, it is a spice that interprets healthy emotions!

A little jealousy can bring you closer

Everyone will feel uncomfortable when they see their lover chatting intimately with a non-relative of the opposite sex. This uncomfortable feeling is jealousy. Most cases of jealousy are due to the appearance of a "third party" that breaks the balance between the two people, causing one of them to become uncomfortable.

Jealousy is a normal psychological state and a normal reaction to protect one's love from being violated. Therefore, jealousy can be said to be an expression of love, and a little vinegar can be the spice of love.

On the contrary, those who have no emotional reaction when they meet a "third party" are abnormal and may mean that they do not deeply love their significant other.

How you behave when you are jealous varies from person to person. Some people are very jealous and will fully express their anger and dissatisfaction, while some people will suppress themselves and don't seem to be jealous at all.

Although as a kind of jealousy, jealousy itself is understandable, but too much "jealousy" will not only not be the seasoning of love, but also become the killer of love.

If the "jealous" lover can give up love for freedom, then this love will soon end with a breakup. On the contrary, if the "jealous" lover will give up his freedom because of love, then this love should be It's perfect.

No matter what, whether it's because of distrust or desire for possession, you can't be too jealous. Spending all day snooping into your lover's privacy by any means necessary because you are suspicious of your lover will quickly bring about the collapse of an originally harmonious family.

It is not wrong to be jealous, but poor control of measurement is a fatal flaw in love. Trust is the basis for two people to establish a relationship. If you want to take good control of your significant other, learn to trust him.