Every time I try to give up the fantasy of plump women and try to be satisfied with my current life, I can't get rid of the passion I feel when I see the type of woman I like.

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I am 31 years old and she is 26 years old. It has been 4 years since we met and we have been living together for more than 2 years. But when I see a plump, beautiful girl, the idea of ​​continuing with her will waver. That kind of woman has an intuitive and deep attraction to me.

However, the girl I want is not only attractive to me with her figure and appearance, but also has common values ​​​​and consumption concepts. I have also told myself countless times that I am just a man with ordinary appearance, height, family background, and education, but I have such high requirements, which is an almost impossible task.

It has been 4 years since I met my girlfriend and we have been together for more than 2 years, but we have never had real sex. My mind has been wavering and I can never give her a sense of security. Therefore, even though we were intimate, she always had reservations. Later, she no longer had any desire to lie next to her. During this period, I also had the experience of soliciting prostitutes. She found out accidentally and chose to forgive me. However, she said that if we want to continue to develop, we must have our property notarized before marriage, and promise that if sexual infidelity occurs after marriage, we will voluntarily leave the house. Currently, my family has a new house for my wedding, and the decoration is also done by my family alone.

I have wanted to give up on my girlfriend many times. But I am afraid: after giving up on her, will I still be able to find my ideal girlfriend with low EQ and low IQ? I am also afraid that I will regret it after giving up, regretting that I gave up such a good girl and gained nothing. She rents a house with me in another place, is willing to live together, is willing to fight with me, is willing to give up so many suitors in order to wait for this relationship, is able to discuss, discuss, and give me advice on career, is able to contribute savings for her family, But I only wear clothes that cost tens of dollars, and I can tolerate me spending money on sex when I am alone... At the same time, she is about to face an unemployment crisis, and I can't bear to let her suffer another emotional blow.

My friends all advised me to cherish her. Because there are many girls who have a figure and appearance, but there are very few girls whose personalities are compatible with mine and who are so noble on the inside. Moreover, in the course of decades of life, sexual life is only a short period of time, not to mention that being thin will not have a substantial impact on the harmony of sexual life.

From being repelled and disliked at the beginning, to gradually accepting it and acknowledging the relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend, to talking about marriage getting closer and closer, I never felt passion or love for her, and I was not sure about such a marriage. Whether it can stand the test.

Every time I try to give up the fantasy of plump women and try to be satisfied with my current life, I can't get rid of the passion I feel when I see the type of woman I like. I ask Xiao Longnu to give me some advice on what choice I want to make.

Reply:

Food and sex are human nature. If a girl is good at everything, but has no sexual attraction to you, then I think there are good reasons for you not to love her. If you force yourself to marry her, you will definitely suffer a lot, which is quite pitiful.

Your girlfriend is undoubtedly a good girl. She is willing to work hard and live with you, help you in your career, and is frugal and generous to her family. These are rare qualities. The most surprising thing is that she can tolerate you soliciting prostitutes outside. She knows that you are not committed to her and are not very interested in her body, but she is still willing to wait for this relationship. Generally speaking, women are exclusive in their feelings and find it difficult to tolerate men's half-heartedness. From this perspective, she is indeed quite tolerant.

For such a good girl, you don't have to love her, but you can't disrespect her. The biggest reason why you don't want to break up with her now is not because you love her and can't let her go, but because you are afraid that you won't find someone better than her after the breakup. I have to say, this is close to being obscene.

Indeed, it is possible that you will not find anyone better than her. However, because of this selfish mentality, do you want to hoard a good girl you don't love like gold and real estate? This is not good to her, it is using her emotions to kidnap her. You have no passion or love for her, but your heart flutters when you see a plump woman. If you marry her, you will definitely not be able to bring her happiness, and you will most likely cheat on her in the future. This is so unfair to her.

Now that you break up with her, she may suffer temporary pain, but she will avoid a lifetime of misfortune. She is only 26 years old and will still have as many suitors as before, and among them there must be men who love her and don't mind her thin figure. Of course, many people will say you are stupid, but if you do this, won’t you feel that your conscience will be easier?