As the saying goes, there are no couples who don’t quarrel. A couple fights at the head of the bed and ends at the end of the bed. It's normal to have arguments in a marriage. However, there are countless cases of divorce resulting from fighting. Quarrel is as simple and inevitable as daily necessities, and it accompanies every couple who gets along. The most ancient traditional way of seeking peace is an interpretation of the classic life of modern marriage. This is not only a return to tradition, but also a transcendence of today's hypocritical ways of seeking peace. In the relationship between husband and wife, the status of sex is increasingly evident. Following sexual punishment and sexual reward, a brand new concept is being used unconsciously by most families.

The heroine Juanzi: He is very good, but I don’t think this can alleviate anything. I will never encounter a man as bad as him in this life.

I got to know him online. He can always pretend to be some character to communicate with me. I gave up my job in my hometown and came to the capital. When I first met him, he had just fallen from his position as a small manager due to bankruptcy. We didn’t have a spacious house or a generous salary. After falling in love for a year, we, who belong to the Beipiao tribe, became a couple in need.

He started desperately asking me for money. His job has never been fixed, and he almost leaves late and comes home early every day. I started to wonder if he had another woman out there. There are often calls from women on his mobile phone. I asked his friends, but it was no use! They all turned towards him as if they were colluding. Occasionally I could hear the voice of his ex-girlfriend, and sometimes I heard rumors about another girl.

I tried to help him contact jobs and find him a position as a security guard. He quit after working for only a month. The deposit he had used to pay for the walkie-talkie was gone. Is he just showing off to others, as his friends have reminded him? do not know either. Anyway, I have to smoke every day, which requires dozens of dollars of pocket money every day. Occasionally, he would watch others bet and play cards by himself.

I know that he used to enjoy driving a car, but now he is no longer a young man. He is unwilling to do small things and has no funds to do big things, so he wanders around all day long. In fact, he was depressed inside, a frustrated man on the verge of decadence. He always wants to make a lot of money in one fell swoop. I found a job for him as a driver a while ago. He works late at night. He arrives at work at 4 or 5 pm, goes out to other places at 7 or 8 pm, returns to Beijing at 3 or 4 am, and returns home at 6 or 7 am. Later, he got into trouble by fighting with others, so he stopped doing it.

His change towards me started in October last year. The time he spent with my mother made him sensible, and he began to want to go home. Only then did he have the consciousness of buying a house.

During this period, we quarreled many times, and every time, it was almost about money. The biggest reason we fight is money. These days, he often takes money from home and leaves. He said he was going to do some errands and would come back immediately after finishing the work. Take three or four hundred, or five or six hundred at a time. Basically, I get a large amount of more than a thousand yuan every month. He promised to come back immediately after finishing his work, but no one was seen.            Every time, after disappearing for five or six days, she comes back. After I came back, I ignored him. I didn't ask and he didn't explain. Usually he would always use these words to excuse himself: There are some things that are inconvenient for you to know, and the less you know, the better. "Let's get you something to eat", "Let's buy food and cook"! He started cooking as soon as he came back. I am reading. "You should put your glasses down a little, so you look like an old lady!"

"Come here, give me a hug." He was very good at coaxing. His enthusiasm for me never diminished and he would always ask me what I was doing when he came back. He forced himself on me. I scratched him, to no avail. He thought this would ease our relationship. It may be that the man is a little inclined in that direction, not to mention he wants money! He always wants to make it up to me in that way. He was very comfortable, but I actually felt nothing. I used to be very nervous about this kind of thing when I was in love, but at that time, if two people were in a particularly happy mood, this kind of thing would happen naturally, and it would feel wonderful. And in a situation like this, when he did this when I was not prepared, I was already numb. I don't think that's going to alleviate anything.

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It wasn’t until my anger subsided that our relationship eased.

I like the unique Northeast flavor in his speech. Once, a shoe shine shop launched a membership card, which cost 100 yuan per card. How much does it cost? Five yuan a time. What to do after moving? Hurry, take advantage of the half-price membership price and wipe him 40 times.

The reason why I can get along well with him is because he is very well-behaved. Maybe in the eyes of others, I am spoiling him. The reason why we were able to relax was because I had him in my heart. He is so pitiful! He has no one to take care of him, he is like a child, and I like him just like a child.

My request to him is very simple. If he comes home on time every day, I won’t be angry.

Actor Yusheng: Sexual stimulation is the best way for couples to quarrel

There are generally four reasons why couples quarrel.

The first is the emotional factor. There are both personality and physical aspects. This emotion only involves the feelings of the couple. Over time, if the clothes become old, the feelings will fade.

The second is the material reasons of life. Every man basically wants to satisfy his wife’s material requirements. Men have nothing to gain from satisfying women's demands, but some women do not view such demands with gratitude, but take them as a matter of course. This makes men less and less aware of meeting women's material needs.

The third is family social relations. Marriage turns two single relationships into a composite relationship. Not only do the main family members and social relationships of both parties need to be recognized, but the concepts and evaluations are also different. I never experienced such stimulation when I was in love. Later, the pressure became more and more intense, so I finally gave up. Those who belong to the third situation can still be friends even after divorce.

Fourth is affair. There are roughly two types. One is helpful in career, such as secretary and assistant. Everyone is grateful, but the way of gratitude and repayment is different before the time comes. The other type is those who have physiological needs and are in a state of hunger and thirst. The divorce success rate is highest in this case. The biggest focus of divorce is sexual disharmony.

When couples quarrel, sexual stimulation is the best way. One sex can make all conflicts and problems disappear without a trace. A cold war between husband and wife will only intensify the conflict, but making love can reconcile the estranged couple.

As long as two people like each other, there should be no problem in communicating. The conflict between husband and wife is not a deep hatred. After all, it is still a center, a common family. But a reconciliation after an affair is actually still a hostile relationship. The most important thing for a husband and wife to love each other is sexual harmony.

Experts online: Communication is the main method, sex is only a supplementary method

Marriage and family counseling experts

When couples quarrel, communication is the main method, and sex is only a supplementary method.

Of course, this can only be easily solved if there are no fundamental issues. Making love is just a way of communicating feelings, and we cannot look at it in a vulgar way.

Sexual satisfaction is only a physiological need, and spiritual pursuit is a higher state.

Relatively speaking, women are less likely to express their love directly.

No matter whether you are a man or a woman, it will be difficult to express yourself if you are too direct.

We cannot always keep our perspective at the level of ordinary people because the main reason for divorce in society is sex. We should also look at it from a higher level, advocating both emotional and natural expressions and paying attention to the spirit. Communication and spiritual communication make couples’ life more interesting and joyful.

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