A Sexually Free Country: Americans’ “naked” sex education

Before I came to the United States, I heard that the United States was a “sexually free” country. As expected, I learned a lesson not long after I entered school.

The school cafeteria has a "table topic" every week, which is written next to the number of each table for students to chat while eating. The first "topic" I encountered was "How much do you know about sex?" Looking at the eye-catching "SEX", I blushed. It was so embarrassing to talk about sex with so many unfamiliar classmates in such a public place! But those American classmates didn't care. They talked about sperm, eggs, and harmonious sexual life, just like talking about the limbs and facial features of the body.

Three weeks later, my friend Gina invited me to her 21st birthday party. In the United States, turning 21 is a turning point in life and a symbol of adulthood. The law stipulates that after the age of 21, you are no longer bound by your parents, and you can get married, start a family, and have children.

Nearly 50 relatives and friends were invited to Gina’s birthday party. The first program was very innovative, asking all the female guests to use plasticine to make small gifts to express their congratulations. Choose one of these "works" as your favorite.

What are you pinching? I suddenly remembered that when I was a child in handicraft class, the little monkey I pinched was praised by the teacher. Fortunately, the "craft" was not wasted. Soon, a lively and cute little monkey was placed in front of Gina. I thought Gina would definitely choose it.

After a while, other works "came out one after another", including red apples, little ducks, and mobile phones. Suddenly, I found a large male genitalia standing next to my little monkey. My face suddenly turned red, and even my ears felt hot. God, how ridiculous! Gina is only 21 years old. She doesn't even have a boyfriend. How can she accept such congratulations?

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What surprised me even more was that amidst the applause of everyone, Gina chose the male genitals without any hesitation, without any shyness on her face. Later, my American classmates told me that when they were in middle school, their teachers taught them how to use condoms. Especially female students, they have long known that using condoms can protect themselves from pregnancy and prevent the occurrence of AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases. Mike and Gina also told me that they experienced parenthood when they were in junior high school. It turns out that many middle schools in the United States offer a one-week "parenting" internship class. The school assumes that a boy and girl will be the father and mother and jointly raise a newborn "baby." The doll is equipped with a computer program that causes it to cry loudly every few hours, forcing parents to change the child's diaper and insert a pacifier. If the parents are lazy, the baby will cry non-stop. Even in the middle of the night, the baby will still "cry" again and again according to the preset setting. The homework given to students by the school is to record all the situations and describe how they were taken care of. If parents forget their children because they are playful, or are lazy and ignore their children, they will definitely fail their homework.

After listening to their narrations, I finally realized the original intention of offering this course to middle school students in the United States - in addition to letting teenagers experience the hardships of feeding children, it also issued a warning: pregnancy and becoming a mother, Unlike the "housekeepers" of childhood, young people must not leave themselves with countless problems in the rest of their lives because of temporary ignorance and negligence. It seems that in the past, I had an illusion about Americans talking about "sex" nakedly, thinking that they only wanted sex and did not recognize love.

I heard that since the 1960s, the "sexual liberation" trend has influenced the United States for more than 10 years. Since the 1980s, more and more American teenagers have begun to pursue traditional sexual concepts and insist on maintaining sex before marriage. virginity. Many American female students realize that sexual liberation and even sexual debauchery bring much more serious harm to women than men. Unexpected pregnancy, miscarriage, etc. will often have more negative impacts on their futures.

In recent years, the emphasis on virginity among American teenagers is closely related to the youth abstinence measures adopted by the Bush administration. When Bush came to power, he made it clear that he would promote abstinence and oppose extramarital affairs in the United States, and funded more than 700 "abstinence education" projects in 50 states across the United States. Later, this funding increased by 30% to 1.35 One hundred million U.S. dollars.

The changes in the American concept of "sex" remind me of the words of a scholar: "Americans' openness and honesty about 'sex' has made the originally mysterious topic seem more relaxed, and seems to have made the respect for emotions less important." People seem insignificant. However, one thing is certain, most Americans respect sexual behavior and regard it as an important part of their emotions."