When having sex, most men often fantasize about their female partners having sex in the way they can imagine... In the scripts of men's sexual fantasies, the protagonists are usually not Swiss girls with big breasts or sexy stars in porn films. But a woman who can be touched, has flesh and blood, and belongs to him. Because for men with high sexual desire, a female companion is most likely to make his fantasies come true.

Men often fantasize about having sex with another woman...she may be his previous female partner, or a woman who once aroused his sexual desire. There is no need to find a psychiatrist. It is true that men often fantasize about having sex with a new woman, but this does not always mean that they are indifferent to their current girlfriend. On the contrary, this kind of hidden, slightly guilty sexual fantasy will give them Sex adds passion, and a woman who pursues a man’s thoughts during sex is definitely not a smart woman. If a woman is jealous and jealous just because a man fantasizes about having sex with another woman, she is a stupid woman.

Sexual fantasies are not just for men

Are sexual fantasies just for men? Absolutely wrong. This is the delusion of a woman who is afraid, ashamed, and afraid to accept that she also has sexual fantasies. Regardless of why they resist sexual fantasies, let's look at the sexual creativity of other women.

More and more women like sexual fantasies because their self-confidence has increased and they hope to have freedom in their sexual lives. However, because it is not easy to find a truly safe, approachable and reliable sexual partner, women especially like sexual fantasies. Especially targeting celebrities, celebrities, and men around you who are worthy of admiration. Men's sexual fantasies are natural physiological phenomena, while women's sexual fantasies are more of a physiological phenomenon of self-enhancement.

Women will choose the best man as the object of their sexual fantasies, but men may be able to satisfy their desires with just any AV girl. Look, women's taste is always higher than that of men. It's not because women don't have primitive animality, but because women pay more attention to the pursuit of quality, and there must be other conditions besides appearance to satisfy women's desires.

Two hearts are relatively more intimate when they are honest

Sexual fantasies may work best when a couple openly communicates their fantasies to each other. The process of exchanging sexual fantasies is a process of understanding each other between sexual partners. When two hearts are honest and facing each other, it is impossible for them not to get closer, and the sex life between them cannot not be full of greater fun. The process of communicating sexual fantasies is also a process of sexual induction.

In the process of a person revealing his/her secret fantasies in person, he/she will undoubtedly achieve a high degree of sexual excitement, which will make subsequent sexual intercourse more exciting. There was once a man who had many sexual fantasies about a nurse who was in the hospital. After he told his wife these fantasies, the smart woman whispered during sexual caress: "Now the nurse is here and she is caressing her." You, she climbed on top of you..." The husband became highly excited, and both parties experienced a real climax during the lovemaking that day because the wife joined in her husband's sexual fantasy.

Appropriate sexual fantasies can increase the pleasure of sexual life

In sex, no one can have perfect sex forever. Maybe one day you suddenly find that the passion that once brought you infinite joy has disappeared like smoke in the past. Do you understand the reason for this embarrassment? Medical experts call this phenomenon of sudden disappearance of orgasm "interrupted orgasm." In fact, it is much more difficult for women to reach orgasm than for men. But as long as you find out the reason and take the right medicine, I believe you will still find the incomparable joy you had when the two sexes mingle.

Method 1: Know your body

Sometimes, the reason why we feel that the sexual intercourse is boring is because there is a lack of intimate contact between the two sexes, insufficient sexual foreplay, or you lack an understanding of your own body, your own sexual sensitive zones and sensibilities. If you don't understand, you can't tell your partner about your sexual needs, so it's very difficult to achieve a satisfactory level of sensual pleasure when you actually operate.

Method 2: Understand your own sexual experience cycle

Generally speaking, the secretion of hormones in the human body affects sexual desire. Abnormally low secretion of love hormones, progesterone, and testosterone in the human body can reduce sexual desire, cause abnormal uterine contractions, and even change the sensitivity to orgasm. Irregular menstruation and pelvic pain can prevent orgasm. When women enter menopause, secretion disorders will affect their sexual desire. Different chemicals in the brain can also affect sexual satisfaction, and many times, sedatives, antihistamines used to treat allergies, can weaken sexual desire and reduce sexual performance.

Method 3: Appropriate sexual fantasies can increase your sexual sensitivity

In the lives of both sexes, romantic sexual fantasies are the most effective weapon in creating a perfect sex life. If you are unable to concentrate during sex and your mind is filled with the trivial matters of daily life, then you will not be able to enjoy the pleasure of orgasm no matter what. The correct way is to take a deep breath before making love, focus on yourself and the moment in front of you, close your eyes, spread the wings of your imagination, and imagine that the other person's breath has penetrated your whole body, flowing through every inch of your skin, and feeling The ecstatic touch between the other person's fingertips and your skin.

"Today's society is becoming more and more tolerant, and people's desire for expression is becoming stronger and stronger. From having sex in the wild, to having sex in parks under the cover of night, in cars, to teasing the opposite sex on the Internet... these things were unthinkable before. Not only did it happen, but it was also dizzying. Wang Yiran introduced a case she received: Jason, who had just returned from Italy, had the urge to post his sexual details on his blog.

"Today's society is becoming more and more tolerant, and people's desire for expression is becoming stronger and stronger. From having sex in the wild, to having sex in parks under the cover of night, in cars, to teasing the opposite sex on the Internet... these things were unthinkable before. Not only did it happen, but it was also dizzying. This is not only a matter of personal choice in young people’s private lives, but may also affect the sexual psychology of the entire society.” Wang Yiran, a doctor of sexology in Hong Kong, has been paying attention to alternative sex for a long time. Faced with the recent intensification of the three "alternative sex" trends of video sex, lathe sex promotion, and disclosure of sexual privacy, she felt she had something to say.

1. Lathe sex may cause premature ejaculation

A survey on the sexual behavior of young people in Europe showed that more than 60% of European young people like to "have sex in a car instead of a bed"; in Taiwan, as many as 25% said that sexual passion is only found in the car; a Japanese A survey shows that 40% of women hope to share "sexual" happiness with their lover in the car.

Wang Yiran believes that there is no doubt that as a way to increase sexual passion, there is nothing wrong with outdoor sex, lathe family, and video masturbation. However, if it is widely publicized as a special preference in sexual life, many young people will feel that it is not like this. It's very dangerous if you can't experience the excitement of sex.

"Especially lathe sex. In a small and enclosed space, every breath is accompanied by tension. It is an amplified pleasure of adventure, intertwined with tension and mild guilt, such as the worry of being peeped or disturbed. etc., but from the perspective of sexual medicine, this kind of pleasure derived from fear can easily bring greater psychological pressure to people. Under this kind of pressure, young people are most likely to suffer from premature ejaculation. Over time, it is likely to develop into psychological ED (erectile dysfunction)."

"So, this is definitely not a sexual method worth recommending to young people. It will have a negative impact on the physical and mental health of both parties."

2. Cyber ​​sex makes the spirit empty

Years ago, details of cybersex were mentioned in a science fiction movie. Men and women do not need physical contact, and can complete the entire process from sex to childbirth through sensors. Today, this kind of plot is no longer science fiction. The popularity of online sex has brought new topics to sexology researchers.

A recent survey of people over the age of 18 in the country by a large American website showed that 10% of netizens are addicted to video masturbation, which has affected their normal lives and interactions to varying degrees. Another website's online sex survey showed that among Internet users aged 18 to 45, the rate of sexual motivation was as high as 44%.

Many Internet fans are addicted to video masturbation to relieve the sexual pressure in reality. It started as pornographic text chatting, then evolved into pornographic video chatting, and then evolved into video masturbation.

Gradually, these cannot satisfy the increasingly expanding sexual needs. Sexual fantasies fill the brain all the time, and then they will meet with netizens and play pornographic games.

The essence of sex is originally possession and communication, but online sex allows people to simulate this process in fantasy. There is no communication, just possession. At first, this may satisfy part of his sexual repression, but later on, people will become obsessed with the stimulation and convenience brought by online sex, and fall into an even more empty and illusory world. "Addiction not only destroys their spirit, but will eventually destroy their lives. I think that just like cigarettes have health warnings, pornographic websites should also display warnings in prominent places on their web pages to prevent people from logging into such websites. People know the dangers.”

3. Disclosure of sexual privacy

A few years ago, many avant-garde writers used the banner of "writing with the body". Now, with the popularity of online blogs, many ordinary people are also keen to make their sexual privacy public.

Wang Yiran introduced a case she received: Jason, who had just returned from Italy, had the urge to post his sexual details on his blog. He said that this is quite normal among Italian friends, and friends who are keen on it regard it as a spice and excitement in their sexual life. But domestic colleagues find it difficult to accept this. After he refrained from writing, he no longer felt excited during sex, and his heart became uncomfortable.

Wang Yiran believes that there are usually two explanations for people who like to disclose their sexual privacy: First, physiologically, it is likely that the level of male hormone secretion in the body is too high, there are too many sexual requirements, and there is a tendency to be sexually excited. The sexual details written may not be true, but are just a way for him to satisfy himself. The second is that he has psychological problems. He has a strong and abnormal desire for expression, and hopes to satisfy his psychological demands by disclosing sexual privacy, which is the most eye-catching way. It's normal to have sex in private, but it's not the norm to have sex in public.

If you continue to be addicted to this, you are very likely to feel alienated when dealing with the opposite sex in the future, and in severe cases, you will develop sexual psychological disorders. Such people should reflect on whether their real sex life is healthy and consult a psychologist if necessary.

Postscript: How and where you do it is your own choice, but you have to weigh it up to see if these practices are beneficial to your body and mind. Although it is said that young people should have personality, but we also need to understand scientific principles, right?