How much sex do you have?

If someone asked you how your love life or marriage was going, how would you answer? Don’t know how to answer? Let’s take a look at your love situation and listen to the advice of emotional and psychological experts!

TEST Love Temperature Test

How many of the following 10 statements are consistent with your love status? You just need to write down the number of YES times. Before making an answer, be sure to think carefully or think back, because every point is important!

Sex

Unless we are particularly busy at work or one of us is sick, the frequency of sex is generally maintained at more than three times a week.

In the last two months, we have tried at least one new position or sex technique.

Communication

In the past week, we have had interesting conversations that had nothing to do with work, but were not limited to trivial matters in life.

In recent life, there have been no more than two real quarrels.

Happiness

We had a good laugh at least once in 3 days.

We've had at least one real date out in the past two weeks.

Intimacy

The last time we watched TV together, we had physical contact that was not deliberately "manufactured" - his arm on my shoulder, our Holding hands together or my feet on his legs, etc.

In the past 24 hours, we have had physical contact other than sex, such as kissing, hugging, or cuddling in bed.

Appreciation

In the past week, he has expressed appreciation for me or expressed gratitude for something I did for him, and I have expressed similar feelings to him. representation.

In the past month, when we were with our friends, we had at least once praised each other or fully supported each other. Even when we were playing cards, we seemed to have a very tacit understanding and unity. .

“Tear-jerking and soul-stirring love romances are all written by screenwriters who want to earn the audience’s tears. The calm love lives around us, including our own, never seem to have anything to do with those stories. Although we understand the truth that "plainness is the truth," this kind of love that makes us feel "lukewarm" can easily become a piece of tasteless food."

9 to 10 points: piping hot

6 to 8 points: slow simmer

3 to 5 points: lukewarm

0 to 2 points: freezing< /p>

Hot 9 to 10 points

Although saying "congratulations" is a bit cliche, the relationship between you and your lover is indeed worthy of the envy of many people. But think about it carefully, your love definitely contains these characteristics: you will share each other's innermost thoughts; you will not take each other's efforts for granted; you will deliberately create some fun and surprises; you will have harmony , hot sex life.

While you are intoxicated with this 100-degree love life, you should also understand what is the biggest challenge in relationships - sooner or later there will be differences between you. When disagreements arise, should you stick to your personalities or compromise for the sake of love? This is the most severe test that many people who are deeply in love face.

Marriage experts analyze that many people who are addicted to passionate love, after establishing a happy and strong balanced relationship, will be very afraid of "making trouble" and fearing that this perfect relationship will be broken. But in fact, if two people are honest with each other and put the issues on the table, the relationship will be stronger. The process of problem-solving can deepen your trust and loyalty to each other.

Slowly simmer for 6 to 8 minutes

When you keep the water of love burning on the fire but forget to add firewood, the churning water will gradually become smaller and the feelings will be lost. The novelty, excitement and excitement in it will all diminish. Although partners at this stage still enjoy the beauty of love, mediocrity has slowly eroded your lives. Of course, your scores are already very high, which proves that you still have many opportunities to return to the "boiling point".

"Being content with the status quo" is the inducement that causes love to slowly cool down. You have become accustomed to everything about each other, and the surprises and excitement in life are diminishing. That's right, there is no conflict between you, you just lack the motivation to continue pursuing love. If you want to change this situation, you should first break your usual "love routine". Inviting a few friends to go camping on the weekend or spending a whole day "activating" in bed or in a restaurant can add freshness to your life and add passion to your already "immune" sex life.

Even if you don't have enough time, you can still arrange some "programs" at will, such as going to an outdoor concert or attending a wine tasting party to increase topics between you.

Take it warm for 3 to 5 minutes

The pressure and calmness of life make us ignore the passage of passion. By the time we react, the pot of water boiled by the flame of love has become Once the water is half-cooled, you need to use high heat again if you want to boil it again. If the "firepower" cannot keep up, let it cool completely.

To save this kind of love, the first thing to do is to analyze why it has reached this point. Usually, if there is no external force (a third party or irreconcilable differences or contradictions), it will be attributed to the pressure of life and the negligence of both parties. Although some couples live in the same room, they don't even spend much time seeing each other. One person is always awake and the other is already asleep. Even sex has to be scheduled, so how can we talk about communication and management?

In fact, there is always a way - if you can’t communicate face to face, why not make more phone calls or send emails? These new communication methods will not only bring you a sense of freshness, but also allow you to say many things that you would be embarrassed to say in person.

Freezing point 0~2 points

Love has dropped to the freezing point, and there is no sign of warming up at all - this is definitely a blow to you, but the reality is so cruel. To save this kind of love requires great efforts and more compromises from both of you. Before taking action, you should evaluate whether the relationship is worth saving.

Ask yourself, do you feel happy when you are together? If he doesn't know how to respect you at all, or there is no harmony and unity between you, then it means that you are no longer suitable for each other. If you are still a little reluctant to let go, it is just a matter of emotional inability to let go. If you can't tell, ask a close friend or relative to give you their unbiased opinion.

If, after your evaluation, you think your love is still worth saving, be sure to talk to him immediately and tell him your concerns and your wishes. Don't criticize him during the conversation; just explain your own thoughts, feelings, and reasons for your unhappiness. A man who is willing to work hard with you is still worthy of your love, no matter what the results of his efforts are.

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