Netizens confided:

I am 26 years old, I have only been married for two months, and I currently work in a foreign-funded company.

My husband is a teacher. Because he got off work very late at night, we ate very late at night. After eating, I didn't want to move. I wanted to watch TV and then go to bed.

But he really wants to have sex, and it must be once every two days, very regularly. But I'm always not interested. So he ignored me and basically didn't talk to me all day.

He said that he was under a lot of pressure at work and needed sex to relieve the pressure, but I never understood and didn't give him a chance. He also said that if I didn't have sex with him, he wouldn't love me very much.

How can this be the decisive factor in a couple’s love? I am confused and sad, what should I do?

Expert answer:

If we regard sex as only physical behavior, it may be somewhat narrow-minded. Sex in the narrow sense is indeed a physical behavior, with a standard process of caressing, excitement, penetration, release and relaxation.

However, sex in a broad sense is a process of pleasing each other. First, you think about the other person, making the other person happy physically and mentally, and then you are happy because the other person is happy. Under this principle, both people must take the initiative to let each other know what is the most enjoyable way for them, and then each can get what they need.

Many times, inappropriate concepts affect how we please ourselves and each other during sex. The body itself is demanding or acceptable, but the concept says that it is not okay and inappropriate. The more taboos there are in sexual life, the less creative sex will be and the lower the satisfaction will be.