Love is a very personal thing, and only the person involved can understand and experience it. In your love story, I, the mother, can only be regarded as an outsider, but I still have to tell you some truths, some The truth about love and sex.

Child, as you grow older, you seem to be becoming more and more distant from your parents. After coming back from the weekend, you often hide in your room and hang a "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door. Because of this matter, your father and I were sad for a while. We felt that as our daughter grew up, she would no longer be considerate to her parents. We clearly remember that when you were in high school, you were still so childlike, hugging my neck and acting like a baby. How come you changed so much in the blink of an eye when you arrived at college?

Your university is not far from home, but sometimes you don’t go home on weekends. You say you have activities or something to do. Seeing that you go home less and less, see that you care less and less about your parents, and pay more and more attention to your own clothes and cosmetics, we can't help but wonder, are you in love? If you are in love, you should be happy, but your eyes are so melancholy. So upon your father's request, I invited you to a bar called Love you forever.

When you heard me say Love you forever, your eyes widened in surprise and you looked at me as if you didn’t recognize me. I patted your shoulder and said, "Daughter, your mother is not as old as you thought." You smiled and said, "So you are also very romantic!" In this way, we walked hand in hand to the room called Love. your forever bar.

In the dim light of the bar, you told me that you were in love, but you had no love partner. I don't understand. You said: "He has a girlfriend. There are so many boys in our class, but he is the only one who has a girlfriend." "Is his girlfriend a classmate of yours?" I asked. You said: "No, I'm his classmate in high school." Maybe you were afraid that I would accuse him of something, because you know that I don't advocate students falling in love too early, so you quickly explained for him: "He is so good, he has a girlfriend It's normal. If I were his high school classmate, I would pursue him without hesitation. "Does he know your love for him?" I asked. You shake your head, then you look at me and say: "Mom, help me find a way, I really love him!"

Facing your young and melancholy eyes, I fell silent. Your hand reached over from the other end of the table and held my hand. You said, "Mom, I really love him, and I am willing to do everything for him." I looked at you questioningly, and you nodded affirmatively, Said: "Everything." My head exploded with a bang. My daughter is so gentle and demure, how could she say such a thing? I said: "Maybe you fell in love with him just because he has a girlfriend. At your age, you like challenges, and what you can't get is the best." You said excitedly: "No, Mom, you I have never seen him before. He is very handsome and very cool. He is more handsome and cooler than Andy Lau."

I asked you what does cool mean? Does it mean cold? You said: "Although it is translated as cool, it does not mean cold." "What does that mean?" I asked. You bit your bottom lip, trying to explain, but ultimately couldn't come up with the right words. I asked: "Does it mean modern, fashionable and alternative?" You said: "Absolutely, he is different anyway." "How is it different?" You answered me while thinking: "He is very tall. The hair is very long, yes, just like Liu Huan's hair. And he is unsmiling and keeps to himself, like an ancient knight. "I laughed. The reason I laughed is that I know you as well as myself. I know you." You won't fall in love with such a boy. At best, you are curious about him. You also fell silent. You lowered your head as if you were concentrating on drinking "Pink Lady". In fact, I could tell that you were secretly observing the people around you.

When you were sure that the people at the table could not hear our conversation, you leaned your head towards me and asked: "Mom, have you had any sexual experience before marriage?" I shook my head in the affirmative. You coughed slightly and sat up straight. From your evasive eyes, I can see that you still have questions that you want to ask but don't dare to ask. I said, "Don't treat me as an elder today, just treat me as an older friend of yours." You glanced at me quickly and I could tell you were observing me. Then you stirred the glass in front of you with the glass rod, and I could tell you were hesitating. I don't speak, I wait quietly for you to speak. I know any words I say may scare away your questions.

We all drank the drinks in the cups silently, and the fragrance of osmanthus was floating in the air. I knew it was coming from us. Because we all like osmanthus-scented perfumes. You once asked me why I like osmanthus-scented perfume. I answered because this fragrance is long-lasting. You said wrong, because it can fly in the air.

The glasses in front of us were all bottomed out. I waved to call the waiter, but you stopped me. You said, "Mom, let me ask you one last question. I hope you can answer me sincerely." Then you added: "I hope you can forget that I am your daughter at this moment and treat me as your friend. "I nodded solemnly. Put your hands on the table, lean forward, and look at me with flickering eyes. There is magnanimity and sincerity in your eyes, without any dodge.

You said: "Mom, I want to snatch him away. I have already thought about it. I want to find him and tell him directly. I think he will fall in love with me. As long as I am willing to work hard, I've seen the girl's photo. The girl in the photo is not as beautiful as me, but sexier than me. In the photo, she is wearing a midriff-baring dress, and the color of her clothes is very bright. From her expression, I can tell that she is very relaxed. Girl. Compared with her, my advantages and disadvantages are obvious. I think I have to make some adjustments in order to get him from now on. I..." You bit your lower lip again and rubbed your hands uneasily. I encouraged you to keep talking, and you relaxed yourself and said, "I think he may ask to live with me after he knows my heart. Mom, will you support me, right?"

If you try to use Use sex to attract the person you love. If your person doesn't love you, and if unfortunately he happens to be a womanizer, then you are giving him a chance to possess you and then despise you. If he is lucky enough to be a gentleman, then you Your bold dedication will make him mistakenly think that you are a frivolous person, and he will shy away from you. Although various media are now saying that attaching too much importance to the hymen is inhumane and inappropriate, if you find out those male authors and ask them whether they marry a virgin or a non-virgin, their answers will make their remarks Self-destructive.

I once participated in a discussion meeting. The men at the meeting all said that women should be freed from the issue of chastity. No matter men or women, they should no longer pay attention to the issue of hymen. This The question is too pedantic! At that time, a female friend asked the expert who gave the high opinion: "If you find that your wife has had a relationship with another member of the opposite sex before you, you..." The expert did not wait for the person to finish speaking, and quickly waved his hand and said : "We are having an academic discussion now, not individual cases." Turning to everyone, he smiled awkwardly and said, "Of course, no one wants this to happen to them." This gentleman really hit the nail on the head.

Daughter, after hearing what my mother has said so much, I wonder what you think. You may say: "If two people really love each other, then sex won't be a problem." Then, I will tell you as an experienced person: "If a boy really loves you, he really wants to marry you." , he will definitely respect you and love you. Because the highest state of love is not possession, but respect and love."

My daughter, you should understand that sex should not be a victim to preserve love, but should be the fruit and crystallization of love.

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