It is said that behind a successful man is a good wife and mother. How can a smart woman become a good wife and mother, and become the gentlest harbor for men?

Seven things smart wives never do:

The first one

Seriously do not support your husband’s social interactions, and have an extremely unfriendly attitude towards your husband’s friends, especially your husband’s friends of the opposite sex. You will say bad things to them whenever you have the opportunity. Over time, your husband will be alienated by his friends around you. Naturally, you will get rich. Opportunities are becoming less and less every day.

The second item

Living a life of exceeding income, wearing the best clothes and jewelry, and completely disregarding the balance of income and expenditure.

For such a woman, no matter how much money a man makes, there is not enough money for her to spend. If you don’t believe it, just look at Zhang Xiaohui. Two diamond-level men have been in debt due to her. Although you can say that she is a leader among women, you cannot deny that she is a loser. Such a woman is also quite scary.

The third item

You like to spread gossip, gossip about your husband’s colleagues, attack your colleagues’ wives and husbands from behind, and use gossip to create some troubles. Don’t worry, it won’t be long before you and your husband will be unable to stand in the office.

The fourth item

Act like a boss, constantly give pointers to your husband's work, and scold him for his mistakes. He is a clerk outside, and he is still a clerk when he comes home. He is just as low-key. As time goes by, you will find that your husband can only be a clerk.

The fifth item

She likes to make fun of her husband, and even more loves to tell outsiders about her husband's private life. Of course, these things will create endless laughter for everyone, and you will also become the most popular person among your husband and friends around you. People may compliment you on your natural humor, but it won’t take long for the compliments to you to turn into compliments. Your husband’s ridicule.

The sixth item

For a long time, he regarded himself as a part-time private detective, asking who he had dinner with at noon, investigating any clues between him and his female secretary, female clients, and colleagues’ wives, and treating any woman except himself as a vixen who seduces men. . With a wife like this, why should a man not have a nervous breakdown?

The seventh item

You need your husband to be by your side all the time. As long as he works overtime or goes on a business trip, you will be crying and nagging and complaining. All other costs should be sacrificed for you. Only you are the most important and the most worthy of care. With such a wife, is it possible for a man to work with peace of mind?

Romance is the expression of a woman’s tenderness

Women love romance. They long for romance and pursue romance. But women often don't realize that romance is actually a kind of gentleness in women. Women are naturally romantic and uniquely gentle.

Let romance reflect a woman's tenderness, and leave time for a man to focus on his affairs. Men have developed a sense of responsibility since childhood, which can be said to be a kind of training since childhood. Like children, they will only think about doing their jobs well and will not think about messy things. Their energy is more concentrated on a certain thing, and they are more single-minded. They are definitely not too meticulous in other areas, and most of them are like this. They are not very delicate when it comes to feelings, and they are even easily said to be ignored by women. However, the difference is that women are more emotional and have rich imaginations. They look forward to some surprises in life, some unexpected things that can touch people and touch their hearts. ...Some details and feelings from the past may be hidden in a corner of her heart, reappearing warmly and vividly. They love that feeling, and, in fact, women can create and express romance themselves.

Romantic women are very gentle, and men like women's tenderness. Romance touches you, and it also touches men.

Too many romantic men are unlovable. If a man understands romance very well, then his character must be more feminine, often more meticulous, a bit withdrawn, and not so one-dimensional. They are very good at using romantic tools, such as phone calls, texts, flowers, etc. Of course, this kind of distance creates a romance with more room for fantasy, which may be very popular. However, women often feel that sweet words are said too much and become nonsense, and roses are given indiscriminately and become rubbish.

Women who know how to be romantic are more gentle and interesting. The most irresistible thing for men is the tenderness of women. In this age that pays attention to packaging, romance becomes a different kind of tenderness when a woman exaggerates it, conquering him and adding a lot of color to his love. For example, this is a simple romantic method: After not seeing each other for a long time, he comes to see you, and you really want him to hug you, and ask him how you have changed, have you gained weight or lost weight? He said, "I have gained weight." You pretended to be angry and said, "Why do you start to think bad of me after not seeing me for a while?" He said, "I have lost weight, and you pretended to be aggrieved: you didn't bother to hug me at all and just dealt with me casually." If he said, Neither fat nor thin, just the same, you have to worry: do you not care about me anymore? ...Of course, this kind of romance is answered by your laughter when he is at a loss. I believe that a little romance will fuel your relationship. Very warm.

Romance is beautiful. When a woman expresses tenderness through romance, she is more feminine. A man who knows how to enjoy a woman's romance and how to cherish a woman's tenderness is a man who understands life, and even more so, a man who understands love. Only when love is constantly supplemented by some trivial romance can we retain an unchanging heart and an ageless heart.

Romance is a kind of tenderness in women. Romance needs women to create and express it, and women's tenderness needs men to cherish and care for it. Love is a matter of two people.