Men, as the backbone of the family, are often exhausted by social pressure and family responsibilities. In fact, men are far from being as strong as we think, and they are also afraid, even afraid...

1. Afraid that women care about the size of "it"

Men are concerned about the size of their genitals Worry is as strong as women's worries about their breast size. Usually, it is not surprising for unmarried men to worry about the size of their penis because they have no sexual experience, and it is not uncommon for married men to worry that their penis is too big or too small. Especially some newlywed husbands and husbands who still cannot satisfy their wives after being married for a long time are often afraid that their wives will care about the size of their penis when they are living together. In fact, male penis length deviations are just like people's heights and shortness. Truly pathological gigantism and dwarfism are extremely rare. Similarly, pathological penises that are too long or too short are also extremely rare.

Psychologists from the sexual psychology consultation department of Beijing Shuguang Andrology Hospital pointed out: It is generally believed that a penis between 7.8 cm and 20 cm is considered normal after erection. A relatively short or long penis is not suitable for sexual life. When doing so, as long as you pay attention to sexual intercourse positions, it will not damage the sexual harmony of both parties. Therefore, in the sexual life of husband and wife, when a sensitive wife realizes that her husband is worried about the size of his sexual organs, the correct thing to do is to tell him that the size of "that" does not have much impact on your sexual life, as long as the husband's whole body Put your heart into it and you will feel good. This can greatly enhance your husband's self-confidence and help him overcome his fear. And he will appreciate your thoughtfulness and gentleness.

2. Fear of not knowing when women need appropriate stimulation

A husband once told a doctor: "When we have sex, my wife usually touches her vulva with her hands; sometimes, I also caress her with my hands, but she pushes my hands away. Is it true? Would she rather be caressed by myself than by me?" This confused me. In this regard, experts said that in terms of the difficulty of women achieving orgasm, it is naturally easier for women to obtain physiological sexual satisfaction through self-stimulation than from their husband’s touch, but making love is a matter for both parties, mutual caressing and mutual stimulation. , completing the whole process of sexual life together is far more perfect than doing it alone. Therefore, a wise wife should give her husband as much guidance as possible, not with words but with her hands. Just hold his hand and guide him to make movements that make you feel pleasure.

3. Fear that one’s erection is not strong enough

Men’s erectile function is affected by many factors: pressure from work and career, excessive life burden, marital discord, etc. , will cause poor erection of the penis, or even without these influencing factors, men over 30 years old will occasionally experience poor erection. Many men begin to doubt their sexual function because of this, and some will blindly take various aphrodisiacs and kidney-tonifying drugs to save their "dwindling" sexual function. In fact, this kind of blind and random supplementation is wrong.

Experts explain that compared with the period of 18-25 years old, when male sexual desire is strongest, men in their thirties will feel that their sexual impulses are relatively reduced, but their ability to control sex is relatively enhanced. Therefore, the wife's attitude is very important at this time; if the wife criticizes her husband with suspicion, complaint, or even ridicule, it will only make the problem more serious. The best way is to choose a husband who is in a good mood, or caress his sexual organs in the morning when his erectile function is good, or let him perform vaginal stimulation, so that the husband will no longer worry about his erectile function.

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4. Afraid of your lover faking orgasm

In terms of sexual climax for couples, sexual psychology experts from Beijing Shuguang Andrology Hospital pointed out that in the life of a couple, the sexual responses and sexual information of the couple can sense and stimulate each other. The reaction of one party to obtain sexual pleasure will also make the other party feel extremely Great satisfaction. Take the husband as far as he is concerned. When his wife achieves orgasm during sex, he can get more intense sexual stimulation and give him a sense of male pride and accomplishment.

However, if he knows that his wife's orgasm is actually a disguise, it will greatly damage his self-esteem and affect his sexual interest. Some women may think that since their sexual response is so important to their husbands, it is not a bad idea to comfort their husbands when they do not want to engage in sex or when they feel uncomfortable. If she does not reach orgasm during sex, the wife can explain to her husband: "I am in a bad mood today", or "I am too tired today, but having sex and physical contact with you also makes me feel very satisfied." The wife can really say it clearly Yes, my husband will understand completely. This will not put men in an "embarrassing" situation.

5. Afraid that she will not get multiple orgasms

From a sexual physiological point of view, when a man reaches a climax of sexual excitement, his characteristic performance is ejaculation. Once he ejaculates, When it ends, men enter the sexual refractory period and will no longer respond significantly to any sexual stimulation. According to a sexual psychology expert from Beijing Shuguang Men's Hospital, the reason why men have a sexual refractory period is a self-protection mechanism in the process of human evolution. During the sexual refractory period, semen accumulates in the male sexual organs and the tense muscles throughout the body are relaxed. , prepare for the next sexual excitement. However, women do not have a sexual refractory period. Some sex science books often say this: Women have the potential to reach orgasm multiple times in a row. But this is only a "potential" and not an "inevitability".

From some male friends who visited Beijing Shuguang Andrology Hospital, experts found that some husbands often complained: "I really want my wife to reach orgasm multiple times in a row, but it often goes against my wishes, and sometimes it's... This made the two of them very unhappy and even annoyed." In this regard, Shuguang experts explained that, in fact, women's reactions after an orgasm are different. The vast majority of women need to continue to caress and caress them so that their sexual excitement slowly decreases. This is a kind of "afterplay" process; some women After an orgasm, if appropriate and moderate stimulation is given, sexual satisfaction can still be obtained again, but usually the level of sexual excitement will be lower each time.

In addition, after some women have an orgasm, sensitive parts of the body, including the skin, will enter a super-sensitive state. She only needs the husband and wife to hug each other and whisper, and refuse any stimulation. , at this time, as a husband, if you give her caressing and stimulation, it will make her feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable. Therefore, Shuguang experts remind male friends who are husbands not to be seduced by the "theory" that women can achieve multiple orgasms in a married life. As long as the couple can truly share happiness, intimacy and harmony during sex, One orgasm is enough.

6. Fear of not lasting enough time to have sex

There is no standard for the length of time to have sex, but many men often feel that the longer the time, the better. They think that the longer the time, the stronger their sexual function is. , the higher the sexual skill, at the same time, the longer the time, the more satisfied the wife will be. Therefore, when men compare their sexual abilities with each other, they often brag about how long their sexual intercourse lasts. In this regard, experts remind that there are two misunderstandings that need to be corrected on the issue of the length of sex:

First, there is a difference between sexual intercourse time and lovemaking time. Lovemaking time refers to the time when both parties are ready for sex. , until after the sexual intercourse, both parties finish the after-play of sexual life by caressing each other. This whole process is the real love-making time. This process can last for dozens of minutes or even longer. Some couples say to each other before going out in the morning: Go home early in the evening. The meaning of the agreement is "Let's have sex tonight." Then, in a broad sense, the time for sex should start in the morning. The time of sexual intercourse refers to the insertion of the male's penis into the vagina until the completion of ejaculation. This time is not as long as most people brag about. American sex researchers found that the average intercourse time between American couples is between 5 and 9 minutes. Are there any men who can last for dozens of minutes or even more than an hour? There are, but they can be said to be very few.

Second, even if men can last more than an hour during sexual intercourse, is such a long time really necessary? Men who ejaculate too quickly are called "premature ejaculation". Many men worry about "premature ejaculation", but few people worry about "delayed ejaculation". However, if a man's penis twitches in the vagina for more than half an hour and he does not intentionally control it, , no ejaculation occurs. If this situation persists, not only can it be diagnosed as "delayed ejaculation", but there may even be suspicion of non-ejaculation. Furthermore, women's sexual satisfaction is not directly proportional to the length of men's sexual intercourse. Therefore, men should not blindly believe that the longer the sexual intercourse, the better. If you feel that it cannot last until your wife is satisfied, then increase the time of pre-play and post-play, or add some fresh ingredients to sex, and try new ways to have sex. It will also satisfy your wife.

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