The most remarried people are middle-aged people aged 35 to 50, and remarriage is the result of their calm thinking after divorce. It is understood that impulsive divorce, for the sake of children and difficulties in remarriage are important reasons for couples to remarry.

After much searching, she was the most suitable

Fang Shaojie, a 34-year-old male corporate cadre

I became a middle-level cadre in my unit at the age of 30. But it didn’t bring much happiness to my family.

My wife and I are both only children. We were pampered by our parents since childhood. Neither of us know how to do housework. We are both a little self-centered and have bad tempers. After we got married, I discovered that she, who was meek before marriage, turned out to be flamboyant, hot-tempered, and vain after marriage. What's more important is that she doesn't do housework and always orders me to do this and that with great arrogance. And she thinks I'm too selfish, don't care about anything except work, and have no sense of responsibility for my family.

Patience has its limit after all, and the "war" between the two people begins to end. The trigger was the time my parents came to live with me temporarily for a month because of the renovation of their home, and she actually used my mother as a nanny. She used the excuse that she was busy with work, so shopping and cooking became my mother's business. Even her clothes were taken off and put aside for my mother to wash. After my parents left, my wife and I had a big fight and started divorcing.

After the divorce, she was unable to buy a house and could not find a suitable place to live for a while, so I let her live in the house my parents gave me. Therefore, we still lived in the same room after the divorce.

Without my wife’s interference and nagging, I feel much more relaxed.

We each began to look for new partners. But after two years of searching, I still haven't found a suitable friend. After my wife got divorced, she could no longer control me and felt very uncomfortable. She began to reflect on her own problems. Finally one night, she prepared a table of food for me to eat, and cried and begged me to forgive her.

Actually, I also regret it very much. Apart from not liking to do housework, my wife is pretty good in other aspects. She remembers my parents’ birthdays every year and never forgets to bring my parents some favorite food when they come back from the street. Since we got married, my parents’ clothes have been taken care of by my wife in all seasons.

After several conversations, I felt that she was the most suitable one, so we quietly went to the Civil Affairs Bureau and went through the remarriage procedures.

After entering into marriage, many couples lack the ability to run a marriage. Under the "consumption" of firewood, rice, oil and salt, love will become dull, and conflicts between husband and wife will inevitably occur, and the marriage will become unstable. The foundation begins to shake and even leads to divorce. But divorce cannot really solve the problem. New relationships also face the same problem: when life is as dull as water, how can love last? The biggest characteristic of remarried people is that they have learned how to face ordinary daily life.

Everything is for the sake of the children

Fan Xiaowei, male, 33 years old, company CEO

My wife Lu Lu and I are classmates in college. We were divorced after five years of marriage, and we remarried a year later.

My hometown is rural, and my wife Lu Lu comes from a family of intellectuals. Her parents are professors at a comprehensive university in Taiyuan. Although our education level is about the same, and my grades were better than hers when I was in college, our living environments and ways of handling daily affairs are also different because of the different environments in which we grew up.

According to the current popular saying in society, I am the so-called "Phoenix Man". I usually don't pay much attention to the details of life. Sometimes when I am tired from work, I will go to bed without washing my feet or brushing my teeth. And Lu Lu was the "peacock girl" who criticized my living habits every day. She would always ask me to wash my hands before meals and wash my face and brush my teeth before going to bed. What Lu Lu couldn't tolerate was that my parents and relatives and friends from my hometown came to live in groups one after another. They didn't pay attention to hygiene when they came to our house. As soon as the guests left, Lu Lu had to change all the washable things, and then left. Spread all your grievances on me.

Our values ​​​​are also different. I like to focus on making money to support the family, while Lu Lu likes to enjoy life and hopes that I can often accompany her to eat, drink and play. Usually, I am too busy at work and rarely go home. I accidentally discovered through Lu Lu’s cell phone text messages that my wife was cheating on her. In anger, he filed for divorce.

Lu Lu is a stubborn woman. She went out without asking for her children or property.

After Lu Lu left, I realized how hard it is for a person to be both a father and a mother. Our life as father and son was simply a mess. I understand how hard it is for my wife to raise children. Ex-wife Lu Lu was very worried about her children and would visit them almost every other day and take the initiative to clean up and take care of the housework. At first, I refused her bluntly, but later because the child was sick, I acquiesced to her taking care of the child.

Lu Lu also realized the importance of our family to her, took the initiative to communicate with me, and expressed her repentance. For the sake of our children and our family, we finally remarried after several long all-night talks.

Mi Hong, a 45-year-old employee who retired from the company

Four years ago, due to the restructuring of the company, I retired at home and no longer had to commute to get off work on time. I was at a loss what to do during my morning exercise. I started to like ballroom dancing.

During the day, my children go to school and my husband goes to work. Apart from eating three meals a day, I have nothing to do, and I have no other hobbies. My dancing in the morning has evolved into dancing in the afternoon. My husband is a very conservative person, so I kept it secret from him. But the anger could not be contained in the paper, and he still found out about it. He thought it was an immoral thing, and he became furious and unbearable. We first argued every day and then filed for divorce out of anger.

After our divorce, my daughter suddenly became a different person as if she had lost her supporter. Usually she is in a better mood during school, but every time after school or on weekends, she doesn't know whether to go to my place or go back to her father's place. When she goes to bed at night, she often sheds tears.

Originally, my daughter’s academic performance was among the top in the class, but later it dropped to the thirties or forties. Her father and I were both anxious. At first we blamed each other and passed the buck. Later we all discovered that this did not help our children's grades. I just thought that for the sake of my daughter, I must give up the confrontation with my husband and discuss countermeasures with him calmly.

We finally sat down and had a few good talks about our daughter. Then we talked to my daughter together. My daughter cried and told us that when she had some free time, she recalled the good times the family of three had together. She said she was in pain and could not accept her new parents. She begged us to remarry.

My daughter’s words made me think about it carefully. I think it is really selfish to divorce over such a trivial matter. To be honest, no matter how fiercely our husband and wife quarrel or how sad we feel, it is nothing compared to the harm done to our daughter. So, I said to her dad, if he would agree, let's see if we could have a relationship again.

My daughter has always created opportunities for us, and we found that a family of three is still very happy together. Later, my wife took the initiative to remarry, and I also took the initiative to dance only during morning exercises. I cherish my lost home even more.

Remarriage is learning how to face ordinary daily life

The most remarried people are middle-aged people aged 35 to 50, and remarriage is the result of their calm thinking after divorce. It is understood that impulsive divorce, for the sake of children and difficulties in remarriage are important reasons for couples to remarry. After many couples enter into marriage, they lack the ability to manage the marriage. Under the "consumption" of firewood, rice, oil and salt, love will become boring, conflicts between husband and wife will inevitably occur, the foundation of the marriage will begin to shake, and even lead to divorce. . But divorce cannot really solve the problem. New relationships also face the same problem: when life is as dull as water, how can love last? The biggest characteristic of remarried people is that they have learned how to face ordinary daily life.

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