"Men and women are different" is an old saying. In terms of gender relations, the attitudes and ideas between men and women are very different. Recently, British sexologist Sadie Cayman pointed out in his new book that both men and women have some sexual secrets hidden in their hearts, and the other party has the obligation to understand them, so that both sex life and relationships can become better and better. To this end, we have combined the research of British and American sexologists and summarized the sexual facts that men and women need to know.

What both men and women need to know about sex

5 things men should know:

Many women feel insecure about their bodies. Women all like to have sex in the dark. The main reason is that they are worried that their bodies are not perfect enough and do not want to be seen by the other party. Dr. Cindy Moston, a sex psychologist at the University of Texas in the United States, found through a survey that even if she has been with her partner for many years, women still worry that they are not attractive enough. Their body shape, skin, and even moles on their bodies all make women worried. Careful men should be aware of this concern and give them more encouragement and praise.

Women feel that orgasm is not a necessity. Many men believe that a competent lover should bring their women to orgasm. Orgasms are great, but not essential in women’s minds. On the contrary, orgasm may also bring pressure to them, and they may even fake it.

Women believe that sex is closely related to the rest of their lives. When having sex, women often associate the rest of their lives with it. The attitude of their lover towards them in bed will have a great influence on women when deciding whether to marry him or her for the rest of their lives.

Women are not averse to condoms. Most men feel that wearing a condom is like scratching an itch, which will affect their "power" and make women lose their pleasure. In fact, for women, whether a man wears a condom during sex has no special feeling, and it will not affect pleasure. On the contrary, if a man does not wear a condom, a woman will be distracted during sex due to fear of pregnancy.

Women don’t like “muscular men.” Most women prefer a man who is mature, stable, successful in career, gentle, kind, responsible, caring, and can bring her a sense of security. Only such a man is truly sexy. Brave men are mostly virtual idols in movies and TV dramas, not the true loves of women.

5 things women should know:

Men are more or less worried about their sexual performance. Men worry that their lovers are not satisfied with their "size", "hardness" and "time". For men, "sex" is both their strength and their fatal weakness. When it comes to sex, men need encouragement and comfort, but never ask him "what's wrong."

Men don't want to talk about past emotions with their lovers. Mature men are very reluctant to talk about past emotions with their lovers. If the past things were good, his wife will be jealous and nagging if he tells them; if the past makes the man feel sad, he will feel shameless if he tells them. If a man doesn't tell everything, it doesn't mean he is cheating. He may just want to prevent the past from affecting the present.

Men also crave caressing. Men's sexual desires are not always satisfied through having sex. Especially mature men, they need more emotional communication. Caressing is the foreplay that men want most. Hugging, kissing, and talking about caring can make men feel satisfied.

Men want to try new ways to have sex. The pursuit of greater sexual stimulation and pleasure is the goal of many men. If the method he proposed is healthy and safe, they would like the other party to try it together and give suggestions instead of hearing criticism.

Masturbation is a man’s lifelong friend. The survey shows that among married men, 75.6% still masturbate after marriage, and 7.9% of them masturbate frequently. For men, the purpose of masturbation is often direct and single. Most of them are to vent their unreleased sexual desires freely and conveniently, and at the same time satisfy their unlimited sexual imagination. Male masturbation does not mean that the couple's relationship deteriorates.

Regular sex life can promote good health

As we all know, a good sex life can not only maintain the beauty of life, but also enhance the relationship between husband and wife. Sex experts point out that in addition to bringing people the ecstasy of pleasure, sex also has many wonderful benefits. Recently, the British magazine "Love Nest" summarized three benefits of sex based on multi-national research.

1. Feel richer

A survey by the National Institute of Economic Research found that if married people have regular sex, the happiness they bring is the same as earning an extra $100,000 a year.

2. Young appearance

Research from the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland found that sex can make women look 12 years younger. In the study, men were asked to look in a mirror and evaluate a woman on the other side. Women rated as "very young" had sex an average of four times a week. This is no coincidence, because studies have long found that sex can promote estrogen secretion, making skin smoother and hair shinier.

3. Improve resistance

Researchers from Wilkes University in the United States analyzed 111 volunteers aged 16 to 23 and found that having sex once or twice a week can increase the amount of type A immune globulin in the body by 30%, thus increasing resistance. Help people prevent colds and flu.

An indispensable condiment for a happy marriage

The first seasoning: deep love

There is no "sex" without love. Sex is the most perfect only when emotions are put into physical behavior. Couples must have a deep understanding of the true meaning of sex life. It is not only about having children, but also an important part of the couple's entire love life. Sex is about sharing and expressing love for each other.

The second seasoning: sweet atmosphere

There can be no "sex" without pleasure. Sex life requires mood, feeling and atmosphere in order to be satisfied. They always rub their bodies in a dull manner, and soon the two of them will have no feeling at all, until they become indifferent to each other.