In the life of a couple, there is probably no harm that a wife can do to her husband that is more serious than the harm to his sexual self-esteem. However, in real life, sometimes the wife consciously or unconsciously attacks her husband's sexual self-esteem, which can cause embarrassment to the husband at the least, lead to sexual dysfunction in the husband at worst, and even cause serious consequences such as antagonism between the couple and the disintegration of the family.

Unreasonable suspicion is the root of trouble

To protect your husband’s sexual self-esteem, you must first think about your husband’s sexual morality. For a loyal and noble man, his wife's unwarranted suspicion of him will cause great damage to his self-esteem.

Zhang Hao works in the office for his wife Xiaojing, a salesperson in a unit. Zhang Haoren is handsome, has strong social skills, and often travels on business. This makes Xiaojing very uneasy, fearing that Zhang Hao will be seduced by some "vixen" outside one day. Therefore, before Zhang Hao went on a business trip, Xiaojing always wanted to show her love to her husband. She wanted to "feed him" before going out, so that he would not easily look for "wild food" outside; After returning from a business trip, Xiaojing couldn't wait to have sex with her husband. In her words, this is called "killing two birds with one stone": Firstly, a breakup is better than a newlywed, because of the "sexual interest"; secondly, it is also a good way to test whether her husband is okay when he is away. Betrayed her. If Zhang Hao didn't perform well when he came back, Xiaojing's heart would be pounding, wondering if her husband had an affair or had a "pheasant" outside. Once, her husband came back from a business trip in the middle of the night. After taking the train for a day, she was really tired, but Xiaojing still refused to "let it go" and insisted on having sex. Seeing that her husband was not accommodating at all, the jealousy that had been suppressed in Xiaojing's heart finally burst out. He said: "You must have a lover outside, so you don't want me...you heartless person!" When Zhang Hao saw his wife talking like this, he remembered that he had worked hard all year round, not just for this family, and he suddenly became furious. The two were quarreling with each other and had a heated argument. After this incident, the couple didn't say a word for half a month, and their marriage was in danger. Zhang Hao is not the kind of person who is very narrow-minded. He never thought that Xiaojing would have such thoughts. The occurrence of this incident reminded him of many things: No wonder she always looks at me strangely every time she comes back from a business trip. . For the sake of this family, Zhang Hao took the initiative to have a good talk with Xiaojing, and Xiaojing said she would not do the same again. However, soon, Xiaojing returned to her old ways, and the supposedly happy couple had to part ways.

A joke caused her husband to be "impotent"

Protect your husband's sexual self-esteem and believe that your husband is a normal person. He is neither a sexual superman nor impotent. As a wife, although she will not intentionally undermine her husband's self-confidence, sometimes she will inadvertently hurt her husband's sexual self-esteem.

Miss Qiong has a cheerful personality and likes to joke. On their wedding night, she and her husband hugged each other and entered the bridal chamber. After the two undressed and went to bed, Xiaoqiong's eyes were slightly closed and her face was flushed. She was preparing to welcome the intoxicating moment. Unexpectedly, her husband's "one" was not... To live up to expectations, as soon as I came into contact with him, he "slumped away". Xiaoqiong was a little dissatisfied, but when she saw her husband panting like an ox, she suddenly felt funny and blurted out a joke: "I didn't expect you to be a good project manager, but you are so bad at this 'project'" , which made her husband’s face turn red with embarrassment. Every time he had sex in the future, Xiaoqiong's husband would always unconsciously think of what Xiaoqiong had said. Over time, he, as a project manager, was really unable to do this "project".

In fact, Xiaoqiong, as an educated woman, also understands the reason why her husband has this kind of situation during sexual intercourse for the first time. However, such a joke has caused such serious consequences for her husband and also for herself. The newlywed life left a lingering shadow, and Xiaoqiong really regretted it. Later, after receiving treatment from a psychiatrist and Xiaoqiong's tenderness and encouragement, Xiaoqiong's husband finally regained his former glory.

Zhao Jun and his wife are both office workers. They are busy with work and complicated with housework. After five years of marriage, they began to feel that walking in the river of sex is no longer difficult to overcome. The turbulent waves of passion in the past were gone, and everything seemed so ordinary and routine. One day, Zhao Jun borrowed a few "small DVDs" from elsewhere, and the couple closed the door to watch them at night. After watching it for a while, the couple couldn't help but be infected by the scenes of indulgence in the video, and suddenly felt their hearts rippling and their blood boiling. They watched the video and hugged each other while learning the contents. However, Zhao Jun is a mortal after all. He can withstand the torment of a "protracted war" like an actor's performance. Perhaps because of his excessive passion, Zhao Jun fell down after a few moments; but his wife was still enjoying herself. The "bear-like" husband who was paralyzed there couldn't help but said angrily: "Look at you, you like to use these to read, but you can't do it yourself." Zhao Jun was embarrassed. In his future sexual life, Zhao Jun always loved to recall the scenes in the DVD and his wife's words. This repeated comparison made him feel that he was really bad.

Don’t treat sex as a reward or punishment for your husband

If a wife attaches too many conditions other than feelings to her husband’s sex life and treats sex as a reward or punishment for her husband, it will hurt the husband’s sexual self-esteem. , also blasphemed sex.

Sometimes the husband is very interested in sex. At this time, the wife may not have much sexual interest. She does not want to have sex with her husband at all, so she makes big demands on her husband: Give me some face wash tomorrow morning; You bought the breakfast; you can have sex, but you can wash that big basin of clothes! When her husband agreed, she undressed and sent her away, motionless and allowed her husband to "ravage" her. It is conceivable that the quality of this kind of very reluctant sex life will not be high.

When the couple is hugging each other and preparing to enter the "state", the husband may say a casual word at this time, which makes the wife feel displeased. As a result, she suddenly stops during sex, flicks her head, and shakes her back. Turn around, leaving a cold back to her husband uncompromisingly; when the couple is preparing for "foreplay" before sex, perhaps because some of the husband's actions have displeased the wife, she will uncompromisingly The curtain closed on sex. In such a situation, a passionate and passionate man would suddenly feel like he was stuck in an ice cave and his whole body would feel cold.

The phenomenon of using sex as a reward and punishment for the husband is more serious in couples where the man is strong and the woman is weak, and in couples where the man is weak and the woman is strong. As far as the former is concerned, the weak wife wants to compete with her husband through sex: Look at your arrogance, don't you have to "bow down under my pomegranate skirt"; as for the latter, the wife in a strong position has a strong inner feeling Shen looks down on her husband a little, and she won't let her husband have sex so easily.

Since ancient times, men have been given the image of majestic mountains. They seem to stand tall like mountains and never give up. In fact, men also have a fragile side and vanity. They need to be respected by society and others, and sometimes they also long for the "pampering" of women. What deserves special attention from female friends is that in the sexual life of a couple, the wife pays attention to protecting her husband's sexual self-esteem. This is not only the need to maintain the husband's dignity, but in a certain sense, it also protects the emotional life of the couple so that it does not deviate. Healthy track.

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