Surveys show that sleeping in bed is the most popular way of communication among college students, surpassing private chats with friends, group activities and trolling on BBS.

Four people live in Xiaowei’s dormitory, a senior girl, and they call it “home”. On the first night of college life, "family members" Junjun and Tingting huddled on the same bed and chatted all night long. This bed chat made the distance between them much closer. From then on, the four "family members" with different majors insisted on eating, sleeping and studying together every day.

"I still have some worries about chatting with my parents. Now we can talk about everything." Xiaowei said proudly.

Xiaowei and her "family" are very popular among their classmates and friends. They often take in people from other dormitories to chat with them. At most, there were 8 girls lying on the four beds, chatting all the time. Until dawn. Xiaowei told reporters that the sleep-talking meeting has become a "compulsory lesson" in their dormitory. If it is not held one day, everyone will lose sleep. "The members of our family are all very humorous. We laugh almost every day until our stomach hurts and our face cramps before we can fall asleep peacefully." The "sleeping talk meeting" is the most relaxing meeting in college life. It does not require sitting upright, watching people's expressions, or speaking. Raise your hands and you can even grind your teeth and talk in your sleep.

A survey of nearly 1,000 people jointly conducted by the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center and Sina Campus Channel showed that the lying talk party has a broad base among students: it ranked first with a selection rate of 37.5% It ranks at the top of the list of students’ favorite ways of communicating on campus, even surpassing private chats with friends, group activities and trolling on BBS.

So many people love lying-down talks, what on earth do they talk about?

The reporter learned that the content of lying-down talks in universities has "advanced with the times" according to the times: in the last century In the 1980s, everyone gathered together to talk about philosophy and poetry. Sleeping sessions often turned into poetry recitations. In the 1990s, the theme of "meetings" became talking about ideals and rock music. In the dark corridors at night, people often talked about philosophy and poetry. There were screams that were off-key; today, the topics of the sabbatical talks have become extremely realistic, such as finding a job, starting a business, part-time job, taking exams, going abroad, etc. Most of them are things around the students. However, there are also topics that have remained unchanged for decades, such as the opposite sex and love.

The survey found that 81% of people admitted that their favorite topic to discuss during a sleep-talking session was "the opposite sex." Some people have concluded that the rule is: girls often start directly with boys and end with food and clothing; boys often start with any random topic, but end with girls. The boys' detours reveal cunning - whether they are discussing class activities, reminiscing about the past, or talking about world affairs, the colorful part of almost every topic happens to mention women, and they often become more open-minded the more they talk about it. In short, it is obviously an eternal topic for boys, girls, and the opposite sex, and it is also a topic that can make them more energetic as they talk about it.

Zhang Shuang, who has been working for two years, recalled that when she was in school, she would also talk about these things in her sleep-talking meetings, but they only covered very superficial content. The most talked about were common sense in daily life such as how to relieve dysmenorrhea. Xiaowei, who is now a senior in college, is much more open-minded, and her dormitory meetings often have no taboos under her leadership. "We are all girls, there is nothing wrong with communicating with each other."

However, Director Hu Deng of the Psychological Counseling Center of Renmin University of China expressed doubts about the scientific level of the sexual knowledge exchanged by students in the sleep-talk sessions. He worries that such exchanges between students may spread rumors. Xu Tianming, president of the Chinese Sexology Society, conducted a survey in 2000 and found that college students' sexual concepts and sexual knowledge are inversely proportional: college students' sexual concepts are becoming more and more open, but their real sexual knowledge is failing. Xiaowei once told reporters that at least half of her sexual knowledge came from chatting with boys, while most of the boys learned it from pornographic websites or illegal audio and video products. Since there are few or no sexual science courses in schools, students have to find other ways - which to a certain extent validates Teacher Hu Deng's concerns.

Despite some concerns, Hu Deng still affirmed the positive role of sleep-talking meetings in sex education. "The most positive factor of sex talk is that it removes the mystery and fear of sex. I think this is a good thing."

In addition, it enhances friendships among classmates and students' spontaneous psychology. Tutoring and a good way to increase knowledge are all positive comments about the lying talk sessions. The survey shows that 84.6% of people believe that when they recall their college life, the sleep-talking session is an indispensable part of it.

Among them, the psychological counseling role of sleep-talking sessions is gradually being recognized by students. Hu Deng emphasized that talking to each other among peers is very helpful in relieving psychological pressure, and sleep-talking sessions are a very good form. "After all, there are only a few students who can receive psychological counseling in the school psychological counseling center." Hu Deng told reporters that Renmin University of China has 21,000 teachers and students, and there are no more than 10 full-time and part-time psychological counselors in total. With such a ratio, it is simply impossible to provide counseling for everyone, so spontaneous psychological mutual help among students is particularly important.

“Not only can they relieve stress, but also practice good interpersonal communication skills for future employment.” Hu Deng analyzed from a psychological perspective that dormitories where people often chat are more open. People with high openness must have strong self-confidence, are not afraid of interpersonal harm, and dare to interact with others. Such people are naturally more resistant to frustration.

Hu Deng also talked about his major discovery about sleep-talking sessions: master's students' sleep-talk sessions are far inferior to those of undergraduates, and doctoral students are not as good as those of master's students. He explained that the more mature a person is, the more personal masks they have, and the stronger their awareness of protecting themselves. Doctoral and master's students face more intense competition, and conflicts of interest among friends in the same dormitory are more frequent, so they "have to wear a mask even when sleeping."

The unprotected life in college makes many stubborn people often return to campus to pursue their dreams. Zhang Shuang said that a former classmate arranged the guest room at home into bunk beds and invited a group of friends to the home to reminisce together. "It's just that the content of our bedtime conversations at night has changed. From the handsome guy in the next class to when is the best time for a woman to have a child."

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