There are always many temptations we face. When you discover that he (she) has cheated, first determine whether he (she) can turn back, and if he (she) turns back, can you forgive him? Then make decisive plans. If you can forgive, or even turn a blind eye, then don't hold it in your heart and make this a topic of quarrel every day. It is like cutting flesh with a dull knife, torturing yourself and the other party. The two personalities are in love with each other

We were introduced to each other by a fellow villager. After meeting, he felt very good about me, so he told the fellow villager that he wanted to pursue me, and then he inquired about me from the fellow villager. All my situations are then "prescribed" to pursue me. I also have a good feeling about him, and during the month of being pursued by him, I also learned that he is a relatively tolerant, positive, and thoughtful man. Among the current "post-80s" crowd, it is difficult to find a tolerant man. Most of them are used to their own personalities by their families and society, so they can't help but fall in love with him. As for me, I am a relatively happy, outgoing, and lively woman. He once said that he fell in love with me because he was infected by my personality. In September 2006, we held hands at the foot of Lotus Mountain. He said to me, you are what I have been looking for all my life; I told myself, if life is suitable, he will be my marriage partner.

Three big fights in the first year

After we established our relationship, I often stayed at his house, hoping to get to know each other better in order to facilitate our future marriage. A month later, we had our first quarrel. The reason was because I accidentally saw the QQ chat records between him and his brother. He and his brother said something similar to "It's not difficult to get her (referring to me)." ", "Now the feeling between the two of us is so indifferent", I can see that he is deliberately pretending not to care, but I still can't accept it, because when I talked about him with my best friend It was an indescribable sweet happiness, and he... So, I had my first big "war" with him. He did not argue, but just explained that he did say some hypocritical things to save face, and said: "I am true to you. Can't you feel it in this month? I am true to you. I was true to you before." , now and in the future." I believed it and gave up after having enough trouble. This year, we had two major quarrels. One was over an old relationship, and the other was over differences in opinions about "filial piety."

365 days of trouble in the second year

"Noisy forever" is what he often said to me after a quarrel. He believed that two people would definitely have conflicts when they were together. If they quarreled and then reconciled, it would be fine. Sometimes, the quarrel would only make the relationship more emotional. The better. In the first year in the past, I did have this feeling. Every time I had a quarrel over big or small things, he would mostly let me go first, and I would be frustrated and nagging because he didn't speak. Later, he He tried to reason with me, but in my irrational state, reasoning didn't help at all. Later, he also argued with me. In this way, I couldn't accept it even more, and thought that he was not as good as before to me, while he I think I always make a fuss out of a molehill.

As a result, when the relationship between the two people lasted for nearly a year, the quarrels became more and more frequent, and they always ended in nothing. No matter how small things are, they can make us blush. But a one-year relationship doesn’t mean we can just let it go, and when we don’t quarrel, we have always been the envied “magic couple” in our circle of friends. We are as much in love as a couple who have been together for more than 7 years, so we quarreled. Another year of quarrels passed, and I calculated that in the second year of 365 days, we basically had riots every two to three days. I really don’t understand why we are always noisy when there are no issues of principle? Why do two people who love each other repel each other when they are together?

When a marriage encounters the “one-year itch”

If your marriage has encountered the "one-year itch", then please follow the following four corrections:

1. Stop nagging, instead of saying "Do you still love me?" Repeated a hundred times, it is better to observe with cold eyes.

2. Before you criticize him (her) for his (her) problems, first think about whether this problem occurred after marriage? If not, you can only blame yourself. It is not the first day you met him (her) and the second day. Just get married!

3. "I have paid so much for you" can be used as lyrics, but it cannot be used as your mantra. No matter how much you give, it is only your choice, not a sacrifice.

4. There are always many temptations we face. When you discover that he (she) has cheated, first determine whether he (she) can turn back. If he (she) turns around, can you forgive him? Then make a decisive decision. Intend. If you can forgive, or even turn a blind eye, then don't hold it in your heart and make this a topic of quarrel every day, separated and separated, together and not together, like a dull knife cutting flesh, torturing yourself and the other party.

Regardless of whether the "love preservative" has been successfully developed, and there is no need to verify whether it works, just how long the shelf life of love is is a question worth exploring. Three or five years was nothing, but now, one year or so is commonplace. Compared with this, "seven years" is such a difficult number!

Passion fades, derailments occur, plans diverge, and the "itch" bottom line is like a discount in a shopping mall, with each company getting lower than the next. However, the pain of the marriage itch is that it is just itchy, not painful. It prevents you from making up your mind to cut the knot with a sharp knife. Although the sky is falling apart and the sun and the moon are dim during the turmoil, when it comes to divorce, a tear or a movement can The decision just made can be overturned, and the two people forgive each other and plunge into the next round of "itching".

The marital itch comes again and again, and for most people it is lingering. You can deny it, but you can't deny it. Therefore, instead of introspecting when it is truly irreversible and you need to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau in despair to get another certificate, it is better to face it when you are itchy and find the crux and bottom line of both parties.

Just like Guan Dehui's song "Love also has menopause": Love also has menopause. Let us calm down together and find a way to solve this predicament. Don't reject me thousands of miles away.

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