My girlfriend secretly had breast augmentation and spent all my down payment on buying a house

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We have been in love for more than four years and we are very affectionate. When we were well off, we decided to work hard together and get married when we could raise enough money to buy a new house. I have worked very hard over the years because my family is poor and cannot help me materially. I had two part-time jobs. I worked day and night, so I wanted to get married early and live in the county town with a good reputation. But now, all my plans have come to nothing.

I am now a special post teacher, and I was officially admitted in 2007. After graduating from junior college, I taught in a private middle school as a temporary worker. I fell in love with a female teacher in this school. She was recruited in the same year as me. However, she graduated from a middle school normal school and was three years younger than me. I was 22 years old and she was only 19.

She only worked here for half a year, and she no longer wanted to be a teacher. Later, she went to work in a wedding photography store. She was good at computers and was responsible for processing photos there.

Even though she is not with me, the relationship continues. As time went by, we slowly and deeply fell in love with each other. Besides, I was lucky enough to be admitted as a formal teacher the next year, and she felt that my future was guaranteed. For this reason, she felt inferior to herself for a while, saying that she didn't have the ability to become a full-time employee.

I also encouraged her, but after trying it twice in the past few years, it didn’t work. She said that when she entered the middle school normal school, her score in the high school entrance examination was only 400, and she didn’t study hard in school. She knew how much ink she drank, and she no longer had the confidence to be a teacher. She also said that she liked her current job very much.

Actually, she is pretty good. She has been staying in that store for more than three years. She is considered an old employee and her salary has been raised. From the original 500 yuan, it is now 1200 yuan.

Although I became a regular worker, it was not ideal because I was assigned to a remote rural middle school. The contract was for five years and it was still a two-hour drive from the county seat. In this way, she and I have become the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl, and we can no longer see each other every day. I take three days off every half month before returning to the county seat.

Her home is a small village on the edge of the county seat, and she doesn’t go home very often. She often works overtime at night, and Lu Hei is afraid. She used to live in the dormitory of the store. The year before last, I rented a room in the county town, not far from her store. She usually lived alone. After I came back, we lived as a young couple. Anyway, we had everything at home, including a stove. , oil, salt, soy sauce and vinegar.

Her family is not rich either, and they are ordinary farmers in the village. Since we lived together, she has saved all the money I earned. I only have less than two hundred yuan a month for living expenses and transportation expenses. I am very frugal, I never smoke or drink. By now, my salary has increased to 1,400 yuan, but it was only 1,080 yuan when it was distributed.

In the past three years, more than 40,000 yuan has been dug out from between the teeth. During the winter and summer vacations, I have to go out to do part-time jobs, and I have to do tutoring on my days off. It can be said that I have never had a good day's rest at home. In the past four years, I even went back to my hometown for three to five days during the Chinese New Year.

My girlfriend is almost all my hope, I can say that I am fighting for her. She usually has small hands, and girls like to eat snacks and buy clothes and cosmetics. I agree with her, and she is not a tall girl. He also said that he had saved more than 10,000 yuan. She also showed me the bankbook. We already have more than 50,000. There is almost hope for buying a house.

House prices here are not too high, with an average price of 1,300 yuan. I had the conditions to apply for a mortgage, but I had to have a marriage certificate. She also agreed and said that when we were planning to buy a house, we should register it first, and then hold the banquet and wedding when we had the money. She has long been my wife in my heart, and I have never had any second thoughts about her. The two of us discussed buying an 80-square-meter house with a down payment of 30%. We would use the remaining money to lay the floor first and then decorate it later.

This is planned for May Day and will be decided when the developer offers discounts during Teachers’ Day. But there he knew that she had had breast augmentation surgery, twice, secretly. After spending more than 30,000 yuan, all my plans came to nothing. I don't want to date her anymore and she moved out a month ago.

I left after May Day when school started. After I came back for the first time, she said she had breast augmentation and the wound was basically healed. It's a fake one, filled with a prosthesis. It cost more than 8,000 yuan. Although I felt sorry for money, she said it was just for me.

She has a flat chest, and her breasts are almost non-protruding. I didn't care about this. I once joked that I felt uncomfortable touching her. She knew it was a joke and didn't mind. But he knew that she cared about herself so much. She said that day that she had the lowest self-esteem in summer. In winter, she could wear a bra with some cotton stuffed in it, but she couldn't hide it in summer. She didn't have any femininity at all. When she was editing photos, she saw other people's beautiful breasts and was so jealous that she even fantasized about how she would wear a wedding dress in the future.

She doesn't want to live under the contempt of others for the rest of her life. I didn't say anything. I felt sorry for her when I saw her stabbing me. Later, her chest kept hurting, and I ignored her. But what's fake is fake. Even though it's much taller, it doesn't look natural. I stayed at home for three days and then went to work. But when she came back for the second time, she went to do it again. This time, the prosthesis was removed and my own fat was extracted and injected.

She also said that she was already infected the first time and was not suitable for the surgery. Later, she had it done again, but the surgery fee plus discounts totaled more than 20,000 yuan. What on earth did she want to do? Is she mentally ill? She is so willing.

This time, I was really angry. I broke up with her, and she called me a poor person. She also said a lot about other female colleagues. She said that other people also spend this amount on cosmetics and clothes for a year. She doesn't want to live with me either. I said we would break up if you pay me back, but she deliberately cheated on me.

I can’t explain what it feels like to be here for such a long time. My spiritual support is about to collapse, but she is still there. I secretly saw her outside, but she ignored me. She still had the money on the card and wouldn't give it to me. All parents know about our relationship. I really don't know which path I will take. I am still hesitant. She has indeed changed a bit. I don’t know if it will affect fertility and breastfeeding in the future. And now my marriage has no end in sight. what do I do?

Reply:

It is indeed inappropriate for your girlfriend to secretly go for a breast augmentation. Such a major matter should be discussed with you in advance. But think about it again, if I tell you, would you agree? The only reason she dares to cut off her relationship first is because she knows you too well. After all, you have been together for four years.

I am wondering, in your heart, who is more important, her person or money? This involves an emotional issue and a practical issue.

The goal you always strive for is to have a home in the city. You can only get married after you have a house. It cannot be said that your idea is incorrect, but that it ignores her considerations. Of course, she worked hard with you before, but now that there have been earth-shaking changes, she should have considered the consequences beforehand. It is impossible for her to suddenly make such a big sacrifice in private. She longs for your understanding in her heart.

And for the first time before, you did show a man's generosity and heart. Then she did it a second time, perhaps because of the special nature of the surgery. It is right for women to love beauty, but no one wants to bet on their own bodies. What should we do if there are negative side effects?

I don’t know much about breast augmentation. But there are opinions on women being concerned about breast size. She didn't care about her flat chest before, mainly because the conditions didn't allow it, but it didn't mean that she recognized and accepted herself. That woman doesn't care about her own shortcomings?

Besides, the working environment stimulated her weaknesses to a greater extent. It is natural for women to love beauty. If you can't see or ignore this aspect, it may be that you are too realistic and care too much about money. It is indeed not easy to make some money. But in her mind, beautiful breasts have far outweighed the need to buy a house. She may not want a house, but she cannot lose her definition of femininity.

After the second operation, did you have a good talk with her? I'm afraid you just felt angry at that time. If you communicate with her in a loving way, she will be touched for the rest of her life. Even if she doesn't want a house, she has been poor with you, and is willing to live in a rented house with you. This woman is not too materialistic. Otherwise, she would have parted ways with you long ago. In this world, only men can’t find a partner. Have you ever seen a woman who can’t get married?

You are too hasty about money. Moreover, you are also a little paranoid yourself. Could it be that if you don’t buy a house, you won’t get married? Does it mean that if you live in a rural area, you are inferior to others? You don't need to be too serious about the house, but you should cultivate your relationship well.

If a woman just loves a house and won’t marry if she doesn’t have a house or if she doesn’t have money, then this kind of woman should think about it. But her situation is quite special. I believe that if you relax a little, she will not be so tired. I'm afraid you are too strong. Are you satisfied after buying a house? It is good to have plans and goals. But there is no need to force yourself. What's more, you are the only one working hard in front of you.

Being with a partner is completely different from being married. When you're in love, you work hard alone, plus her at most. But after getting married, it becomes a joint effort between two families. The social relations of your family, and the social relations of her family, as long as you are doing business, it is easy for everyone to join in to solve the problem.

You should take the time to apologize to her. She still loves you, otherwise she would have known the difference long ago. Doesn’t she still have your bankbook? A woman who is the head of the household is happy, provided she is not a prodigal. I think she's okay. If she doesn't save money, what does your little money mean? It’s been wiped out a long time ago, don’t you still have savings? Get along well! Her breast augmentation also puts gold on your face, just understand. Don't be too stingy.

You can still make money if you lose it, but it is difficult for two people to get together if their hearts are separated. Hope is still there. You sincerely admit your mistake, she deserves you. Cherish the relationship of these four years, it is not easy. Good luck.