The issue of youth sex education became a hot topic at the Sex Culture Festival. The survey shows that 76% of the sexual knowledge of male middle school students in Guangzhou comes from various cultural media and only 2.7% comes from school courses. 70% of the sexual knowledge of female middle school students comes from various cultural media and 3.8% comes from school courses. Experts revealed that the current sexual maturity time of boys and girls in our country is 1 to 3 years earlier than 20 years ago. At the same time, our country's sex education is obviously lagging behind.

A girl in sixth grade was chatting with her father on the road: You are the product of your grandparents, and I am the product of you and your mother. Dad deliberately asked her, you were born by your mother, what does it have to do with me? My daughter said, of course it does matter. You need to have sex with my mother first before she can become pregnant with me.

The father was so surprised that he couldn't help but ask his daughter, how did you know? The couple haven't told their children this yet.

My daughter said: What I saw on the Internet...

Currently, the amount of sexual information that teenagers have is far greater than what their parents could have at the same age, and is not even inferior to The current age of parents, because teenagers have more channels for understanding sexual information than parents.

When it comes to sex education, what many parents are most worried about right now is not that their children don’t understand, but that they know too much. You know so much at a young age, but how can you do it? !

"Sexual unemployment period" is prone to accidents

Statistics from the outpatient operating rooms of two large hospitals in Liwan District, Guangzhou City, show that about 40% of outpatient abortions are unmarried, among which 20 years old The following artificial abortions account for 15% of the total number of abortions, and the youngest age is only 13 years old. Female middle school students wearing middle school uniforms for surgery are often seen, and they are often accompanied by male companions or a group of girls who also wear school uniforms.

It is also common for people under the age of 20 to have as many as 3 to 4 abortions. There was once a 22-year-old unmarried woman who, after eight artificial abortions, was hospitalized for emergency surgery due to ectopic pregnancy for the ninth time and almost died.

A boy's first nocturnal emission and a girl's menarche are the beginning of a person's physical maturity. From here to marriage, it may take more than 10 years or more. Zhang Feng, vice chairman of the Chinese Sexology Society and director of the Population and Family Planning Commission of Guangdong Province, calls this period the "sexual unemployment period." How to survive the "sexual unemployment period" smoothly? Sex education during adolescence is the first and most important step.

Adolescents in the Internet era have extremely "rich" sexual knowledge. The consequence is that the age of sexual experience is advanced and sexual crimes are committed at a younger age.

There is this jingle circulating in elementary school: "A thief in the first grade is a thief in the second grade, there are a lot of handsome guys in the third grade, no one chases the beauties in the fourth grade, love letters are flying all over the sky in the fifth grade, and mandarin ducks in the sixth grade "Pairs and pairs." This illustrates an important issue. Teenagers not only need sexual physiology education, but also sexual values ​​​​education - how to interact with the opposite sex in a "responsible" way.

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Zhang Feng said that juvenile sexual crimes are not simply due to what experts call "sexual ignorance". The "sexual ignorance" of teenagers does not refer to ignorance based on sexual biology, but more of sexual ignorance. The lack of personality education and the loss of sexual values.

Zhang Feng talked about a real case that happened in Guangdong: a middle-aged couple watched pornographic discs at home. It was late at night and they turned off the lights and went to sleep without ejecting the disc. I hurried to work again the next morning. In the afternoon, when my 15-year-old son came home from school, he habitually turned on the TV and DVDs. He was stunned when he saw the naked scenes inside!

After a while, their 13-year-old cousin came to their house to play, and the brother and sister watched together.

Then I imitated it...

Then my cousin got pregnant.

In the end, the son ran away from home and the cousin committed suicide by jumping off the building.

It has to be said that it is a great tragedy to have reached this point. Neither the parents nor the children of this family have any preparation for the "sexual unemployment period". The parents are not prepared for the child, and the cousin is not prepared. Cousins, none of them have the sense of responsibility they should have. Sex education is not about teaching "abstinence"

At the second China Health Communication Forum held at Tsinghua University a few days ago, Zhang Feng's views on how to carry out sex education for teenagers were inspiring.

Zhang Feng said that on the issue of sex education for teenagers, the starting point of teachers and parents is mostly to prevent "accidents". This is actually the biggest misunderstanding in adolescent sex education.

Zhang Feng said that my country’s adolescent sex education is anti-paradigm, mostly based on preventing related adverse consequences, such as preventing teenagers from having early intimate interactions with the opposite sex to affect their studies; preventing teenagers from stealing forbidden fruits and Lead to pregnancy, abortion and sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS infection and so on.

If adolescent sex education is only to prevent "accidents", it may become sexual safety education. So, what kind of sex is the safest? There is only one answer, and that is abstinence. In that case, adolescent sex education is equivalent to chastity education. The purpose of sex education is to serve as a "fire extinguisher", which is obviously unrealistic in modern society.

Zhang Feng said that human sexual desire is like the engine of a car. When the engine starts, the car will naturally start running. It's just that before a car is officially put on the road, there must be a test drive stage. From the ignorant feeling for the opposite sex to holding hands and caressing each other, it is equivalent to the learning process of test driving. This process is natural and inevitable.

Since paper cannot contain the fire, should we just let it burn? Many scholars believe that it is better to impart knowledge on contraception to them in order to protect themselves. The problem is that the mentality of teenagers is not very stable and mature. They have a strong ability to imitate and accept new things, and lack the ability to distinguish right from wrong. They are often driven by curiosity to seek sensory stimulation. If this is the case, doesn’t adolescent sex education act as an “accelerant”?

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Therefore, Zhang Feng believes that in adolescent sex education, we must help children establish three "Firewall":

The first "firewall" is to prevent sexual relations with minors, that is, middle school students before the age of 18 should "keep themselves clean". Because they are psychologically, socially, and economically immature, they cannot bear the consequences of sexual relations. The sexual desires and impulses of boys and girls are instinctive physiological phenomena, but in addition to contact with sexual organs, there are other ways to release sexual pressure, such as diverting attention and actively participating in cultural and sports activities in the presence of the opposite sex.

The second "firewall" is emergency contraception. As more and more teenagers "jump over the wall", they should be taught some knowledge about contraception.

The third "firewall" is to terminate pregnancy, telling young people that various contraceptive methods are not completely reliable and what to do if they become pregnant.

In fact, the three "firewalls" organically integrate "chastity education" and "condom education". Sex education should start with babies

Zhang Feng said that a person has "unconscious sexual experience" from the time he is a baby. For example, after a child is born, the child's name, toys, clothing, words and deeds will be required to match the biological gender. consistent. In the UK, 5-year-old children have begun to receive sex education, but in our country, we wait until children "eat the forbidden fruit" before blaming them.

A more serious problem is that some colleges and universities are still "containing" sex education. A university held a coming-of-age ceremony. After the ceremony, the AIDS prevention ambassador distributed condoms to the students, but was stopped and confiscated by the teachers at the scene.

Zhang Feng said that people with a stable life and family life have a strong sense of happiness and are easy to succeed. Marriage based on exclusive love is the social ethics of Western developed countries and one of the reasons for the success of developed countries. Being loyal to one's partner and family is still the absolute mainstream in most countries and regions in the world. Chinese people have too many misunderstandings about "sexual relations" in Western society, and regard "one-night stands" as "world trends". This is obviously a misunderstanding.

Zhang Feng said that for boys and girls in the prime of life, friendship and love are a very important part of life. Contact and interaction with the opposite sex is a lifelong learning process, which is the growth, nourishment and support of life. Interacting with the opposite sex in adolescence is an introductory course for learning the interaction between the sexes, preparation for future marriage and family, and plays a decisive role in their healthy growth. But in addition, more attention should be paid to cultivating and training young people's skills in rejecting bad temptations, weighing the pros and cons and making rational and responsible decisions, etc.

Only by allowing teenagers to fully feel the close relevance and practicality of sex education content and their growth process can they mobilize their enthusiasm for learning and achieve the desired good results of adolescent sex education. Link to how countries around the world talk about "sex" with minors

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Japan: Lectures held in elementary schools

In Japanese elementary schools, there are 1 to 2 students in a year Hours of special lectures on the differences between men's and women's bodies, the principles of menstruation and pregnancy, etc.

The Netherlands: Dinner Table Discussion

The Netherlands has the lowest teen pregnancy rate in Europe. Children begin to receive sex education when they enter primary school at the age of 6. Children can also make their own research reports and even discuss this topic with their parents at the dinner table.

Sweden: Television teaches education

Sweden began to educate children over 7 years old in 1942. The content is to teach pregnancy and childbirth knowledge, and middle schools teach physiology and body function knowledge. , in college, they focused on love, contraception and interpersonal relationships. In 1966, Sweden tried to implement sex education through television, breaking the situation where parents found it difficult to talk about sex.

Finland: Telling stories every day

Since the 1970s, sex education has been included in the syllabus of Finnish primary and secondary schools. Finland has a sex education book called "Our Bodies". Parents can read one lesson every day like "One Thousand and One Nights", and sex education will begin naturally.

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