Forbidden fruit always exudes a seductive aura, attracting the desires of boys and girls. Sexual excitement is an inner force that leads to the goal of the opposite sex and is a normal sexual psychology phenomenon. After a man enters puberty, sex hormones are continuously secreted in the body, and various psychological functions undergo gradual changes, causing the reproductive organs and their functions to mature rapidly. So what can kill a man’s sex drive before marriage.

Men’s sexual urges before marriage are very harmful

Premarital sex is a deviant behavior that goes against social morality during the love stage, and it is very harmful to the development of love.

1. Premarital sex is illegal

In our country, sexual life is the legal right of husband and wife and an important part of married life. It must be protected by law and cannot happen casually between any man and woman.

2. Premarital sex can easily cause frustration

There are two outcomes of love. One is that lovers eventually get married, and the other is that they part ways without fate. If there is a sexual relationship, once one party likes the new and hates the old, looks for a new love, or breaks up due to some other reasons, it will cause serious setbacks and blows to the other party. For women, it causes greater pain.

3. Premarital sex will cause psychological disorders for both parties

The parties often have sexual intercourse under tension and pressure. In addition, in most cases, men lack the necessary sexual knowledge, so it is difficult to talk about a happy and harmonious sexual life. Not only can it lead to a decrease in the fun of sexual life on the wedding night, but it can also cause some women to have abnormal views on sexual life, such as thinking that sexual life is painful, unclean, and unhappy, which leads to boredom, hatred, and fear of sexual life. , causing sexual frigidity and affecting normal sexual life after marriage. If pregnancy occurs accidentally, both parties will be put into an embarrassing situation. Although early abortion is safe, it will cause physical and mental pain and loss to women, and some dangerous complications may also occur.

4. Premarital sex may cause misfortune in married life

Some men have sex with women without registering their marriage, thinking that they will be husband and wife in the future anyway. But afterwards, the women's shortcomings were gradually exposed, and the men felt dissatisfied, but "the raw rice became cooked rice" and it was too late to regret, so they had to forcefully get married. Similarly, some women succumb rashly to men's sweet talk. Over time, although they feel that the other person is not ideal, for the sake of reputation, they have to compromise and reluctantly marry. This kind of marriage that lacks a foundation cannot be said to be happy.

How should men adjust their sexual impulses before marriage?

First, the mystery of "sex" should be eliminated.

Due to historical reasons, people in our country talk about "sex" in a negative way, and the idea that "sex is pornographic" is deeply rooted in some people's minds. Therefore, young men should read some books that introduce sexual knowledge to enhance their ability to restrain sexual impulses and reduce the mystery of "sex".

Second, young men should strengthen their will training.

When sexual desire occurs, you should use corresponding methods to remind and hint yourself to relieve sexual impulse. In addition to falling in love with the girl, you can also participate in some useful social activities and entertainment activities with her to distract attention from sex and sublimate love. You must know that true love should be "mutual respect and noble, not just emotional impulse and whim." In passionate love, understand yourself, love each other, give lust a new charm, and use reason to measure the depth of lust. The wider the scope of a person's non-sexual love, the nobler his sexual love.

Third, when getting along with girls, you should appropriately reduce your love words and overly intimate actions.

From a physiological point of view, touching, kissing, and hugging are most likely to arouse men's sexual desire. Therefore, young men must be good at self-restraint. As Shakespeare said: "Love is like charcoal. When it burns, you must try to cool it down. If you let it burn randomly, it will scorch a heart." Because sexual behavior involves responsibility for oneself, It also means being responsible for others and having an impact on society. The degree of will control in passionate love is a measure of the maturity of love.