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"The water in Peach Blossom Pond is a thousand feet deep, and it is not as deep as Wang Lun's love for me." After reading these two lines of poems, you may be surprised. Why are two grown men, Li Bai and Wang Lun, so clingy? Is it a common problem among literati? In fact, it is not the case. The friendship between most men is much deeper than we think. Mr. Jin Yong has written many touching love stories between men and women, "asking what love is in the world, and teaching each other life and death", but the friendship between men in his works is even more soul-stirring. For example, the story between the Wudang heroes in "The Legend of Heaven and the Dragon Slayer" and the story between Hu Yidao and Miao Renfeng in "Snow Mountain Flying Fox" - these are both long-lasting stories between men. You must have read martial arts novels or Jin Yong TV series. Both men and women understand.

In real life, men can never forget the gang of bad friends they had when they were singles. They would get together every once in a while, and the woman who stayed alone in the vacant room would complain, and the man would naturally have no regrets. Angry, blame women for not understanding the friendship between men.

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In fact, almost every woman hopes to be the most important person in a man's mind, but this may only be a good wish. From a psychological perspective, being with a man has extraordinary significance for men: First, men are more socially competitive than women, and they need to gain recognition of their gender from other men. The second is that men release their aggression and maintain their masculine characteristics during recreational interactions with members of the same sex. Third, men gain mental growth through competition with men.

The reason why men need men is because there are times when men’s hearts are barren. Even if a woman is the flower that grows in a man’s heart and can bloom bigger and bigger, no matter how big it blooms, there is still an empty place in a man’s heart that needs to be decorated with trees, weeds and even rocks. This is why a man’s friends, They may be inelegant, incompetent, or have bad habits, but that doesn't prevent them from becoming friends.

Men need friendship between men like fish need water. Many men are willing to devote time and energy to their friends, including suffering some grievances. But a man who chooses friends unkindly is like choosing trees in the wilderness unkindly. Women should understand men's needs and give him some space for interactions with the same sex, but they should also limit the level of their nonsense, so that their husbands will not be so generous to their friends that "a wife is valuable, and wealth is more valuable. If it is for friendship, Both can be thrown away” situation.

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Men throw their heads, blood, time and energy for friendship, which is regarded as a sacrifice for friendship. Honor, this is the friendship between men. Women should understand it, but they should also ask for the same treatment and enjoy the same enthusiasm as men. Reject a man who "accidentally" shows attentiveness to his lover in front of friends and has to cover it up, as if he has done something shameful and bad.

Men like to surround themselves with friends, and do everything possible for their friends, but they should also not forget to massage and squeeze their feet for their loved ones, and show concern for their close loved ones. Don't "forget your friends when you see sex", but you can't "turn to women when you talk about sex" either. Anyway, between friends and lovers, a bowl of water cannot be balanced, so don't tilt it too much.