In real life, most people think that sexual activities between men and women are "men take advantage and women suffer". This is an explanation of the differences between men and women in terms of the consequences of sexual activity. Because women become pregnant and bear the tasks of childbirth and breastfeeding, they have great responsibilities. If you meet an unkind person, you will face tremendous pressure to raise your offspring independently. Therefore, when a woman agrees to have sex with a man, it is considered that the other party is taking advantage and making the man comfortable, while she has more chances to suffer.

But if we look at the actual process of sexual activity, men face far more pressure than women. Men’s pressure includes many aspects:

First, the pressure of pursuit. In the relationship between the sexes, because women bear more responsibilities due to sexual activities, evolution has given women a more picky psychological mechanism for mate selection than men. A woman regards consenting to sexual activities as a reward for men, so she needs men to impress her through words and actions. Whether men are looking for a mate or want to have sex, they will be attentive and please. Related to this, he will pay special attention to the attitude of women, including his wife, towards him, and he is especially worried about whether the other party thinks highly of him and whether his performance will be recognized. Once there is a premonition of being abandoned, it will obviously threaten one's self-confidence. Inferiority is a psychological factor that can significantly affect male erection.

The second is the pressure of erection. For sexual activities, men must have an erection to achieve the fundamental purpose - penetration and ejaculation. Without the ability to achieve an erection, the ultimate goal of male courtship cannot be achieved. Women, on the other hand, can achieve pregnancy by having sexual intercourse with men without excitement or even any interest. Therefore, erection cannot be the biggest worry for men in bed. Once there are signs of this, the inner tension and anxiety cannot be accurately described in ordinary words. But from the perspective of the erection process, negative emotions such as worry, tension, and anxiety happen to be the enemy of erection. The inability to have an erection and its related worries are the biggest psychological problems for men, and they are an absolute privacy that cannot be told to others. Interestingly, erection cannot be achieved through conscious commands, but can only be achieved through sexual stimulation or imagination. Therefore, for people who are worried about ED (erectile dysfunction), their hunch will really come true, because his senses are not focused on the pleasurable feeling of sex, but on the need to have an erection.

The third is the pressure to meet the other party's needs. Most people regard sexual activities as men giving and women receiving. Therefore, whether men have the ability to fully satisfy the desires of their sexual partners and let her reach the top through hard work is a question that men often ask themselves. He instinctively knew that true and complete conquest could only be achieved if she also experienced happiness. Otherwise, the direct consequence of her dissatisfaction will affect her consent to the next sexual activity, and the indirect consequence may be that Hongxing cheats on her.

For Hui Huibai, it is obviously easier, more obvious and stronger to gain virtual acceptance, encouragement and temptation from a lover than from his wife. There is a significant difference in the pressure of pursuit. For Mengmeng, the inability to have an erection caused by temporary fatigue triggered strong worries and led to the prolongation of the problem. The two also share the same pressure, that is, they are unable to satisfy their wife's silent and strong needs, so they are worried about affecting their marriage and family, and they are worried about being despised or even abandoned by their wives. For couples with a good emotional foundation, sexual activities should be carried out in a natural mood without putting pressure on themselves and each other. The best way is to put the problems under the bed before going to bed, or to resolve the conflicts between the couple first before going to bed. Close emotional connection and a relaxed, enjoyable and open mental state of both parties are the right way to relieve men's psychogenic erectile inability and the smooth road to a harmonious sexual life between husband and wife.

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