Many women misunderstand that marriage means marrying a man, but they don’t know that they also need to marry this man’s habits and character, as well as the family behind this man. This misunderstanding has caused us to see many broken marriages in this world.

Marriage has three realms

The first realm: marrying the person you love.

The second realm: marrying the person you love and his (her) habits.

The third level: marrying the person you love, his (her) habits, and his (her) background.

The marriage of couples in the first level is relatively stable.

The marriage of couples in the second realm is relatively stable.

It is rare for couples in the third realm to get divorced.

In this world, those who grow old together basically get married three times in their lives.

The first time was in a hotel, with the congratulations and blessings of relatives and friends, when I married a person I loved.

The second time was at home. After several years of getting along, the two got married according to each other's habits.

The third time was in the family, with the other party’s various family ties.

The second and third marriages are very different from the first. There was no grand wedding, and no relatives or friends came to congratulate. The only thing present was the tacit understanding between the two parties.

Real marriages often happen in the last two times.

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Nowadays, many people get divorced after two or three years of marriage. If you analyze it carefully, you will find that the reason is that they have not pushed their marriage from the first state to the second state.

Everyone knows that boiling water kills bacteria. Passionate love, like boiling water, can also kill the shortcomings and shortcomings of the person involved.

For those perfect prince charmings and lovable girls who are in love, after entering the tepid water of marriage, their shortcomings and deficiencies will come back like bacteria.

At this time, you must enter the second realm of marriage, marry his (her) habits, and accept and tolerate his (her) shortcomings and deficiencies. Otherwise, the marriage will shrink due to the shallow root system.

Those couples who were originally very loving ended up inexplicably divorced a few years later. Nine times out of ten, it is the result of refusing to enter the second realm.

After marriage enters the second realm, few people talk about divorce. Psychologically, they have accepted the flaws in the other person's character. Some even turn the other person's shortcomings into a kind of care for themselves.

The marriage at this time is sweet and warm, and its biggest characteristics are tolerance and complementarity.

However, the warmth of marriage does not mean the stability of marriage. A stable marriage also needs a third sublimation, which is to marry with all kinds of family affection of the other party.

In other words, extend your love for him (her) to his (her) parents, relatives and friends. And in this kind of love, we have a wise understanding of marriage:

Your partner not only belongs to you, he (she) also belongs to his (her) parents and friends, and even to him. (Herself. Once a marriage enters this state, it also enters a state of meditation, and it is very difficult to break up.

In the world of love, many men often misunderstand that marriage means marrying a woman, and ignore the pursuit of the woman herself and the background behind the woman. Many women misunderstand that marriage means marrying a man, but they don't know that they also need to marry this man's habits and character, as well as the family behind this man. This misunderstanding has caused us to see many broken marriages in this world.

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