The reporter's interview found that although the "marriage ban" for college students has been lifted, there are not many college students getting married, but "trial marriages" and "married couples" are common. Reporters

The reporter’s investigation found that some college couples with stable relationships are considering getting married after graduation, and some intimate couples even choose to live together for a trial marriage without considering actual marriage.

Most of those who do not want to get married are male students. Weak financial foundation, fear of taking on responsibilities prematurely, and just wanting to escape reality and taste the pleasure of married life... are all reasons for not wanting to get married.

Living together openly with the blessing of parents

Interview location: South China Normal University

Interviewee: Xiao Chen (pseudonym)

Gender: Female

Age: 22 years old

Third year student

Classmate Xiao Chen is a "female general" who has been in love for many years, but during the summer vacation before entering China Normal University, she felt that she had truly met her "right one." The two began living together soon after falling in love.

Economic conditions are the key

Xiao Chen’s father is a government official and has a large family business. Therefore, Xiao Chen’s life has always been about food and clothing. Living expenses can reach about 8,000 yuan, which does not include mobile phone recharge fees and school fees. Xiao Chen's boyfriend is an employee and has a fixed income of several thousand yuan a month. In addition, the boyfriend's parents each run their own family business. The two of them can be called the "golden" boy and the "jade" girl. . While the stable economy supported Xiao Chen and her boyfriend, the liberal attitude of her boyfriend's parents also opened a "green card" for their cohabitation. Therefore, Xiao Chen has often stayed at her boyfriend's house since her freshman year, leading a sweet life together. Even with such excellent economic conditions, Xiao Chen and her boyfriend occasionally feel that they don't have enough money. Therefore, Xiao Chen always complained to his friends: "Both of us can spend enough money on our own, but I don't know why, but after spending the money together, I feel that it is not enough. I used to buy clothes without even thinking about it, but now I have to look at the food." Eat."

The "quasi-mother-in-law" acts as a lubricant

After the sweet love period, small frictions in life often caused the couple to have quarrels, and even several times. proposed breaking up. Xiao Chen, who was still a student, didn't want to see her boyfriend socializing outside and coming home late at night. But my boyfriend has his own difficulties: he also needs to build his own circle of friends and expand his career. Xiao Chen often waited until midnight for her boyfriend to come back, and the two even had a big fight because of it.

Xiao Chen and her boyfriend are both young and often get into trouble over the little things in life. Once, the two quarreled again because of a disagreement over something. The boyfriend's refusal to give in made Xiao Chen very sad and disappointed. "I decided to leave him at that time and started to pack my luggage." But when Xiao Chen was about to leave, she was shaken by the kind words of her "quasi-mother-in-law". "My future mother-in-law is really kind to me. I don't have to do anything at home. When it's time to eat, she will ask me to come downstairs to prepare the meal. I enjoy it every day, and I have gained a lot of weight. My mother-in-law often asks I am not short of money. If you have any fun or delicious food, you always think of me first." Maybe it was because he was grateful for his future mother-in-law's kindness, or maybe he still couldn't let go of his boyfriend, so Xiao Chen finally forgave her boyfriend. "I finally decided to stay with him. Everyone has their own way of life. Since we choose to be together, we must learn to adapt and accommodate."

Get married after graduation if the conditions are favorable

"We were going to get married! Otherwise, why would we live together?" Xiao Chen was convinced that she and her boyfriend would eventually get married. A friend once warned Xiao Chen to be careful about the relationship deteriorating. Xiao Chen seemed very confident: "If the relationship between two people is not deep and lasting, they will eventually divorce even if they get married. Who can guarantee that the relationship will remain unchanged for a lifetime? No! As long as we are now If you fall in love, I believe that it will bear fruit in the future.”

“My boyfriend and I live together differently from what you think. It’s a trial, but my boyfriend and I are together for the sake of getting married in the future. Now that we are getting used to each other and are familiar with each other, won’t getting married be a matter of course?” Xiao Chen’s boyfriend also said: “We are now focusing a lot of energy on how to take care of ourselves. We share living expenses, and we both want to create better conditions for each other. This feels good. We divided the money into use and investment, and bought some funds. The two of us watched the ups and downs of the fund, and we were very united. "

Xiao Chen believes that her relationship with her boyfriend is stronger than ever, and coupled with the superior conditions of both parties' families, everything is ready for marriage except for the east wind. As soon as you graduate, you can get married immediately.

Living together is preparation for marriage

Interview location: a private house in an urban village near Guangdong Technical Normal University

Interviewee: Xiaokang (pseudonym)

Gender: Male

Age: 23 years old

A technical normal college in Guangzhou

A senior student

Xiao Kang and his classmate Sisi rented a private house of less than 20 square meters in an urban village near the school. The rent is 400 yuan, and the water and electricity bills are paid by yourself. According to Xiaokang, he and his girlfriend have lived here for more than half a year. Take a look at the furnishings in the house: a bed that can accommodate two people, a half-new computer on the table, a half-meter There is a 17-inch color TV, a few plastic stools, a water dispenser, pots and pans and other small items on top of the tall TV cabinet.

Xiao Kang told reporters that he and Sisi are classmates. Sisi is a lively and cheerful cute girl. He has been secretly in love with Sisi since his freshman year, but has never had a chance to confess. Sisi seems to know it too. The two people have been ambiguous about Xiaokang's thoughts. It was not until the whole class went to sing K together after the final exam of the sophomore year that Xiaokang finally confessed his true feelings to Sisi over wine and was accepted by Sisi. This belated love finally became clear.

The reporter asked them if they planned to get married after graduation. Xiaokang immediately said: "We will definitely get married. We have already met our parents and our family members support us. Otherwise, we would not dare to rent out A house to live in. Nowadays, college students can get married, and living together is not a big deal, so after we met with both parents, they didn’t object, so we settled down to live together. We planned to find a partner after graduation. Get married as soon as you are able to work. Now that we live together, we can take better care of Sisi and make plans for future marriage.

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