How do couples maintain attraction?

"Holding hands and growing old together" is the goal that traditional couples most hope to achieve. However, judging from the high divorce rate today, how many couples can really depend on each other? Never give up. Is there any way to maintain attraction between couples? In fact, as long as you master the following three methods, you can build the most harmonious, long-lasting and powerful marriage.

Method 1: Leave some space for your lover

The union of the two sexes is the combination of feelings and life, not the dissolution of personality and personality. The two parties are not each other's shadow, so don't force it. Seek to be inseparable. Otherwise, just as eating non-stop will make people lose their appetite, sticking together will also make people lose interest. The relationship between men and women only has some common points. Both parties can have their own friends and hobbies, and can have more topics.

When we are separated, we have the time to miss each other. Give each other a distance and a space to long for and wait tenderly. Therefore, a proper farewell can increase the freshness between husband and wife. As the saying goes, "A little separation is better than a new marriage." Psychologically speaking, this is due to artificial distance, which makes each other's image in each other's minds ever new and evergreen. A benign effect is formed. In a sense, there is no freedom without distance, and there is no attraction without distance. The separation of time and space often increases the intensity of love.

There are a few people who find it difficult to accept normal interactions between their loved ones and the opposite sex. They are always worried that one day they will be "squeezed out", so they often do stupid things: their lover answers a phone call or comes to the house. A friend of the opposite sex may inquire about the other person in a roundabout way, or look right and left at the incoming guests; there are also people who control the other person's activities by announcing "discipline", including spying on letters, intervening in social interactions, and even stalking and chasing, so that the other person does not have any problem. Free time and space, etc., as a result, it is impossible to win the attraction of the other party. On the contrary, the parties often put themselves in a position of being indifferent.

You can think about it this way, "possession" is so strenuous, so tense, and so heavily guarded, what kind of love is there?

How much love is left in a marriage that relies on care? Love is first of all a voluntary feeling, a strong attraction to the other person, and an endless attachment that cannot be pushed away or cut off. Since you can defeat all your competitors and achieve love success before marriage, why don't you have such grandeur after marriage? Instead, you can only rely on a marriage certificate or suppress the other person's spiritual life to prolong everything you have got?

Method 2: Look for your own appearance and look for those who please you

It is human nature to love beauty, both men and women. Married couples should prevent their pre-marriage emotions and aspirations from being lost in the rigid and repetitive housework and the dullness of getting along day and night. Pay attention to grooming, especially after women get married, they must not regard dedication and sacrifice to the family as their only meaning and obligation in life, and ignore the richer pursuit of life.

Plunging into the kitchen, playing the role of "old lady", becoming wantless, or slovenly, old and dull. Even in middle age, or even after entering old age, due to physiological reasons between men and women, the charm period of men is longer than that of women. At this time, it is more necessary to make subjective efforts and use deeper love and new understanding to find common ground between both parties. Reinvent yourself. No one can always have a red forehead, but "even if there is a loss in innate beauty, artificial beauty can fully compensate for it." Appropriate light makeup and clothing, coupled with dignity, elegance, depth and generosity, still give people a sense of brilliance. Although temperament is said to be born with beauty, it is more about nurture.

Method 3: Have more sense of humor

Only by being considerate can it be possible to promote mutual happiness. Facing the complicated social life, especially the trivial matters such as pots and pans in family life, sometimes we really need more courage to endure difficulties and the ability to control life. Humor in the family can reduce psychological pressure, especially humorous language in married life, which can often arouse emotional waves. Because humor is a symbol of perseverance, calmness, wisdom, and ability, and is a mediator of family conflicts.

The above three methods of maintaining attraction between couples may seem simple and popular, but in fact they reveal the secret of how couples get along: understanding, tolerance and love. It is not easy to do, it is a lesson that requires both husband and wife to learn together.