A careful man will not let go of any opportunity to please a woman, such as Valentine's Day, Women's Day, wedding anniversaries... Seeing that March 8 is coming, men are racking their brains again to think about how to plan a wedding. A unique holiday, is it to wake up in the morning and send sweet words, or to prepare a table of delicious food with your own hands, or to stage a passionate sex? In short, men want their partners to fall into the "tenderness trap" contentedly, and even forget about their own "misdeeds" over the years.

In fact, marriage is a lifelong "feast" that requires a lifetime of energy to care for, rather than just making up for it on a certain holiday. In this regard, American marriage expert Hugh Compel has compiled a list and put forward some useful suggestions on how to keep your married life in the best condition.

Daily maintenance: The harmony of marriage lies in daily lubrication. Doing even small things for the other person from time to time will make the other person feel your love all the time. For example, get up and prepare breakfast a few minutes before the other person gets up; when squeezing out toothpaste, remember to help him/her squeeze it in; use "Thank you" as your mantra. When your wife has prepared a sumptuous dinner, or your husband is busy getting off work, Remember to say this mantra.

Weekly maintenance: The two of them arrange a conversation of no less than 2 hours at least once a week to promote communication with each other. For example, you can go out to eat together, watch a movie or theater together, walk somewhere hand in hand, talk while walking, or do other things that interest both of you.

Monthly maintenance: Give her/him an unexpected surprise and do something different from the past, which can make the other person experience new feelings and make love burst out again. For example, women usually wash the dishes, so men can compete to wash them one day; and if men always cook dinner, women can take time out of the day to show off their skills.

A temporary separation will make the other person miss you even more. You can find a weekend in a month to meet and chat with good friends, and ask your wife to visit her parents, family or close friends. Maybe she will make a surprising discovery when she returns home at night.

Annual overhaul: You must have done a year-end review at work, but most people have probably never done a year-end review at home. In fact, you can read the past love letters with your wife again to rekindle the fire of love and make the affection stronger; then, write a new love letter to express your love frankly and boldly, and propose your future romantic plans. Then send it – even if you live together.

Respect each other: For the reserved Chinese, face is very important, especially in front of others. Therefore, never criticize your partner in front of outsiders, even if he/she said something inappropriate. Also, listen carefully to what the other person has to say about everything, even if it’s just going to the supermarket to buy a plate. Especially on the issue of children's education, both parties should try to maintain consistent opinions.

Appreciate each other: Appreciate the other person, including his/her flaws. Don't try to let marriage or your own love change the other person. Only by learning to accept and appreciate can the relationship become more harmonious.

Clear up the past grudges: The saying "Today's work ends today" can not only be used in study and work, but is also a great way to resolve family conflicts. Once a conflict arises in the lives of two people, try to resolve it as soon as possible, otherwise the rift will easily deepen.

Don’t let the pressure of life overwhelm sex

Compared with big cities, residents in small and medium-sized cities have significantly less pressure on work and life.

This situation also appeared during Japan’s economic development period.

Due to high work pressure, many couples choose "sexless marriages". But Zhang Bin believes that harmonious sex should be a "release station" for stress. Regular sex life can help people reduce stress and relieve anxiety.

Studies have found that during orgasm, the body's adrenaline secretion will increase, muscles will tighten and relax, and then the whole body will relax, greatly reducing anxiety, stress and other negative emotions, allowing the immune system to perform its best function.

At present, there are many middle-aged couples who feel that as their energy decreases and their work and life are busy, the pressure "presses" their sex.

In fact, middle-aged couples should understand that busyness and fatigue at work are external factors. The key to maintaining a harmonious sex life is how to arrange time reasonably, how to change the way of expressing feelings, and think more about the physical strength and posture of sex. If you are really too tired, you might as well take a good nap first and wait until your physical strength recovers before having sex. Moreover, the bodies of middle-aged people have undergone unstoppable changes. Most of them are fatter and their legs and feet are not as flexible as those of young people. Their joints have become stiff and their movements have become clumsy and slow. Therefore, you should pay attention to using some ready-made products. Appliances, such as bedside, chair backs, sofa armrests, etc., reduce physical exertion and make sex more comfortable.

Emotional communication is an important part of sexual harmony, and its role is no less important than touching and hugging. Middle-aged people should talk more time before sex, use words to express thoughtfulness, and use this time to fully caress, which will naturally lay a solid foundation for a good sex life.

In addition, in the face of pressure, couples should also pay attention to the maintenance and upkeep of sexual ability. They can do appropriate exercises in daily life that can improve sexual ability, such as swimming, levating the anus, etc. You can also eat some foods that can enhance sexual performance, such as smoked seafood.

Sex art that women on the pillow make good use of

Life is what it is, even the most loving partners can get into arguments. In short, there are many times when we go to bed feeling angry. But as we lay there, the curtain of darkness and the familiar smell around us aroused our guilt, and we thought of its many benefits, so we took the initiative to extend our arms as a sign of repair. According to women's common sense, nothing can impress an angry man more than the warmth of his pillow. Applying pillow charm to him is a woman's most effective weapon, isn't it? But in fact, this trick is not effective for all men.

Answer 1: It works, if he loves you very much.

For men, who love the new and hate the old, as long as the flame of love is still burning brightly, the body of their lover is undoubtedly a delicacy that he cannot refuse.

They are so obsessed with reaching the peak of pleasure with you that this need can exceed his interest in anything else. Even after you have a dispute, he will regret that he was not calm enough, just because the cold war between you may delay the time for him to have sex with you next time! Therefore, when you send a signal with your body, he will naturally want it. Of course, this is only part of it. If he loves you very much, he doesn’t want you to ignore each other, and he will also feel sorry for your unhappiness. Reconciling in this way is not only in line with his biological instinct, but also can It is undoubtedly the first choice to make up for the rift in each other's hearts.

Answer 2: Effective, if he just insists and refuses to apologize

Men's omnipresent self-esteem makes it difficult for them to accept women's excessive words or actions when they are excited. At this time, they will become reckless and angry. Men who have done something wrong are never willing to admit it to the other party easily. They defend their dignity as if they are standing firm. Even if they know that a word of "I'm sorry" can make the woman soft as before, they will rather show off their courage than bend. , just to maintain their high image in the relationship between the two parties. Now you understand, isn’t a man just a child? As a woman who is more resilient than the other person, making appropriate gestures and using gentle body language to move him is far more effective than confronting him head-on. After the atmosphere has calmed down, it is not too late to ask him to accuse him (physical satisfaction and pleasure will make their temper and personality become submissive and gentle). Effective, if he feels aggrieved.

You must understand that just as they are unwilling to admit mistakes easily, they are also unwilling to expose their grievances easily. This is very different from women's expression habits. Women always think that right is right and wrong is wrong. Why is it so troublesome when it comes to men? The fact that you cannot ignore is that a man's strength is hypocritical, but it is what he must maintain, so he never wants to expose his incompetence and cowardice.

If they feel wronged, it is difficult to open his heart through verbal communication. Gentle hugs and touches will make him moved. Of course, you don't need to despise this disguise. Men need to build absolute confidence to cope with relatively greater pressure. This method is tantamount to self-hypnosis.

Answer 3: Effective, if the contradictions do not accumulate over time

When a wound is repeatedly torn, it becomes increasingly difficult to heal. On the other hand, if you feel at a loss when facing some occasional frictions, this solution is also beneficial. Remember that this cure won’t last forever; you must get to the root of the problem and fix it. If you always rely on folk remedies, the real crux of the problem will still not be alleviated, and it will reoccur irregularly, which is a contradiction that accumulates over time.

Summary: It is natural for men to be lustful, and this is also one of their biggest weaknesses. If we don't make good use of it, wouldn't it be a waste of resources?

Answer 4: Invalid, if he has experienced hundreds of battles

If he has had countless girlfriends and he knows the mentality of women very well, then if you conquer him in this way, it is like beating a dog with a meat bun - the bun is eaten by it, but it still won't go away; Or give him a sugar-coated cannonball, he eats the sugarcoat, and throws the cannonball back. In short, for this kind of man, unless you are smarter and more experienced than him, you will be invulnerable to all his tricks.

Answer 5: Invalid, if you ask him to do something he cannot do or is unwilling to do

Men generally don't use sex as a commodity or exchange, but they are willing to exchange commodities or money for a woman they deem worthy. If a man is willing to do something important for you, it's best to do it voluntarily. They don't like to do things passively, and they don't like to be coerced into doing things. Therefore, "sexually forcing each other" does not work in theory. If you put it into practice, he will feel a little humiliated or cheated, and you'd better find another way.

Answer 6: Invalid, if he no longer loves you (but out of instinct, he will not refuse to have sex with you)

Maybe he still accepts you and makes love to you, but you no longer feel the passion and tenderness inside. Yes, even if he no longer loves you, he may still respect your body's wishes or have sex with you to express gratitude or guilt.

But since love is no longer there, no matter what kind of conflict it is, it doesn't matter whether it is resolved or not.

Answer 7: Ineffective, if you use this trick every time

Please come up with something new, or he'll think you're a sex nut. Of course, a man does not mind that his partner has more needs in bed, but if he takes this approach every time he encounters a conflict, as mentioned above, the actual problem will not be solved, and more seriously, he will misunderstand Thinking that you are very dependent on him in this regard, you will indulge in your behavior even more. Whether you are dependent on him or not, sex must be a beautiful and harmonious thing, not some kind of equivalent exchange.

Answer 8: Invalid, if he only wants to satisfy his physical desires with you

If you are unfortunate enough to meet such a ruthless man, I advise you to make plans early. They like to hunt for flowers and willows, and hunt for countless beauties. What they are interested in is the sense of accomplishment in conquering women and how to vent their endless desires. Maybe their words are funny, maybe they are personable, but you just can't find that kind of warm love from them. He will not reject your body, but he will reject your spiritual communication.

Summary: Sex and love are inseparable, especially for women. No matter what the situation is, sex that is too purposeful will have some hidden dangers. Therefore, to maintain the relationship between two people, going to bed may be a catalyst, but it must be an auxiliary means. You must have more art of love.