Psychological research shows that real liars are more likely to be suspicious of others, and honest people always trust others more. Just like a wife who likes to question her husband after cheating, in fact, it is precisely because she has feelings of lying, moral pressure, and has deceived the other person that she feels that there may be secrets hidden behind the other person's normal behavior. And people with a clear conscience often let others go. Obviously, this kind of "excusing oneself and others" behavior after lying will have a serious impact on one's own emotions and the relationship between husband and wife.

The true experience of a lying couple

The man called home: "My boss wants me to accompany him on a trip to Canada, which will take about a week. This is a good opportunity for me to get promoted. Please prepare a week's worth of clothes and fishing tools for me. I will leave from the office soon. I brought something with me when I passed by my house. Oh, I almost forgot, bring me the blue pajamas too.”

The next week, the wife warmly welcomed her husband back.

The husband showed off and said: "Look what I caught? Salmon, salmon, and a few cute goldfish..." Then the husband scolded: "Why don't you give me my blue pajamas?" Bring it? ”

The wife said slowly: "I didn't forget it! I put it in your fishing tackle box."

The wife murmured in her heart: Why did the husband lie? Didn't he accompany his boss to Canada? So what did he do this week?

From then on, the man discovered that his wife always looked at him strangely, lacking the warmth and intimacy of the past, as if there was always a layer between her. Does she have any secrets that she is hiding from me?

Comments:

Research by marriage experts has found that lies are very destructive to marriages, and good liars are more likely to suspect others of lying.

An intimate attachment relationship must be based on sincerity and trust, just like a bank. An overdraft of trust will only lead to a loss of personal credibility, and everything you say will sound like lying. Even white lies can damage a relationship.

Generally speaking, lying has two fundamental purposes, one is to gain benefits from it, and the other is to avoid punishment. Many men lie to their wives just to reduce conflicts, avoid quarrels, and maintain harmony.

However, can lies really calm things down, avoid quarrels, and smooth marriages? the answer is negative. Because lying consistently, even if it's all done with good intentions, can damage a relationship and even break up a marriage. White lies are only slightly subjectively malicious, but they destroy trust in the same way as malicious lies, and there is no difference in essence.

Although telling the truth may lead to incomprehension and criticism, lying may lead to more losses. Because once a lie is exposed, credibility will be reduced, intimacy will be alienated, and the other party's IQ will be fooled. Lies can sometimes be like dominoes. If you tell too many lies, you will fall into a vicious cycle that you cannot extricate yourself from. Once you tell the first lie, you will have to tell the second and Nth lie to maintain the original one. The liar will become more and more The more guilty and impatient you are, the more likely you are to be exposed.

What lies do women tell before going to bed?

In the past, most women did not say "I love you" as much as men did, because they preferred this sentence to come from men's mouths. If they really say it, most of them are sincere, because they don't express such private feelings easily, and they just mean it when they say it. But when there are more and more sad men in this society, the degree of emotional instability between men and women is comparable.

"I love you", women love to hear it, and men also love to hear it. Little do they know that many men go to all walks of life for their girlfriends just to hear their beloved woman say these words to him. Therefore, many women will use this sentence as a tool to threaten their boyfriends to obey her orders. A big diamond ring is exchanged for the words "I love you", and one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer. But there are worse situations than using this sentence to satisfy material vanity, that is, when the relationship changes and the man is suspicious, the woman will use this sentence to coax her boyfriend like a child.

Times are changing, and it’s not just men who are in two different situations emotionally, but women too. A friend's girlfriend initially complained to her boyfriend that the company's supervisor was rude to her. The friend was so angry that he almost rushed to his girlfriend's company. Fortunately, he was stopped. A friend asked his girlfriend to resign, but she also said that it was hard to find a good job, so she could just tolerate it and avoid the supervisor.

Over time, this complaint was replaced by "I blamed him wrongly" or "He is really capable." My friend thought the situation was strange and asked directly what the girlfriend and the supervisor were doing. She said: "We are just friends." Then she did not forget to add: "I still love you." But in the end the woman changed her mind. No one likes to be deceived in this situation and made to feel like a monkey being played.

Help men! How to know if your wife is lying

A former FBI agent can solve this problem. Let’s take a look at how they identify each other!

1. If she pouts her lips

If she purses her lips into a tube when answering your question, as if she wants to kiss you, don't get too happy at this time. In fact, she is very nervous about your question. That’s exactly what it means to be uncomfortable being asked. Don't change the subject, maybe the truth is only one step away from you.

2. If she wrinkles her nose

Imagine if a plate of spoiled food was placed in front of you. You cringe involuntarily. When she feels uncomfortable answering your questions, she'll react the same way (albeit briefly).

3． If she shrugs

The FBI calls it the Turtle Effect. When being questioned, if he pulls his head back into his shoulders like a turtle shell, it means he has something to hide.

4. If she rubs her eyes

Your questions are not enough to get the girl to tell you the truth, and she will avoid your eyes without knowing it. This is an instinct, even for blind people.

5. If she clears her throat before speaking

If she hesitates when speaking and doesn't know what to say, or her tone of voice suddenly changes, she will feel as if there is something in her throat and must clear her throat before answering your question.