Love is like a roller coaster - there are highs and lows. Here we tell you how to survive and enjoy the ups and downs of love. People always like to compare love to a straight line - starting from point A (falling in love), then quickly entering point B (the era of happy cohabitation), and finally reaching the end point C (living happily ever after).

In fact, the journey of love is not smooth sailing, and anything can lead to the breakdown of the relationship. Whenever your passion is gone, or you can't tolerate your boyfriend's shortcomings, you will feel that he is useless - at this time, you will think of the word "break up".

Stage 1: The Peak of Perfection

Love Symptoms: When you first fall in love, it’s like flying to a utopian planet - a completely different world: he said His jokes are always so funny, every dinner we have with him is delicious, and the days with him are so happy. You are always distracted and you are willing to devote yourself wholeheartedly. You may think this feeling is incredible, but in fact, scientists explain it like this: hormones, hormones, hormones.

When you truly fall in love with someone, you feel swoon-worthy. This is because your body produces a hormone. During the first 3 to 6 months of your relationship with him, you will be extremely excited every time you see him, and you will not care about his shortcomings. Anthropologist's survey shows that 80% of women will remember every little thing their boyfriend did or said during the period of love, while 90% of them often have wild imaginations.

How to spend it: Have fun! This may exhaust you, may neglect your friends, and may also affect your work, but since the opportunity is in front of you, don't think too much about it.

Analysis and advice: Although passion will gradually fade, it is still possible for you to continue it. Recalling the scene when you first met will still make your heart surge, or imagine how other women would evaluate him? What would they be attracted to about him? "Look at him from the perspective of a stranger, and you will remember how he moved you, thus arousing passion."

Phase 2: Facing Conflict

Love symptoms: After 3 to 6 months of passionate love, love will inevitably become dull. From a psychological point of view, this is because your burden is too heavy and your brain cannot adapt due to long-term overexcitation. At this time, you will think of all the bad things about him, you will no longer write his name on the cake, and you will suddenly find that you are more willing to sleep alone.

How to get through it: Don’t think too much! Rush over! After you're smitten, you'll definitely start to wonder if he's really the one for you. This stage is inevitable, and only by getting through this stage can you maintain a long-term relationship with him. When encountering setbacks, don't be discouraged, but regard it as an opportunity to jump out of misunderstandings. After a few months of fanaticism, he and you slowly calm down but he is still very attracted to you. You will no longer just cuddle and linger together. You will find that you both admire the Beatles and hate watching TV series... You have Lots in common!

So it seems that reduced interest is not a bad thing, but will make the relationship between two people closer. Get into his life so you can get to know him better. Don't always live in a world of two, introduce him to your friends, go out to eat and drink with him, and meet both parents.

Or take him to your office like 25-year-old Bingbing, "Achao and I have been dating for 5 months. After falling in love, I began to doubt whether he is really suitable for me," she said Recalls, "One day he asked me out to lunch, and he met all my colleagues, and I saw a new side of him - I had never found him so confident and charming."

Analysis and advice: If you still cannot tolerate his shortcomings after getting to know him more deeply, you should reflect on yourself before criticizing him. If there are some external factors, such as too much work pressure or too many other worries, you will lose patience with him - besides, you should also try to love his shortcomings, right?

Stage 3: Happy and happy

Love symptoms: After six months to one year in the relationship, you will find that you have entered a very peaceful period. Gradually,

You will no longer be troubled by his imperfection, because you are not perfect either, and he does not love you any less because of this. Let him see you in your pajamas and spend the night with him - you may have thought this was silly before, but now that you think about it, it's actually quite cute.

How to get through it: When you feel happy and comfortable, and very satisfied with your relationship, don't let up in the slightest. You may take it for granted that even if you don't spend time with him often or show affection to him, it won't affect your relationship. In fact, if you don't make the most of this happy time with him, it could very well ruin your relationship.

Analysis and advice: When he is sick, your careful care will ease his pain; spend a romantic night with him in the rain; when he is unsatisfactory at work, nothing is lighter than your care. A light kiss made him feel even more relieved.

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Stage 4: Boredom occurs

Love symptoms: You have established a solid relationship and you no longer have any interest in your relationship. Doubtful, at this point you may be thinking that you will never regain your old passion.

How to get through it: The reason for boredom is that you and he have built a wall between you and the outside world. You no longer attend friends' gatherings, you give up your hobbies, and you just stay with him all day long. When you isolate yourself, you lose your enthusiasm. This is not your relationship problem, but your own problem.

Analysis and advice: You can change your indifference through things other than love. Ms. Lan, a 30-year-old public relations manager, said: "After one and a half years of dating, he and I both knew that our relationship was already very strong, but I began to feel that we were a bit like an old married couple, so we decided to Arrange some time. He often attends football games again; and I work as a special reporter for a newspaper. We don't have any disagreements about the lack of time together. We feel very happy when we lie in bed every night. There are many more topics. ”

Stage 5: New Summit

Love symptoms: When you have been dating for more than 2 years, you will feel that there is no longer any barrier between you. After going through the setbacks together, you will

know what love is - after reaching the trough, it will always surface until it climbs to another peak.

How to get through it: Being overconfident can also lead to trouble. In order to prevent the love you have worked so hard to build from being ruined, you have made many choices, but it is inevitable that you will lose your way. Of course, getting married is the general direction, but you can also talk about small goals such as raising pets, saving money to travel abroad, etc.

“When I first met him, we talked about our ideals. We both hoped to work abroad one day,” said 27-year-old Susu. “After a few years, we felt that we should realize this wish. We all said hello to the boss and started to pay attention to the information about subletting the house. We even studied which country is more suitable to live in. We are very excited after having this plan and we will work together towards this goal. . ”

Analysis and advice: Please remember that no matter how good a relationship is, it must go through these stages. The good news is that every time you go through it again, your relationship becomes closer. After these ups and downs, you will find that you have reached a new peak, even better than when you first fell in love.

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