The phenomenon of unmarried cohabitation is spreading silently in society. Although unmarried cohabitation is absolutely personal privacy and cannot be questioned by others. However, I still want to give some advice to women who are trying to get married, especially young women.

Psychologists tell us that many men in love want to "possess" each other, while the vast majority of women hope to be completely "integrated" with each other. After a woman falls in love, she is fully invested in her feelings, but some men are not. Once the goal is achieved, his enthusiasm will decrease significantly. If enthusiasm wanes, then the desire to marry, which was not strong in the first place, will have even less ground.

Cohabitation affects men and women very differently. A study of 2,150 men in the United States showed that only one-third of the men who had cohabited with a woman later married that woman. In other words, two-thirds of cohabiting relationships do not lead to marriage. An American researcher compiled studies on cohabitation across the United States and found that only 9 percent of people have serious plans to get married. They also found that the average length of a cohabiting relationship was only nine and a half months. What about the two-thirds of women who cohabitate but never marry? ---The experience of living with a man is engraved in my heart and body like annual rings. It is difficult to get out of it quickly and get rid of its influence. It is very difficult to start everything again. This study by American experts also confirms this: 20% of women under the age of 25 believe that cohabitation has all the benefits of marriage, but only 4% of women over the age of 40 believe that cohabitation can replace marriage. Researchers say this is a conclusion they draw from painful life experiences.

If you regard cohabitation as a trial marriage stage, test whether the other party is suitable for marriage. The effect may not be good. Because both parties clearly knew that it was an experiment. They know that both parties can withdraw at any time. They are unlikely to have to face the various conflicts in marriage like real married couples. For example, "his" and "her" money are often strictly separated or "left on one hand" instead of working together to help each other. , work together to save money for buying a house and having children, and will not argue endlessly about major family economic policies and finally reach an agreement. This is an important reason why cohabitation cannot replace marriage, because both parties do not bear the obligation to solve the problem. But cohabitants do not face such problems. Especially women are afraid of losing each other. Therefore, they usually avoid conflicts. One day, they have held too many things in their hearts and suppressed them for too long, and they will completely break up. Faced with the request to live together, many women who hope to marry "him" often sincerely and naively think: If we are always on guard against each other, if neither of us takes a step forward, how can we get close to our goal? So, they lived together against their own wishes to get married, and they did not dare to insist on their desire to keep the child in their belly to "him", so they carved out a piece of land for "his" business without asking for a piece of land for themselves. A little share or commission... When the word "protecting women's rights and interests" is mentioned, many modern women sneer at it, thinking that the new generation of women has long since escaped the dilemma of being illiterate and "marrying a chicken and following the chicken". They are no longer weak, so why should they be protected? And once you find that you have given your rights and interests to a villain and it is irreversible, it will be too late to regret it.

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