“I can go to the hall, I can go to the kitchen, I can write code, I can detect abnormalities, I can kill Trojan horses, I can climb over walls, I can afford a good car, I can afford a new house, I can fight with my mistress, Beat the gangsters."

Recently, a joke about the "Ten Virtues" of women in the new century has been widely circulated on the Internet, attracting many netizens. Among them, the phrase "can beat the mistress" is the most popular. Whether it is teasing or funny, from the most traditional "Three Obediences and Four Virtues" to today's "Ten Virtues" for new women, the distinct history of changes in Chinese women's "behavioral standards" actually reflects a long history of survival and evolution of Chinese women. In this history, in the final analysis, it is difficult to be a human being, and it is even more difficult to be a woman.

From the "three obediences" to the "ten virtues", it is not easy for women to step by step

Baidu Encyclopedia explains the "three obediences and four virtues" as follows: The three obediences refer to obeying the father before marrying, obeying the husband after marrying, and obeying the son after the death of the husband. , the four virtues are women's virtue, women's words, women's appearance, and women's merits. This "code of conduct" that has imprisoned Chinese women for thousands of years, to put it bluntly, requires women to unconditionally obey men, and at the same time, they must be good-looking, virtuous, able to speak, and know how to run a household. In short, women must exist dependent on men and families. As emotional expert and CEO of Century Jiayuan Gong Haiyan said: "The basis for the existence of the three obediences and the four virtues is the patriarchal family. Under this foundation, the family has become the entire scope of survival for generations of Chinese women."

At the end of the last century, " "Able to work in the hall and in the kitchen" has become a highly sought-after "code of conduct" for new women. "The widespread circulation of this paragraph reflects the new social development trend of women stepping out of the family, taking on social work, becoming increasingly equal with men, and sharing the outside world." Emotional expert Gong Haiyan analyzed this. However, in addition to facing all the good and bad things in the outside world like men, women are still required to have one more skill than men, and they still have to "be good in the kitchen" and take care of the family.

Later, with the emergence of "new good men", men who could run a household and cook finally relieved women of some of their burdens, taking an effective step forward on the road to true equality between men and women. . However, the good times did not last long, and a problem that worried women began to emerge: the chaotic situation of "mistresses running rampant and mistresses running rampant", and women once again had to take up the banner of eliminating mistresses and defending the family. The new "Ten Women's Virtues" came into being that make people laugh or cry, but also have to admit that they have some truth. Women can fight against mistresses and gangsters, and the journey towards equality and happiness is endless.

Why should women embarrass women? Eliminate "mistresses" to the end

The emergence of mistresses has complex social, family, interpersonal and psychological reasons, but all reasons and excuses cannot change things. Due to its abnormal nature, the final result of a mistress can only bring about the common pain of three people, especially the two women trapped in it. They are both women. Why do they make each other so difficult and end up in sorrow on both sides? It is better to eliminate it from the source as soon as possible and eliminate the mistress phenomenon to the end.

"Married women should learn to manage and treat marriage well; unmarried women should understand reason and emotion and avoid being mistresses; as men, take responsibility and cherish the family. Only in this way can the phenomenon of mistresses be fundamentally eliminated. It needs to The joint efforts of all parties concerned." Faced with the mistress phenomenon, emotional expert Gong Haiyan hit the nail on the head. She also pointed out the crux of the problem: "Although many people understand these principles, in reality, many people often think of them. Forgot."

“On the Century Jiayuan website, many young couples find their ideal love destination every day and are full of longing for the future.” Gong Haiyan said, “Everyone longs for a lasting and stable love and marriage, but in the process it is necessary to Some correct methods and techniques. On the one hand, the new ten virtues circulating on the Internet show that society has increasingly comprehensive requirements for modern women. On the other hand, being able to win against a mistress actually reminds women to pay more attention to the management skills of marriage and maintain it. The health and freshness of marriage ”

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