You have to be reasonable outside, but home is not a place to be reasonable. In modern society, strong women in the workplace are on their own, but you'd better save yourself once you get home. Men are most afraid of women who are too strong and sharp.

Treat your husband as the most important person in the family

I have heard too many stories about women who succeed in their careers but fail in their marriages. Strong women and highly educated women in society often become obstacles to a good marriage. Career is of course important, but don’t forget that women also have another important role - someone’s wife. Don’t say that you are alone outside, you are an indispensable backbone of the company. Even if your status is supreme, you have to know it. who you are. Maybe everyone has heard the following story, so let us review it again.

It is every woman's responsibility to understand her family role, maintain her husband's dignity and keep her husband's heart. Women who have successful careers and significantly improved social status should especially cherish women's unique nature and be good at helping their husbands reduce or eliminate unnecessary psychological distress. Realize from the bottom of your heart that your success today is inseparable from the direct or indirect support and help of your husband. You must not take credit and be arrogant in front of your husband; even if your husband has some irrational words and deeds due to inner troubles, you should put yourself in his shoes and tell your heart. You should comfort, persuade and explain to your husband in every possible way, and try your best to make your husband believe that although you have a successful career, your role and status in family life and the relationship between husband and wife are still the same as before. The only difference is that you love and love your husband more. grateful!

She often confesses her inner difficulties and troubles to her husband, talks about all the pressures, hardships and embarrassments she encounters outside, and asks her husband to make suggestions and solve problems for her. Doing so can shorten the gap between husband and wife and shorten the psychological distance, thereby continuously enhancing the husband's sense of self-worth and reducing his psychological pressure.

Women are women after all, and success alone will not bring us real happiness. Only with a happy family and a loving husband can we find a sense of belonging in life. It is not difficult to get all this, the key is to let your husband know your attachment to him.

Please don’t overstep your authority when it comes to men’s matters

Nowadays, there are many capable women. They give orders and take charge of themselves at work. They are also in trouble at home and take charge of all matters, no matter how big or small. But husbands may not appreciate this kind of dedication. So the woman felt aggrieved: I gave my whole heart for this family, why does he still have so many opinions?

In married life, it is not enough to have a good character of hard work and no complaints. Men have different personalities, temperaments, and accomplishments. For women, when you choose marriage, you must at least have an understanding of your husband and have the mentality and ability to be a wife that meets your husband's requirements. Not all men like and adapt to the life of reaching out for clothes and opening their mouths for food. This will seriously damage their male self-esteem. Marriage is a tango between two people, and you need to think about how to dance it well. If you only dance to the beat of your own drum, you will inevitably get stepped on by the other person.

No matter whether a man looks strong or weak, in his heart he hopes that he can give women the sense of security they crave. He believes that it is natural to protect the woman he loves, and therefore women should also be submissive. Protecting the woman he loves is a bit of a man's vain self-esteem. If a woman shows her desire for a man's love and power, based on this alone, he will be willing to pay for her and will always be immersed in the wonderful feeling of being upright.

Discuss the matter as it stands and accept what cannot be changed

"If you love someone, you must love everything about him, including his shortcomings." Although this statement may seem a bit overbearing, it nevertheless illustrates a truth about love. When a woman chooses a man as her lifelong partner, she and he embark on the same boat. If the two of them get along happily and cooperate with each other, the boat will be smoother and row faster. If it remains lumpy and awkward, the boat will easily run aground, causing embarrassment and harm to everyone involved. No matter how strong a man is, he needs a woman's gentle comfort. A good woman can change a man's entire view of himself and make him more of a great man.

Everyone has something that cannot be changed, which are their "scars", such as your husband's height, appearance, and being born too thin or too fat. These flaws were already there when you got to know him, they were an integral part of who he was. It would be best if you can fall in love with these shortcomings together, then his thinness is chic, his fatness is steady, and even his bald head is a symbol of intelligence. There is no reason to say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you haven't cultivated to this point, accepting it naturally is also a good way. Think about it, everyone is not perfect, including ourselves. It is such a sense of accomplishment for two imperfect people to build a perfect relationship together! It is precisely because he is an ordinary person that he creates a sweet life with ordinary us. If he were a prince, he would have been busy marrying the princess.

We spend our whole lives looking for a lover who suits us and form a stable and warm family. To a certain extent, respecting your husband means respecting yourself. Because respecting him means that you have made a wise and careful choice, that is, you have found a man worthy of your love and respect. On the contrary, if you disrespect him, it means that you have made a stupid choice and found someone who is not worthy of your love and respect.

Don’t expose your husband’s white lies

In a happy marriage, we not only need to be honest with each other and speak our innermost thoughts, but also need some white lies as emotional lubricants at certain times. For women, these lies are to encourage their gloomy husbands and add a bright color to their lives; for men, these lies are to protect their own image and appease their wives.

Men are strong and rational, and every adult male will maintain this feeling consciously or unconsciously. This is another layer of clothing for a man. As a wife, even if you know his details well, there is no need to expose him. Otherwise, an irritated man will defend his dignity with more lies and greater temper.

When a man lies for the sake of family peace, the most appropriate attitude for a wife is to be "confused." Men are almost always in trouble when it comes to concealing or expressing themselves. If a woman recognizes the truth, she can completely refute a man with a little research. But smart women are willing to believe and acquiesce in it. They do not criticize the piles of love promises made by men. Instead, they seriously seek the warmth and happiness of being loved. On the one hand, they pretend to be confused, but on the other hand, they appreciate the sweetness of love. If a wife can grasp the heat of this confusion, she must be the happiest and most intelligent.

Our Chinese character for "marriage", if taken apart, is the character for "女" and the character for " faint", which is very interesting. If women were not dizzy and confused, there might be no love and marriage in this world.