Is it wrong for a woman to take the initiative

When making love, Shui'er hopes to have a "flying" feeling under the guidance of her husband. But every time they have sex, the husband doesn’t know how to caress and play beforehand, nor does he know how to be intimate afterward. In order to change this situation, she decided to take the initiative. One night, she took the initiative to shower with her husband and then took his hand and walked into the closet.

Her husband felt novel and exciting about her initiative at first, but after the passion passed, he became suspicious and kept asking: "Where did you learn these skills? Did you go out to steal sex?" "After that, every time she had sex with her husband, she felt awkward, as if she had done something shameful. Shui'er said aggrievedly: "Is it wrong for me to take the initiative? Why does he always look at me like that?"

Netizen's opinion

Jingxue:

Fangcao:

On our wedding night, my husband said, "You act like a mature woman, you don't feel unfamiliar at all." He also asked me how many times I have been in love. From then on, every time I had sex with him, I tensed up and couldn't show any excitement. Once revealed, he will say: "Did your previous boyfriend teach you this?"

Let the soul travel:

Every time you have sex, your wife always wants to use her own The way she controlled me, I was still very new to her initiative at first. After a while, I felt like I was holding a milk bottle in her mouth. Although there was no milk in the bottle, she still squeezed it hard, which made me feel like an inadequate man. In order to avoid her enthusiasm, I had to pretend to be tired or not go home at all.

Viewpoint: A woman who is too proactive will leave a shadow on him

Men take it for granted that it is natural for a man to take the initiative. If a woman acts too proactively during sex, it will leave a psychological shadow on him.

Some men will have a sense of fear after their wives take the initiative, thinking that their sexual ability is not good, and that their mental illness affects their physical fitness and "sexual interest". If things go on like this, the quality of their sexual life will be reduced.

As long as husband and wife can experience the pleasure and comfort of sex and feel each other's love during sex, why should they care about who takes the initiative and who is more capable? Like two rivers converging together, there is no need to identify which one is the main stream and which one is the tributary.

Who is better after remarriage

Cun Nier and Chu Ge both had a history of marriage.

After remarriage, the two got together for the first time. Chu Ge asked Cun Nier: "Compared with him, who of us is better in bed?"

Looking at Chu Ge With a sour look, Cun Nier didn't know how to answer. Although she also wanted to know how his ex-wife behaved in bed, she was too embarrassed to ask, so she could only crawl into his arms coquettishly when he asked, raised her pink fist and beat him a few times: "You Good or bad!" I thought this matter would not be an obstacle to each other's new life, but he often raised this question after making love, sometimes implicitly, sometimes in an indirect way, and sometimes even directly.

One time Cun Nier couldn't tolerate it anymore and replied angrily: "You are far worse than him." So, they had a cold war for a long time.

Netizen opinions:

Xiangyao:

I have had a similar experience. When we were in love, he told me many times that what I love is your present, not your past. But after we got married, he asked me to wash myself thoroughly every time we had sex. His words revealed his disgust that I was unclean and he didn't want me to have traces of others on my body.

Feiyang:

What I dislike the most is her moaning. Every time she screams, I imagine her in her ex-husband’s arms. Although I hate my ex-wife's rigidity during sex, I don't know why, but I also don't like my current wife's arrogance in bed.

Viewpoint: Asking women to erase traces of their past lives

In their sexual lives, remarried couples worry that their performance will not be as good as that of their previous partner. Women won't say anything in person, but some small actions of their remarried husbands, such as saying that their wives' breasts are small or their underwear is not sexy, cannot escape their sensitive and delicate hearts. However, women's reservedness often allows them to bury these doubts in their hearts. .

Men are different. In order to cover this up, they will use various methods to comfort themselves, such as asking women to erase traces of their past lives. Since love brings both parties together, why worry about the past that has disappeared. It is right to cherish the present and cherish the new life.

Intimate love is just to ask for money from his wife

On the day of his second wedding anniversary, Chen Yi called his wife Chen Jing early and said he wanted to have an intimate relationship with her. On the phone, he said: "Honey, come back soon, I can't wait any longer." As soon as they met, he hugged her to the bed. In his passionate touch and her passionate response, the two quickly became intimate. Halfway through, Chen Yi stopped and said hesitantly: "Honey, there is something I want to discuss with you. Our family..." Before she could finish speaking, Chen Jing asked Chen Jing As soon as he pushed it away, he said in a stern voice: "I asked you why you are so good today, but it turns out you want money again. Tell your dad, our place is not a cash cow." Chen Yi's parents were in the countryside. For Chen Yi's college education and marriage, they Many debts were owed. Sometimes the family is in trouble and the parents are really at their wits end, so they call Chen Yi to ask for money.

Sexual punishment makes her husband suffer from ED

Chen Jing, who has lived in a wealthy family in the city since she was a child, cannot understand the difficulties of Chen Yi’s parents. Every time her parents ask for money, she will quarrel with Chen Yi . I wanted to tell my wife about it in her excitement and get the money happily, but I didn't expect that before I could finish speaking, she kicked him to the sofa in the living room. Chen Yiyi, who was still excited, used cold water to extinguish his passion. Chen Jing has always believed that a woman's sexual punishment is the most powerful weapon, because the right to do something or not lies in her hands.

Therefore, when she became unhappy, she used her "killer" to her husband, either driving him to the sofa in the living room or giving him a back-to-back hug. After some time, Chen Jing found that her husband had become better behaved and no longer mentioned giving money to the family, but he also stopped being intimate with her for a long time.

Even if she took the initiative, he couldn't get an erection. She accompanied her husband to the hospital and found out that her husband suffered from ED due to repeated sexual punishment.

Netizen opinions:

Water Pink:

It turns out that sexual punishment is so terrible! In the past, even if my husband did something that made me unhappy, I would not let him get close to me. Sometimes, I even deliberately put on a three-point pose and stood in front of him to seduce him. I want him to know how hard it is to offend his wife. I will never do this again.

Yulin:

Every time my husband and I have sex after a fight, he will be extra brave. At first I thought this was a sign of reconciliation between him and me, but finally one time he told me the truth: "I can't stand your gesticulation, and it's hard to point it out. I'm worried about triggering the next war, so I have to use this method." I'll punish you." After saying that, he smiled cheekily.

Ruobei:

When my husband and I have conflicts, the most common weapon we use is to prevent him from having sex with me. I guarantee that within two days, he will admit his mistake to me. Once, we had a big fight and he didn't make any request for a month. When I found out, he handed me the divorce papers. It was his bad temper and sexual punishment that broke his heart.

Viewpoint: Love is the mutual commitment of two people

If there are any problems between husband and wife, they can communicate sincerely, understand each other, unify the opinions of both parties, and alleviate conflicts in a timely manner. Don’t rely on “sexual punishment” to solve the problem. If sex is used as a weapon to deter, threaten, or coerce the other party, it will make the punished party depressed and may even cause sexual dysfunction in the punished party.

Love is the mutual commitment of two people, and sex is the highest state of love. If two people in love are in love with each other, the best way is to communicate and let love melt conflicts, so that the best harmony can be achieved.