Is there a relationship between the frequency of sex and the degree of affection?

For girls, paying attention to the frequency of sex with their partners is not only due to physiological sexual needs, but more importantly, it is used to measure the intimate relationship with the other person and the degree of attraction to the other person. The other person’s love for you. Therefore, when the frequency decreases, compared to their physical needs, what makes them more frustrated is that their psychological needs cannot be met - they suspect that the other person no longer loves them as much as before.

But, is this really the case? Is the higher the frequency of sex, the better?

Experts’ words

In fact, this is not the case. The optimal frequency of sexual intercourse is “in sync”. Just like eating, it's not that the spicier the food, the better, or the less spicy the food, the better, but the closer the couple's tastes are, the better.

If the sexual desire between a couple is very compatible and both parties can satisfy each other's needs appropriately, this is the best combination. If one party's demands are too high and the other party feels exhausted and stressed, or if one party's desires are too low and the other party is never satisfied, it is a mismatch.

Only when the frequency of both parties is relatively consistent and the quality of each sexual intercourse is relatively high, will it be most conducive to the growth of the relationship between both parties. People are not the same. The frequency of sexual intercourse is affected by physiology, psychology, environment, pressure, time, etc. It is obviously one-sided to blindly only use the frequency of sexual intercourse to measure the relationship between two people.

The frequency of sex only reveals the sexual needs of both parties to a certain extent, but does not indicate a high level of love. From another perspective, if the other person is willing to cooperate with your sexual frequency, it may better reflect his love for you.

In addition, sex is one of the three elements of love (the other two elements are attachment, care and dedication), but sex in love is not as simple as we imagine. It is different from a "one-night stand" sex. Sex between two people in love is not simply to release sexual desire, but more of an expression of high attachment to each other. Just like we were attached to our mothers when we were young, so we always want to be close to our mothers, our attachment to our lovers also leads to our desire to be close to them (of course, this does not mean that our love for our mothers is a kind of "love" between men and women. , it just shows that the need for intimacy with mother and lover comes from high attachment).

So for men and women in love, holding hands, holding arms, hugging, and kissing are all a kind of intimacy, a sign of high attachment to each other, and an expression of love. If a man is willing to have sex with you frequently, but is unwilling to hold your hand, kiss your forehead, or hold you in his arms before you fall asleep, then it is difficult to say how much he loves you.

Therefore, men and women in love should get out of misunderstandings and not blindly use the frequency of sex to measure each other's love. The frequency with which both parties are adaptable and satisfied, as well as the degree of attachment of the other party to oneself, are the key indicators of measuring love.